.. that can help you distinguish a sincere person from a hypocrite

1. Hypocritical people only respect those who have power. Sincere people are respectful to everyone.

2. Hypocritical people criticize others to look better than them. Sincere people admire others and praise them.

3. Hypocritical people gossip all the time. Sincere people share their OWN opinions.

4. Hypocritical people help others when it profits them. Sincere people selflessly perform good deeds.

5. Hypocritical people always sing their own praises. Sincere people arent boastful about their success.

6. Hypocritical people try very hard to impress others. Sincere people make it easy for others to like them.

7. Hypocritical people talk alot and do nothing. Sincere people always keep their promises.

8. Hypocritical people try very hard to get attention. Sincere people dont aspire to be the center of the universe.


http://brightside.me/inspiration-psychology/8-signs-that-can-help-you-distinguish-a-sincere-person-from-a-hypocrite-278860/


disclaimer: I dont think this is an all inclusive list, nor does every item by itself HAVE to mean one is a hypocrite. However, its an interesting list and if more than one or two of the boxes tick off, well ....

It's asking a lot but it might help if you actually thought about what you read.

Look at the title.

That means you either know the person but don't know already if they're a "sincere" person, or a "hypocrite," or it means they're a stranger and you don't really know anything about them and you need something to steer your observations of them.

So based on the title this is an article saying:
"You don't pay attention to the people you know, we are going to provide you a shortcut in how to judge them."
or
"Here's a shortcut on how to judge strangers you don't know based on either:
- no real relationship with them, just quick observations.
- developing a relationship with them possibly solely to be able to judge them.
But either way, you're not smart or discerning enough to think for yourself."


And that's just the title.

Look at the "signs" themselves.
Look at how they're worded on the flash cards.

How is that practically applied? Seeing as they are providing "signs" that are supposed to be an "easy guide."

How do you determine "they" only respect "those" who have power?
Based on that wording, you have to observe and analyze them, you have to follow them around or focus your life on watching everyone they interact with, determine everyones definition of "power," and, "respect," and signs and communication of each.
IOW you either have to stalk them or develop a relationship with them.
Either option kinda makes the exercise moot (which is worse: sincere, hypocrite, stalker, or judgmental relationship development?)


The "signs" as worded indicate observing consistent behavior of someone.
You can either try to apply the "signs" to new observations (stalker, or developing relationship) or you can try to apply it to past observations, knowledge of people you already know.

Does it really help you to do that? Put your friends or the people you have known, observed, interacted with long enough through a test to be able to "judge" them based on an internet meme?
Do you believe you can be unbiased in applying a judgmental test to your friends behavior? Don't you think it would be more important to figure out what is motivating you to do it in the first place and why you would find it interesting?


Not to people who actually think about what they've read.


I wonder if you also understand that each and every "box" or "sign" provided can be "ticked off" much like a zodiac horoscope?

Unless you believe the signs are absolute?
Like:

Does that mean hypocrites are easy to spot? "I'm going to go pee, because I make the best pee's!"
"Always" sing their own praises?
Or do you fill in the blank with your own biased tolerances and decide they "seem" to "always" sing their own praises?

Let's say someone is "sincere," well they aren't boastful about their success....so if they buy a new car after a raise at work to replace their 20 year old POS, no one, not even people that don't know them, would ever believe they were being boastful? It's impossible?

And what happens next?
After someone has "distinguished" a sincere person from a hypocrite?
Is it just mental masturbation? If the only purpose is to be "interesting" and nothing is done with the information, it leads to absolutely no change or influence of anything whatsoever, what's the point?

Or is it meant to "help" to lead to changing something, to behavioral choices?
Isn't this the crap that goes on in the news today?
People finding shortcuts on how to judge people, and it leading to groups of people pushing that quick judgment?
e.g. Kavanaugh?

Good job!

I can tick all those boxes for my co workers, ty for sharing.

disclaimer: I dont think this is an all inclusive list, nor does every item by itself HAVE to mean one is a hypocrite. However, its an interesting list and if more than one or two of the boxes tick off, well ...

there is no topic or opinion that is an ABSOLUTE guarantee, but more information does lead to better INFORMED opinions, based on past experience, which is how judgment/opinion kind of works ... It is not easy, but it is also not hard.

yw

I don't think this list is all inclusive either !

If a person doesn't know another individual, they don't know really if that person is a hypocrite. IMO

I would talk about this a bit differently. I am wary of declaring that a human being IS a hypocrite, as though it's a condition that they can't escape from.

