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Charles1962150
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I probably would not. I like where i live. lol oryt dear point taken....so u wont even take pains to vist? Why would i make the plans? Why cant the other person come my way? Maybe for the same reason, you don't want to go there way? But as for me, No, I wouldn't. I've done the long distance thing twice. I learned the hard way. It's not worth it. Now, it's all I can do to talk myself into going 50 miles away from home. Either way, you cut it, you are going to meet a stranger. You can talk to someone over the net for weeks. Or even months and they are still a stranger until you meet them. They say that "A picture is worth a thousand words". It's not true on the internet. For the most part, a picture is an image of what that person wants other's to see. It doesn't show what you really look like day to day. So, on the internet pictures can lie. And many in person don't look like their pictures. A profile is how you see yourself. Or what your friends or family tell you. Not how others outside that circle will see you. So, you can write out a profile that makes you sound great. When in reality, you may be a total azz. But, that isn't how you see yourself. So, pictures can lie and profiles don't always tell the truth. That's why I choose to keep my online dating close to home. That way I'm not wasting a lot of gas, time or money on someone that isn't what they seem to be. Which is the way it is on the internet about 95% of the time. uv had a bad experience hey im sorry, bt we learn from our own mistakes ryt? It's a mixture. Of experience and common sense. Experience taught me something that at the time I didn't have the common sense to see. But since have grown. As you've seen, the great majority on this thread so far said they wouldn't do it. For various reasons. For me, it's not just my experience I'm going on. But also the experience of other people I know. Who have had close to the same experiences that I've had. Out of the 20 or so that I know, only one had a successful relationship that led to marriage with a woman that he met on Yahoo personals that were from another state. I feel he got lucky. She was willing to move to be with him. Most are not. I would say that at least 85 to 90% of those that say they will are scammers that really just want your money. So the other 10 to 15 percent must be those of us on this thread that said we would.... Right? 
I too have relocated and was in a long distant relationship, neither worked out, and neither of those experiences would keep me from considering it again. Because those two men don't define all men. And who knows, maybe one of us will be that 1 in 20 that just happens to work out? I knew someone on line for over three years I was in love with her , but I never knew if I went to see her if she would open the door , She had secrets and she would stop communicating from time to time .
I did go see a other woman I met on a phone date line and she was all lies. I keep saying to My self " The heart is a lonely hunter ". 88solo, Makes my point. People lie. And online, it's worse. People make themselves out to be what they want to make you believe they are. As far as traveling to see someone I met online goes, it didn't take but twice for me to realize it wasn't for me. I don't mean to be mean. Or sound hateful. I don't mean to put "all" women in one basket. I'm just being honest from what I've seen in the past 10 or so years. The great majority of what I've met, I would hate to know that I paid for it in any way shape or form. If I paid for an airplane ticket to go meet most of what I've met, I would feel like the biggest fool in the world. There has been some that I have nothing against at all. Just no click. That's OK. That happens. But the bad outweighs the good. The great majority misrepresents themselves. They are not true to what they say in there profiles. Many put up pictures that look "too good". Who they are on the phone, and who they are in person, a lot of times have been like talking to two different people. Many times I've found that the person I liked writing to is a different person on the phone. And even more different in person. I've had a few to tell me that I'm the same whether online, phone or in person. My picture, with maybe the exception of the beard, looks like me. Day to day. I look for the same in other people. Most of the time, just speaking of the women that I've met, it's not true. So no long distance romance for me. I know this is a little off topic. But me personally, I wish that women on dating sites would stop putting up pictures that show them in the best light possible. No glam shots. No professional shots. Just real. I know that some do. I also know the real from the fake. I would rather see a picture of what a woman looks like day to day. Not a "pretty uped" picture that you are not going to look like every day. I want to be attracted to the real you. Not an allusion. |
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But Charles men are visual right? So if a woman puts up an ugly picture would you even look twice regardless of how she writes? And if there’s no picture and you just rely on how she talks and writes then later on see that physically she is just not your type the situation kinda turns around too. I’m not defending us women it’s just on a dating site there are so many people and because of that it is very easy to get lost in the sea of hopeful people trying to find someone unique.
