Topic: Persuasion Dating?
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Sun 03/11/18 10:59 AM
The playing 'hard to get' game is something done by teenagers and young adults. The 'jealosy' game is played by immature, manipulating mentalities.
I've aged out of the courtship game playing mentality.
The women I have interest in are not ones to play courting games.
They are near my own age, have life wisdom and know what they want.
The moment I sense her playing a game on me, its over. I'll walk away and not look back. My children are grown, with their own families, I'm in it for 'us' as a couple. She will be too or she won't be coupled with me.
Been played a fool too many times in my youth.
I can tell when someone is trying to manipulate me.
My X forced me to break my rose-colored glasses.

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Sun 03/11/18 11:01 AM

I'm three strikes you're out kinda guy. I'll ask three times. If you turn me down or make up some excuse, I move on. After asking the third time, it starts to get obnoxious. Some men are just stupid that way. They think if they keep trying they will finally break you down. When in reality you're really getting sick of them.


I think this is a sound policy. And I agree it just becomes irritating, even to the point of creepy (like the guy I mention in my original post) unless you’re friendly enough with them for it to be a lighthearted, ongoing joke to let them know from time to time you would still be interested if their circumstances have changed or whatever.

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Sun 03/11/18 11:16 AM
Well, not really...If there is no Click, or spark...I will not persue it further...

To do so would be a real drag...

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Sun 03/11/18 12:21 PM

Yesterday I ran into a man who I’ve, tactfully, and politely, turned down for a date several times. There reason for my refusal is, but not limited to, feeling his personality rather annoying and often offensive.

He leaned, way too far, into my personal space to whisper in my ear...”One of these days I will persuade you.”

what

My topic isn’t about this guy. I just told the story so you know where I’m coming from with this question. Persuasion will definitely not be working here!

But there are bound to be many different types of scenarios where persuasion could effect a person’s decision. Which leads to my question.

Have you or would you go out with someone who had to persuaded you to accept a date invitation?


And flip-side, would it be worth it to you to persuade someone whose turned you down before?






Ok, you could not blame the guy for trying ?


Care for a date Jan...?....loo

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Sun 03/11/18 12:22 PM

Yesterday I ran into a man who I’ve, tactfully, and politely, turned down for a date several times. There reason for my refusal is, but not limited to, feeling his personality rather annoying and often offensive.

He leaned, way too far, into my personal space to whisper in my ear...”One of these days I will persuade you.”

what

My topic isn’t about this guy. I just told the story so you know where I’m coming from with this question. Persuasion will definitely not be working here!

But there are bound to be many different types of scenarios where persuasion could effect a person’s decision. Which leads to my question.

Have you or would you go out with someone who had to persuaded you to accept a date invitation?


And flip-side, would it be worth it to you to persuade someone whose turned you down before?






Ok, you could not blame the guy for trying ?


Care for a date Jan...?....lol

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Sun 03/11/18 12:37 PM
My own opinion basically is if you actually understood the message the guy passed it to you, I think to him he meant more like some Day I’m gonna have a chance at you.

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Sun 03/11/18 12:37 PM
My own opinion basically is if you actually understood the message the guy passed it to you, I think to him he meant more like some Day I’m gonna have a chance at you.

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Sun 03/11/18 12:56 PM
I was persuaded to go out with a windower, he was lonely and just wanted a nice lady to go for coffee and meals at tmes. I said. Ok being a nice lady with compassion. I really wasn't attracted to him. He approached me at work .

No I wouldn't try to persuade any man to go out with me, who had turned me down before.

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Sun 03/11/18 01:15 PM

Yesterday I ran into a man who I’ve, tactfully, and politely, turned down for a date several times. There reason for my refusal is, but not limited to, feeling his personality rather annoying and often offensive.

He leaned, way too far, into my personal space to whisper in my ear...”One of these days I will persuade you.”

what

My topic isn’t about this guy. I just told the story so you know where I’m coming from with this question. Persuasion will definitely not be working here!

But there are bound to be many different types of scenarios where persuasion could effect a person’s decision. Which leads to my question.

Have you or would you go out with someone who had to persuaded you to accept a date invitation?

And flip-side, would it be worth it to you to persuade someone whose turned you down before?





Yes. It is my opinion that at any moment in our life we are making conclusions based on the information and events up to that point, and with every new moment new information and events can cause our perceptions and opinions to change. I feel it can be the same with a 'potential' date.

The circumstances that make me weary at first could change enough that if that person has 'tried again' I may be having a different feeling about it than I did originally.

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Sun 03/11/18 01:37 PM

My own opinion basically is if you actually understood the message the guy passed it to you, I think to him he meant more like some Day I’m gonna have a chance at you.


Maybe if he became a nicer person. Haha! He is a bully and mean spirited. So until then...no chance.

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Sun 03/11/18 01:39 PM


Yesterday I ran into a man who I’ve, tactfully, and politely, turned down for a date several times. There reason for my refusal is, but not limited to, feeling his personality rather annoying and often offensive.

He leaned, way too far, into my personal space to whisper in my ear...”One of these days I will persuade you.”

what

My topic isn’t about this guy. I just told the story so you know where I’m coming from with this question. Persuasion will definitely not be working here!

But there are bound to be many different types of scenarios where persuasion could effect a person’s decision. Which leads to my question.

