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Topic: another stupid question from the moron who needs answers
toreybelle Joined Sun 10/28/07 Posts: 2132	Tue 12/04/07 04:16 PM
I've learned that being offended is a choice. If you feel that self focus come on you,redirect that focus to somthing positive about her. Humans love affirmation, and it will tell her that 'that' is your focus, to love and reaffirm her. Instead of "is that a bad thing" (just for instance). say somthing honest and positive from your' heart. Mine 'may' have been "I can't help it babe, your worth all the time that I can give you" or just simply "I love to hear your' voice". Don't shrink back when your' unsure, take the risk and you will find it's worth it. It's the only way to discover true love I think, giving it freely.

toreybelle Joined Sun 10/28/07 Posts: 2132	Tue 12/04/07 04:18 PM
I've learned that being offended is a choice. If you feel that self focus come on you,redirect that focus to somthing positive about her. Humans love affirmation, and it will tell her that 'that' is your focus, to love and reaffirm her. Instead of "is that a bad thing" (just for instance). say somthing honest and positive from your' heart. Mine 'may' have been "I can't help it babe, your worth all the time that I can give you" or just simply "I love to hear your' voice". Don't shrink back when your' unsure, take the risk and you will find it's worth it. It's the only way to discover true love I think, giving it freely. I like that advise!!!!!

toreybelle Joined Sun 10/28/07 Posts: 2132	Tue 12/04/07 04:20 PM
sorry about that, i'm new to highlighting quotes Say, I dont' know enough about the relationship. As one was saying that she's not comfortable about you kissing her. SERIOUSLY???? AFter one month?????

stevenpwis Joined Sat 10/20/07 Posts: 999	Tue 12/04/07 04:59 PM
yep, seriously

Duffy Joined Sat 10/07/06 Posts: 3775	Tue 12/04/07 05:02 PM
send her notes by carrier pidgeon, and when she complains about pidgeon poop, remind her what she said about you calling.

adj4u Joined Sun 04/08/07 Posts: 21254	Tue 12/04/07 05:02 PM Edited by adj4u on Tue 12/04/07 05:03 PM
that means go to th prison souviner shop and get a ball and chain for one angle and an ankle house arrest band for the other bullsh_ _ !!!! That's rediculous did you miss this line """""you call me a lot." I responded, "Is that a bad thing?" She said "It's better than me having to search for you all the time."""""" what part of ""me having to search for you all the time"" did i get wrong

thatplayer89 Joined Thu 08/02/07 Posts: 549	Tue 12/04/07 05:05 PM
well i say if your game is good and you can keep her "entertained" call her every day i used to talk to my girl everyday aint nothing worng with it.

ChiefPUA Joined Mon 11/26/07 Posts: 1175	Tue 12/04/07 05:08 PM
GODDAMN man give the woman some space. if you act NEEDY and CLINGY, it will do nothing but drive her away. Think about this...if you get something every day, let's say...coffee... If someone gives you a coffee every day, you are eventually going to take it for granted and maybe even get tired of the same cream and sugar plus black coffee. You are going to want to vary it up and cheat on your coffee by drinking a mocha one day. Then your usual coffee mug cries and wonders what it has done wrong. If someone gives u a coffee every WEEK, however, you will get a lot more excited to get it when you do. Over time, however, you will also begin to take your every-monday standard coffee routine. If someone UNPREDICTABLY gives you a coffee from time to time, it will keep you one your toes and you will become VERY GRATEFUL when you get that nice surprise. Stop calling her every day. Keep your resources scarce and she'll love you for it.

thatplayer89 Joined Thu 08/02/07 Posts: 549	Tue 12/04/07 05:08 PM
i think your girl wierd... if she dont wanna kiss. remind me of my first girlfriend she was ugly i aint kiss her because of this. but she gave good lap dances

thatplayer89 Joined Thu 08/02/07 Posts: 549	Tue 12/04/07 05:13 PM
pua i dont know if the guy is clingy but you can call a woman everyday and still keep her. i do it. but at the sametime its like i dont have a life and so i stopped doing it

tombraider Joined Wed 09/12/07 Posts: 5042	Tue 12/04/07 05:26 PM
sounds like to me she is saying if you didn't call her that shr would be looking for you ;it also would depend on if she was being sarcastic when she said that but also from this thread ive gotten that youve known her a month a she is not comfortable kissing you ..dont understand what's up with that...have you tried a breath mint.... j/k..but a month no kiss..somethings there cant figure that out... ...rather than wonder, sounds like time for communication

cuzimwhiteboy Joined Mon 10/15/07 Posts: 229	Tue 12/04/07 05:32 PM
I think it's code or 'womanspeak' for, "Why haven't you grabbed my b00bs?" But, what do I know.

confettie_popper Joined Mon 06/25/07 Posts: 187	Tue 12/04/07 05:38 PM
I think it's code or 'womanspeak' for, "Why haven't you grabbed my b00bs?" But, what do I know. So..you think you have figured out our code, huh? Great..now all of us women have to change it... As far as your initial question...she likes it, continue to do what you do...

toreybelle Joined Sun 10/28/07 Posts: 2132	Tue 12/04/07 05:53 PM
sounds like to me she is saying if you didn't call her that shr would be looking for you ;it also would depend on if she was being sarcastic when she said that but also from this thread ive gotten that youve known her a month a she is not comfortable kissing you ..dont understand what's up with that...have you tried a breath mint.... j/k..but a month no kiss..somethings there cant figure that out... ...rather than wonder, sounds like time for communication You're right.... think about that man!!!!! Someone who I've been seeing for a month, I'm more than willing to lay a kiss on him. I'd want MORE THAN THAT actually!!!!!! COME ON!! WHAT THE FU_ _!!!! Something is just not adding up!!!!

toreybelle Joined Sun 10/28/07 Posts: 2132	Tue 12/04/07 05:56 PM
GOD THIS IS TOO COMPLICATED, maybe I've been out of the game for toooooooooo long........ I'm simple minded and just want someone to adore me for who i am, and me the same to him. I WANT SOMEONE TO WANT TO BE WITH ME, TO TALK TO ME, TO CARE ABOUT ME..... Am I ever going to find the right man????? This is depressing.

stevenpwis Joined Sat 10/20/07 Posts: 999	Tue 12/04/07 06:12 PM
i'm sure you'll find someone torey

Jtevans Joined Fri 08/10/07 Posts: 30654	Tue 12/04/07 06:40 PM
i say drop her like a bad habit!

unsure Joined Wed 08/16/06 Posts: 4886	Tue 12/04/07 07:50 PM
Geesh I am feeling different then most of these people! If she said that you are calling a lot...that actually means DAYUM stop calling so much!! If I say that to a guy..by then I am very annoyed...if I say "a lot" then I am getting ready to say something that he is not going to like at all!!! If she is not comfortable to kiss you after a month...something is wrong!! I mean I do not kiss on the first date but a month?? Something just isn't right!! Maybe she is using you for a back up just in case there isn't anyone else to spend time with?? If I was you, I would seriously slow down on calling her. Have you seriously thought about staying away from her for a week and making her wonder just how much she did like you? I think she is taking you for granted BIG time!!

SDM Joined Sat 11/17/07 Posts: 436	Tue 12/04/07 08:03 PM
.....i like hearing from my man every day.....

katydid34 Joined Mon 08/20/07 Posts: 659	Tue 12/04/07 10:36 PM
I agree with the people who suggest not calling her for a while. But it's up to you, it sounds like you really like this person, so you'll do what you want to anyway.