With all the ickiness that can be transmitted
through sexual contact...
I require testing of all new partners.

Do you, as policy, require new potential sex
partners, to undergo full STD testing, along
with followup testing for herpes and HIV?

I agree with you %100

Yes.

If they make too much of a fuss, claim I don't trust them ("you're calling me a liar?") when I say I don't know your history/ past practices...that just tells me there's a *reason* they're getting so pissy about it..

*I* have no problem with being tested...I know i don't have anything...

lifes to short to live in fear i wont i cant if im that distrusting i hope i have the good sense to keep it in my pants im 53 been with well over a hundred ladies ive turned sex down ive felt things were amiss ive trusted my judgement and my partners and my higher power ive actually failed to get aqn erecyion on 2dif occassions and found out later that the ladies had an sco.td ive wore a comdom 4 times the last was with a 23 year old who pursued me for 3 years b4 i gave in she had an std she was gang raped at 17 one of the perps wS INFECTED IT WAS THE AGE DIF NOT THE STD that caused me conflict as 2 whetheror not 2 lay with her i have been ask twice to be tested and complied the funny thing is obn both occaisions we had already engaged in unpr4otected sex many times heres the kicker one of these ladies was an RN at a health dept her job administering std test thanks 4 letting me share

A disturbing factor with sexually transmitted diseases is that some can be asymptotic and people may not even be aware they have one .. others can lay dormant for years before they are diagnosed .

There is a saying that if you have sex with someone . You are also having sex with all their partners . It is not just penetration that is the issue .. sharing intimate bodily fluids can put you at risk .

Trust and discernment goes deeper than test results .. but Personally (and professionally ) I think std testing is important .. and should be something all sexually active people do .........on a regular basis .. as part of ongoing general health surveillance .

why would you put yourself at risk , or others ,when it is a simple procedure to be tested . sexual health is important

That's why I stick to my left and right hand and a box of Kleenex...

I get tested about every two years.
I still have the results in myhealthevet account and can produce the results for every test, as well as my history of testing.

I repeat the tests because like Blondey says, they can lay dormant.
I started testing when I found out my X was messing around on me.
I looked up the symptoms for some of the STDs so I would know when I started showing those symptoms. Luckily, to this day, I have shown no symptoms.

I've had one sexual partner since my X that was a 14 month thing and we used no protection which made the sex feel more natural. Natural as in not having to stop to put on protection.
The only other sexual partner I've had was when using condoms.

I offered both women to view my test results but none wanted to.
I think the option to made them feel a bit safer.
No woman, sex or not has offered for me to view her test results.
Most claim to have been tested in the local free clinic run by the Board of Health.
One woman said she had no idea how to get tested.
I've dated 6 or 8 women since the X but only had sex with two.
Sex or the lack of sex was not a factor in why our relationships ended.

When I enter into a relationship with a woman I always want to discuss STDs and testing. I think it is the adult thing to do. If a 48-63 year old woman can't talk about mature subjects, that for me, is a disqualifier.

Making someone sick is the last thing I would want to do.

There is condoms and stuff like that. Just saying

I don't have sex, I am celibate til marriage. So no need testing.

I have had several nice dates though. Sex is not a part of getting to

Know Any man better.

Good topic! I haven't required it of them in the past. Over the last few years though I've had myself tested.

Being in the clear, I intend to stay that way. I agree with what others have said.

Tom makes a good point, being an adult, we ought to be able to discuss this issue. Especially now with it being such an issue in the world, or the US specifically.

When it comes to our health, prevention is the key. Having yearly physicals is recommended, so why should it be any different when it comes to STD's.

I will now require it!

If a man were to tell me "Don't worry, it's safe because I'm wearing a condom"... I would insist even more that he get tested, and until he does so I'd avoid him like the plague.

Condoms serve a purpose, but not getting tested because you have a pocket full of them is being naive and irresponsible. They do break and they do not protect you from everything.

I know, condoms are not 100% safe. But they are a start to make young people aware of the dangers of unprotected sexual intercourse.

I recently saw a commercial on TV advertising a new pill that was supposed to make the likelihood of contracting HIV through sex a lot less.
[it does NOT protect you from OTHER types of STDs,though,and they STILL recommended using a condom,and practicing safe sex,though,even if you use the pill!]

I think that this is probably a good thing,but it also might make people less worried about catching HIV,and keep them from practicing safe sex.

Well, if being that afraid why not wear a full wet suit with air supply diving equipment? Pretend your all diving with Jaques Costeau.
Thal'll be safe sex... Lol.
I'm not trying to neglect the danger.... just saying.

No, not that ive had enough to really worry about it much. I get to know the person well enough that i can tell if thetes a possibility, but i lnow,its still a chance im taking, again, not that i have much to worry about...

I understand your concern. At least among younger people.
But at my age, I'm not really doing it to the right and left, so.
I know among younger people it's escalating and they should think twice.

Funny thing here in Denmark is, that it is mostly among the richest children in the most posh areas.
Food to thought.

Y'know its not just respect for others that you would get tested.
I'm already fighting health problems.
The last thing I want is another health problem.
Since some STDs do lie dormant, I want to test on a regular basis just to be sure. Plus, as often as I get poked for blood tests and IVs there's no telling where it might come from.

Also there is the fact that I don't have sex with just anyone.
I actually care about the women that I make love with.
I would be mortified if I found out I gave someone I care that deeply for a disease that will change her life forever.
Plus, let me just say it, I like oral sex with a woman...both ways.
I wear a condom because I am too old, too unhealthy and to financialy inadequet to properly care for a child.
If the woman is past menopause and free of STDs, I see no reason at all to use a condom.

Tom4Uhere.
I definitely see your point.