I would like to open this up for RESPECTABLE conversation. No judgement.

Would you consider being in a relationship where you are the second wife? In a biblical polygamous relationship, you would be an equal wife and best friends with the other wife. Each wife has shared, but equal time with the husband.

There are many reasons why men and women accept and desire this kind of relationship. In our situation...we desire more children,but can only accomplish this by loving and accepting a 2nd lady into our lives.

I invite open, respectable conversation about this topic. Hope to hear back from you.

Blessings,
B.A.R.

no

That legal somewhere?

It's legal if there's not bigamy involved

Sure...it is legal any where. Legally...a man can only marry one by law....but having a spiritual wedding is not breaking any laws.

Ahhh you want a concubine who will bear children.
With no legal status or rights.

Not Social Security based on your earnings.
Not a home with her name on it too.

I am curious what you think the benefit to her might be?

For me most DEFINITELY NOT.

I believe in one man and one woman only. While I know some may have what they feel are practical reasoning for such practices it is not something I would even consider.

Just my two cents.

If anything it should be the woman who gets multiple husbands... simply because men like to take naps

Kidding! To each his/her own... this arrangement wouldn't work for me. I'm strictly "one man, one woman", kind of woman.

I agree with soufie, and my question would be the same. How does this benefit the one who has no legal rights? And what happens to her when you tire of her and send her on her way?

Indeed woman who should have a couple of hubbies instead of the other way round. Men cannot keep up with several women, a woman can keep up with a few men. Like River said, they need a 'nap', break time, lol.

Part of me feels like if people want this and all really truly are happy with it, no skin of my nose. Who am I to judge?

But... I do NOT like women to be regarded as second-rate citizens, not again, we're just started to get away from that, and I CERTAINLY do NOT condone of women being used as breeding machines.

Apart from that, we don't need MORE children. There's plenty of people on the planet as it is. A normal amount of children is perfectly okay, but beginning a breeding farm, no way.

If polyamory is based on so called religion I'm totally against it as these so called religion -which make me sick to the stomach- all see and treat women as second-rate citizens, often even less than a dog.
It should be forbidden by law. Over here in my country it is.

The only way I feel this could be okay is if a woman also has the right to have more than one husband and if people choose for this, meaning NOT on religious ground as those aren't a choice but brainwashing.
To be honest, I doubt any woman with self-respect and freedom of choice would do this.

The only reason this was ever done a long long long time ago was survival of the species, having strong, healthy off-spring. In order to have that you needed to 'breed' with various partners. BUT -and that is always left out by patriarchal thinkers & religion- this meant that women too had sex with various men, not just men with various women. That was the only way to have a strong off-spring.
These days we don't need that survival strategy anymore as there's more than enough people on the planet. We're not on the extinction list ya know.

Would I go for that? I think that's pretty clear: no freaking way!
I'm not very tolerant of pre-historical treatment of women.

I had ONE wife, couldn't handle her.... divorced

Is there a state or country where a woman can have two husbands?

Seems this would be a better offer .

Arizona, I guess
it seems very commen for woman to have more than one

No...not looking for a concubine. A wife has rights...and does not even need to be legally married to have rights. Many states have what is called a “Common Law” marriage.

However...in our case....

Having two wives and making them 100% secure...loved, safe, is what makes a polygomas relationship work.

I can completly understand your response. It is a response that many women who have been hurt or who do not feel secure, will agree with and side with.

As a Godly man...you do whatever is necessary to ensure your wives feel safe, secure, loved and that makes for an awesome relationship.

I agree that this type of relationship is not for everyone. It is a choice that a person should only enter into after MUCH prayer, thought and soul searching.

Thanks for your input and...to answer your question...what benefits does the second wife get....EVERYTHING the first wife gets....she is equal to and not less than. In this case...she gets EVEN more...

She gets the love and help from both a husband and a Sister Wife.

Now that is something you can’t get in a one man - one woman relationship...and that is ok too,

Thanks for your two cents...
I appeciate it!

So let me get this straight ,Burt

You are married but want to " spiritulize" other women

And I assume when you are in the " spirit" giving mood..your pants are off. Right

And I assume when you are in the " spirit" giving mood..your pants are off. Right

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One is too much as it is. Who needs twice plus, nagging at you? Got a death wish or something?

Put me down as-Not a chance.

G

Thanks for your input Crystal...

I can’t say I completely agree with some of what you say...but that is OK.

Women are NOT and should never be consider 2nd rate and women are not breeding machines.

Creating a family has as much responsibility if NOT more for the man or the head of the house. He has to ensure they are fully taken care of...ensuring that both wives and all children have their needs met and not only their needs, but many of the other things that are NOT needed...so everyone can enjoy an abundant life.

As far as religion goes....well I HATE religion. It is the reason so many people are hurt. If you read the bible...you’ll notice that there is no mention of religion.

Man created religion and religion caused a division between people. Causing people to look at the differences and fight about WHO is right and who is wrong.

In the bible...there were lots of people who were in polygamous relationships and it was not a survival thing...although, I think that some of what you say has merit.

In some countries at different times of history, I do think it was a survivial thing.

In today’s world., People do NOT enter into a polyagmous relationship because of survivial, nor to become breeding machines.

It’s a matter of choice...and if a woman choses to be in a relationship because she believes she is a ONE Man woman...that is good. Nothign wrong with that.

And...if a woman bleives and chooses to be in a polyamous relationship because she desires the benefits that come with that type of relationship...

THAT is good too.

Thanks for your input.

You say 'in a biblical polygamous relationship'. What's the difference between ,'a biblical polygamous relationship' and a polygamous relationship?
And why is it whenever you hear about polygamous relationships, there's usually religion, involved.
You say you hate religion, but use the term biblical , and mention the bible and god.