So instead of saying someone IS a hypocrite, I would say instead, that they are behaving or thinking hypocritically about whatever the issue at hand is.

I support this pointing out of defective reasoning, and of the symptoms of deception. I know that a lot of us were actually directly and indirectly taught to BE hypocritical, from the time we were children. It takes actual hard work, to think and behave in a consistently honest and honorable way, especially in a world where there are so many conflicting motivations, all of which are considered to be "positive."

Basic example: loyalty to ones friends and relatives is often lauded. Allegiance to your home country and nation likewise. But there are hierarchies of loyalty, and they are not all compatible. This is where a lot of hypocritical behavior comes from: someone choosing loyalty to the wrong one of their influences. Particularly these days, choosing loyalty to ones political party, over loyalty to the entire nation, or to the principles of democracy and justice. Or choosing loyalty to family members and friends, above loyalty to the principle of the rule of law, or to the best interests of ones local neighborhood.

I completely agree Igor:

So instead of saying someone IS a hypocrite, I would say instead, that they are behaving or thinking hypocritically about whatever the issue at hand is.


I find this is true of just about every judgement that says 'mr/mrs X IS ..." such and such. It is just a limitation of how we use the language. I dont believe any condition of character is unchangeable, though character is probably one of the more difficult things to alter based on its deep conditioning into how we think of who we 'are' (another term that implies we have characteristics we cannot escape or alter)

It is just an interesting list though, not meant to be taken as an ABSOLUTE about anything, but maybe just a 'things to be cautious of'

Yes, Igor. I pretty much agree with you. People behave differently in different situations. So I would rather label the behavior than slap a blanket judgement on someone. Addressing the behavior is also more likely to result in a positive or constructive response, such as a corrective behavior adjustment.

2. Hypocritical people criticize others to look better than them. Sincere people admire others and praise them.


or, it could just be a list of things to 'help',
help: make it easier for (someone) to do something by offering one's services or resources.

Hypocritical people talk alot and do nothing.


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that's a fact ;)

I don't need a list. I've known for years.

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That list of 8 things has nothing to do with what hypocrisy is.

Dead on...someone needs to look up the definition of a hypocrite...This "list" looks more like some mind twisting control jargon spewed by the likes of Mormons or Scientologists LOL

hypocritical: behaving in a way that suggests one has higher standards or more noble beliefs than is the case.

1. Because power has nothing to do with respectability, it may be a sign of hypocritical behavior if your standard of respect only ends up applying when someone has power.

2.Because a critique is meant to be an honest assessment, good or bad, the habit of only criticizing may be a sign of hypocritical behavior if your standard of good things only applies to yourself, but not others doing similar or better.

I wont go down the list, but you get the gist.

Many things that dont APPEAR related, can be. Many things may not be obviously related and so people come up with warning signs to be cautious of. For instance, weight has little to do with mood, directly, BUT weight loss MAY be a sign to watch for depression ... Bad memory has little to do with honesty, but a person giving different stories at different times, MAY be a sign of a liar ... etc. etc.

Well, I somewhat agree with you, but not entirely.

I also (having been raised by someone who majored in math and English, and became an information analyst) didn't think that "hypocrite" was the most accurate word to use with this list.

However, I also recognize that a surprisingly large number of people DO misuse that word, and this list DOES represent the kinds of things I often see people incorrectly attribute to "hypocrisy," or at least, what triggers them to say someone is a hypocrite.

And by the way, I do not think the original author of the list, intended this to be a list of things to note about a person during a first date. It looks to be more of a list of things to notice as they come to a person's attention, and to point out that these characteristics are not positive.

In other words, this kind of list is to try to help people who are midway through a possible long term relationship, and who are feeling "off" a bit, and trying to figure out why.

The main category of people who I think are most commonly referred to (in error) as being hypocrites, are people who really are trying to be sincere and earnest, but who haven't come to know themselves nearly as well as they think they have.

To me, a hypocrite is closer to being a liar. They KNOW that they are behaving in ways that contradict what they push others to do, but excuse that in themselves with some trick.

It seems it would be SO much easier if hypocrites wore "H" buttons on their lapel...

I try not to judge ... but some I just can't help ... and try to understand more then judge ... and if that is what you have in your life ... that really is not a good opinion and hurts your own self esteem of yourself ... just my opinion ... and people who have to do that... have low self esteem them selves ... but there I go judging

I think you have summed me up quite well msharmony :)

Now lets get a hotel room and discuss this further I'll pay.