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Topic: What your parents never told you ....
soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45399	Thu 07/12/18 10:11 AM
Was hoping you were all going to share your secrets with me about the opposite sex and just maybe I could learn something rev Tom .. I learned about Pavlov's reward system a long long time ago Soufie .. a gorgeous story it is devastating when someone you love is lost within and those little sparks of love and recognition are truly heart warming They really are, thank you for noticing that. If you have some good memories, they can get you past that. She was giggling, and though she did not know ME, she knew who SHE was in that moment, it was so funny ;-)

JOHNN111 Joined Wed 05/13/09 Posts: 9273	Thu 07/12/18 11:18 AM Edited by JOHNN111 on Thu 07/12/18 11:20 AM
Or that some men keep a cup next to the bed for dunking their tackle in after intimacy ... have they not heard of baby wet wipes They can't make it to the washroom? It could be worse I guess, it could of been a bladder cup? They never told me there'd be days like these

cajunman59 Joined Sun 01/10/10 Posts: 318	Fri 07/13/18 05:58 PM
Walked into my room one and there was a book on the bed, pictures explaining the deed. LOL had already figured most of it. Helpful cousins

Blondey111 Joined Sun 01/27/13 Posts: 9013	Fri 07/13/18 06:17 PM
Was hoping you were all going to share your secrets with me about the opposite sex and just maybe I could learn something rev Tom .. I learned about Pavlov's reward system a long long time ago Soufie .. a gorgeous story it is devastating when someone you love is lost within and those little sparks of love and recognition are truly heart warming They really are, thank you for noticing that. If you have some good memories, they can get you past that. She was giggling, and though she did not know ME, she knew who SHE was in that moment, it was so funny ;-) I am glad you have moments to make you smile soufie my friend lost her husband to Alzheimer's in his late 40's ...as it progressed I am not sure who suffered more . She was always looking for the man she loved .. he did not know her at all . So very sad

Blondey111 Joined Sun 01/27/13 Posts: 9013	Fri 07/13/18 06:19 PM
Or that some men keep a cup next to the bed for dunking their tackle in after intimacy ... have they not heard of baby wet wipes They can't make it to the washroom? It could be worse I guess, it could of been a bladder cup? They never told me there'd be days like these that reminds me of the old English chamber pots kept under the bed ... thank god for modern conveniences

Blondey111 Joined Sun 01/27/13 Posts: 9013	Fri 07/13/18 06:23 PM
Walked into my room one and there was a book on the bed, pictures explaining the deed. LOL had already figured most of it. Helpful cousins my mum had 13 siblings .. I had plenty of cousins like that too

JOHNN111 Joined Wed 05/13/09 Posts: 9273	Sat 07/14/18 07:30 AM
Or that some men keep a cup next to the bed for dunking their tackle in after intimacy ... have they not heard of baby wet wipes They can't make it to the washroom? It could be worse I guess, it could of been a bladder cup? They never told me there'd be days like these that reminds me of the old English chamber pots kept under the bed ... thank god for modern conveniences Yea that's gross, spillage must have been a prob And that reminds me when I owned a shack in the woods, right off the deck we went.

Tom4Uhere Joined Sat 12/17/16 Posts: 16240	Sat 07/14/18 08:42 AM
Its also important to consider what you were taught/told that was wrong. Sometimes when you are doing everything right according to what you were taught, you might in fact be doing everything wrong. For instance, a man that is taught that the man is always in control, has the final say and exerts his will on his mate will find his mate has low self-esteem or will be rebellious. She will lie to him, keep secrets from him, get up and leave him, even tho he thinks he is doing everything right from what he was taught. I learned at a young age that those instructions were wrong. They might work for awhile but eventually they will fail you. The most important lesson I have learned relating to relationships is one I learned from watching others and my own experience. That lesson is that everyone is a person. Their own person. You don't live behind their eyes. If you think you do, you're deluded. You have to treat people with validation and respect for them being them, even when it doesn't fit your expectation of who or what you think they should be. They are not your possessions. They are people, just like you.