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I think I might lol. I’m always open for a new adventure in a different land. Wherever life takes me haha
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88solo, Makes my point. People lie. And online, it's worse. People make themselves out to be what they want to make you believe they are. As far as traveling to see someone I met online goes, it didn't take but twice for me to realize it wasn't for me. I don't mean to be mean. Or sound hateful. I don't mean to put "all" women in one basket. I'm just being honest from what I've seen in the past 10 or so years. The great majority of what I've met, I would hate to know that I paid for it in any way shape or form. If I paid for an airplane ticket to go meet most of what I've met, I would feel like the biggest fool in the world. There has been some that I have nothing against at all. Just no click. That's OK. That happens. But the bad outweighs the good. The great majority misrepresents themselves. They are not true to what they say in there profiles. Many put up pictures that look "too good". Who they are on the phone, and who they are in person, a lot of times have been like talking to two different people. Many times I've found that the person I liked writing to is a different person on the phone. And even more different in person. I've had a few to tell me that I'm the same whether online, phone or in person. My picture, with maybe the exception of the beard, looks like me. Day to day. I look for the same in other people. Most of the time, just speaking of the women that I've met, it's not true. So no long distance romance for me. I know this is a little off topic. But me personally, I wish that women on dating sites would stop putting up pictures that show them in the best light possible. No glam shots. No professional shots. Just real. I know that some do. I also know the real from the fake. I would rather see a picture of what a woman looks like day to day. Not a "pretty uped" picture that you are not going to look like every day. I want to be attracted to the real you. Not an allusion. Well I'm sorry you've had such bad experiences. 
I've met one person so far, on my way to my seasonal job here in Colorado. That experience showed me the exact opposite of what you're saying. He was just as he is in the forums and was very much a gentleman and is now my best friend. And in my journeys with seasonal work over the next year, I hope to meet a few more of my friends here. I hope you get to experience that some day Charles. 
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Can I cheer this topic up a bit. I relocated from Australia to U.K.after meeting my partner. We had wonderful times together and a happy life. He died 2 1/2 years ago and I now wish to return to Australia. If the person is right for you, it is worth taking the risk. It worked for me and I do not regret it. I just want to go back to the warm weather. This is so incredibly sweet. It informs and edits my train of thought. So does yellowrose's statements of family, friends, and,"home". I am a believer in the power of love overcoming the odds. I moved to a different region as well, no regrets....but same old story with the same old caveats.....time, place, region, weather, lifestyle....can you deal? The "cultural" aspects might throw you. Are you prepared? |
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Can I cheer this topic up a bit. I relocated from Australia to U.K.after meeting my partner. We had wonderful times together and a happy life. He died 2 1/2 years ago and I now wish to return to Australia. If the person is right for you, it is worth taking the risk. It worked for me and I do not regret it. I just want to go back to the warm weather. This is so incredibly sweet. It informs and edits my train of thought. So does yellowrose's statements of family, friends, and,"home". I am a believer in the power of love overcoming the odds. I moved to a different region as well, no regrets....but same old story with the same old caveats.....time, place, region, weather, lifestyle....can you deal? The "cultural" aspects might throw you. Are you prepared? ‘ ‘
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Ok this is where I am in my thinking at this point in my life , If I meet someone on line , we video conference , she gives me her phone number , and we talk at all hours of the day and night , she answers ALL my questions , I don't catch her in any "contradictions" AND we are in LOVE ( would not do this for " in LIKE" ). I would either go see her if I am going to be in the general area , like I am going to Vladivostok and she lives in Malaysia ( thats about as far as I would go ) OR I would reimburse half her ticket if she came to see me BUT I would do it over say three months,one third , one third , one third . Also I would be much more likely to do this if the woman knew a marshal art OR Russian and was willing to teach me while she was here.