Have you or would you go out with someone who had to persuaded you to accept a date invitation?


And flip-side, would it be worth it to you to persuade someone whose turned you down before?






Ok, you could not blame the guy for trying ?


Care for a date Jan...?....lol


You are too sweet or too funny. I never know with you Bri. Haha!

If you are too sweet, you are also too far. grumble laugh

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Sun 03/11/18 01:40 PM


Yesterday I ran into a man who I’ve, tactfully, and politely, turned down for a date several times. There reason for my refusal is, but not limited to, feeling his personality rather annoying and often offensive.

He leaned, way too far, into my personal space to whisper in my ear...”One of these days I will persuade you.”

what

My topic isn’t about this guy. I just told the story so you know where I’m coming from with this question. Persuasion will definitely not be working here!

But there are bound to be many different types of scenarios where persuasion could effect a person’s decision. Which leads to my question.

Have you or would you go out with someone who had to persuaded you to accept a date invitation?


And flip-side, would it be worth it to you to persuade someone whose turned you down before?






Ok, you could not blame the guy for trying ?


Care for a date Jan...?....lol


You are too sweet or too funny. I never know with you Bri. Haha!

If you are too sweet, you are also too far. grumble laugh

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Sun 03/11/18 01:43 PM



Yesterday I ran into a man who I’ve, tactfully, and politely, turned down for a date several times. There reason for my refusal is, but not limited to, feeling his personality rather annoying and often offensive.

He leaned, way too far, into my personal space to whisper in my ear...”One of these days I will persuade you.”

what

My topic isn’t about this guy. I just told the story so you know where I’m coming from with this question. Persuasion will definitely not be working here!

But there are bound to be many different types of scenarios where persuasion could effect a person’s decision. Which leads to my question.

Have you or would you go out with someone who had to persuaded you to accept a date invitation?


And flip-side, would it be worth it to you to persuade someone whose turned you down before?






Ok, you could not blame the guy for trying ?


Care for a date Jan...?....lol


You are too sweet or too funny. I never know with you Bri. Haha!

If you are too sweet, you are also too far. grumble laugh


Never say never..?

We chat, don't we ?

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Sun 03/11/18 01:49 PM


Yesterday I ran into a man who I’ve, tactfully, and politely, turned down for a date several times. There reason for my refusal is, but not limited to, feeling his personality rather annoying and often offensive.

He leaned, way too far, into my personal space to whisper in my ear...”One of these days I will persuade you.”

what

My topic isn’t about this guy. I just told the story so you know where I’m coming from with this question. Persuasion will definitely not be working here!

But there are bound to be many different types of scenarios where persuasion could effect a person’s decision. Which leads to my question.

Have you or would you go out with someone who had to persuaded you to accept a date invitation?

And flip-side, would it be worth it to you to persuade someone whose turned you down before?





Yes. It is my opinion that at any moment in our life we are making conclusions based on the information and events up to that point, and with every new moment new information and events can cause our perceptions and opinions to change. I feel it can be the same with a 'potential' date.

The circumstances that make me weary at first could change enough that if that person has 'tried again' I may be having a different feeling about it than I did originally.


A very good argument for being persuaded. I agree with this except in the cases of people who make your arm hair stand up. Haha!

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Sun 03/11/18 01:51 PM

I was persuaded to go out with a windower, he was lonely and just wanted a nice lady to go for coffee and meals at tmes. I said. Ok being a nice lady with compassion. I really wasn't attracted to him. He approached me at work .

No I wouldn't try to persuade any man to go out with me, who had turned me down before.



I like your scenario. That’s sweet! I’m sure you had nice conversation and made his days brighter with your company. flowerforyou

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Sun 03/11/18 01:55 PM




Yesterday I ran into a man who I’ve, tactfully, and politely, turned down for a date several times. There reason for my refusal is, but not limited to, feeling his personality rather annoying and often offensive.

He leaned, way too far, into my personal space to whisper in my ear...”One of these days I will persuade you.”

what

My topic isn’t about this guy. I just told the story so you know where I’m coming from with this question. Persuasion will definitely not be working here!

But there are bound to be many different types of scenarios where persuasion could effect a person’s decision. Which leads to my question.

Have you or would you go out with someone who had to persuaded you to accept a date invitation?


And flip-side, would it be worth it to you to persuade someone whose turned you down before?






Ok, you could not blame the guy for trying ?


Care for a date Jan...?....lol


You are too sweet or too funny. I never know with you Bri. Haha!

If you are too sweet, you are also too far. grumble laugh


Never say never..?

We chat, don't we ?

That’s true. As long as I make it clear from the start....I am not a good southern cook. I don’t even have a deep fryer. laugh

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Sun 03/11/18 01:55 PM
men can make the running, but the lady makes her choice...no matter what

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Sun 03/11/18 01:58 PM

Well, not really...If there is no Click, or spark...I will not persue it further...

To do so would be a real drag...

I think you cut out a lot of guesswork and endless question marks this way.

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Sun 03/11/18 02:00 PM
I’m not sure I’ve ever asked the same woman out more than once.
Then again, I’ve never asked many out.

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Sun 03/11/18 02:13 PM

men can make the running, but the lady makes her choice...no matter what

I think most of the gentlemen here will agree with this very much.

It’s too bad not every man is a gentleman.