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But Charles men are visual right? So if a woman puts up an ugly picture would you even look twice regardless of how she writes? And if there’s no picture and you just rely on how she talks and writes then later on see that physically she is just not your type the situation kinda turns around too. I’m not defending us women it’s just on a dating site there are so many people and because of that it is very easy to get lost in the sea of hopeful people trying to find someone unique. Don't misunderstand. In honesty, I peep at your profile and Piscesmoon02's profile every now and then. I appreciate a pretty woman. To me, you both are beautiful. I can tell just by looking that the pictures you both have up are what you would look like day today. Take the one that started this thread. I don't know her. But, I would almost bet that isn't the way she looks day to day. Because men are visual, it's best, in my opinion, that a woman post pictures of what she looks like day to day. Because, If you post pictures of yourself all fixed up, that's what the guy has in his mind. When he finally gets to see you, it's a letdown. Because you don't look like what you posted in the pictures in person. As far as relationships and distance go, If either one of you were close enough to me, well, you would have a boyfriend if you wanted it.LOL |
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But Charles men are visual right? So if a woman puts up an ugly picture would you even look twice regardless of how she writes? And if there’s no picture and you just rely on how she talks and writes then later on see that physically she is just not your type the situation kinda turns around too. I’m not defending us women it’s just on a dating site there are so many people and because of that it is very easy to get lost in the sea of hopeful people trying to find someone unique. Don't misunderstand. In honesty, I peep at your profile and Piscesmoon02's profile every now and then. I appreciate a pretty woman. To me, you both are beautiful. I can tell just by looking that the pictures you both have up are what you would look like day today. Take the one that started this thread. I don't know her. But, I would almost bet that isn't the way she looks day to day. Because men are visual, it's best, in my opinion, that a woman post pictures of what she looks like day to day. Because, If you post pictures of yourself all fixed up, that's what the guy has in his mind. When he finally gets to see you, it's a letdown. Because you don't look like what you posted in the pictures in person. As far as relationships and distance go, If either one of you were close enough to me, well, you would have a boyfriend if you wanted it.LOL Awww shucks Charles 
I would definitely be willing to explore that possibility if we were closer. Your honesty and good nature shines through what you write. I hope some day you meet the woman you're looking for and that she appreciates the good man you are.
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Edited by
MrBeeKeeper
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Sat 02/10/18 03:00 PM
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if u find tht special someone would u relocate or take pains to visit? As of me .. yup, I probably would, but that's me .. I've always been thinking that the life you live happens just once, and doing some crazy things is essential to make you realize that the life is a priceless gift .. So if there is a love .. that mysterious click for both .. I wouldn't hesitate to take the risk .. 
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if u find tht special someone would u relocate or take pains to visit? As of me .. yup, I probably would, but that's me .. I've always been thinking that the life you live happens just once, and doing some crazy things is essential to make you realize that the life is a priceless gift .. So if there is a love .. that mysterious click for both .. I wouldn't hesitate to take the risk ..
 I agree!
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But Charles men are visual right? So if a woman puts up an ugly picture would you even look twice regardless of how she writes? And if there’s no picture and you just rely on how she talks and writes then later on see that physically she is just not your type the situation kinda turns around too. I’m not defending us women it’s just on a dating site there are so many people and because of that it is very easy to get lost in the sea of hopeful people trying to find someone unique. Don't misunderstand. In honesty, I peep at your profile and Piscesmoon02's profile every now and then. I appreciate a pretty woman. To me, you both are beautiful. I can tell just by looking that the pictures you both have up are what you would look like day today. Take the one that started this thread. I don't know her. But, I would almost bet that isn't the way she looks day to day. Because men are visual, it's best, in my opinion, that a woman post pictures of what she looks like day to day. Because, If you post pictures of yourself all fixed up, that's what the guy has in his mind. When he finally gets to see you, it's a letdown. Because you don't look like what you posted in the pictures in person. As far as relationships and distance go, If either one of you were close enough to me, well, you would have a boyfriend if you wanted it.LOL That was sweet of you Charles I thought you checked my profile to explain something or prove a point and this you did . I must say I understand now. I am sure a man like you would soon be with the right woman. Blessings to you and thanks 
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if u find tht special someone would u relocate or take pains to visit? Not to Africa no. Beautiful continent but too many Ak47s running around. |
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if u find tht special someone would u relocate or take pains to visit? |
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But Charles men are visual right? So if a woman puts up an ugly picture would you even look twice regardless of how she writes? And if there’s no picture and you just rely on how she talks and writes then later on see that physically she is just not your type the situation kinda turns around too. I’m not defending us women it’s just on a dating site there are so many people and because of that it is very easy to get lost in the sea of hopeful people trying to find someone unique. |
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would I relocate for love....
hell no |
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would I relocate for love.... hell no This more than adequately sums it up. Been there, done that, won't make that mistake again. |
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As long as she was real and lived on a sunny warm coast... ya
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As long as she was real and lived on a sunny warm coast... ya
You should have told me that before I left the Keys 
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