I am the only one who find it hard to find that genuine person ?

nope it's definitely not just you. for all the peeps in the world we all seem to have trouble finding the one that fits us well

I think many tend to overlook that who you attracted was the perfect match for your own vibration. Not necessarily what you really want, but still the perfect match for what you yourself put out in the world.
It can be very helpful to look at what kind of people you attract and what that says about you.
After a breakup it can be very helpful to see what you needed to learn. And also what is was that made you attract that person into your life to begin with.
Partners -and other people you meet and have in your life- are always a mirror of you.
For instance, when you're negative, you will not attract positive people. Or very briefly, because you aren't a match. They will not enjoy being with you so they will leave as soon as they can only to never come back.

Do some soul searching...

I totally agree.. and it's not like I am not doing nothing to seek that person. Still no success..thinking am not Destiny to find someone at this rate

I like your comments and thank you. You are right by saying after a break up you are quite negative and look at life differently. But when you have tried numerous times and still doesn't worked out it's time to ask yourself 'Am I Destiny to be with someone after all?'

Buy yourself some new batteries, a lot less hassle

Blame! I need more then batteries right now lol.. maybe a nice cup of coffee and a good chat will do me good

You’re in London right, have you tried joining a club that you’re interested in, I mean like any hobby’s you have.
Or a singles night maybe.
Good luck whatever you do.

No, maybe read my post (again)...
after numerous 'failed' relationships it is time to ask yourself
- What am I doing to make this happen?
- What haven't I learnt yet?
- Which lesson was present in each of these relationships?
- Why am I not learning it (yet)?
- Why do I let this depress me and feel sorry for myself?
- What do I want/expect from a relationship?

If the answer to the last question is: safety & security or anything along those lines, you are dependent. That will never work. Not the way you want to anyway.

- Am I happy, positive, confident, standing on my own two feet? Many people expect (=demand) another to make them happy. Won't work. Ever.

The only common factor in all your 'failed' relationships is... you. If you want to fix it, you will have to work on you, do soul searching.
Stop finger pointing and blaming. That's the easy way out, which ultimately won't make you happy.

Well I work on construction sites where 95% are men lol
maybe I get a good look at lunch time ..when they all at the cantine.
I may find what am looking for
ps... I am fit and didn't get a gym membership

You may have been too hard on yourself. Be patient . Enjoy your singlehood. The right guy will find you.

I think you right..And definitely going to take that advise.

I think CrystalFairy has some great things to say.


Honest introspection of yourself can guide you in selecting the type of man you desire in your life.

Many people get ideas about the types others think you should be with and being such a complicated and demanding decision, they tend to just go with the majority.

So many people have no idea who they truly seek.
They find the ones that fit the majority consensus and fail to understand that relationships are personal.

This is because their idea of who they are and what they want in life is based on what others have convinced them. Not on their own life values.

Introspection needs to be honest and accurate to your own specifications. Otherwise, you end up being in a relationship someone else desires. You then become something you are not and it starts setting off red flags that cause stress, which leads to loss of contentment.

A journal or diary can help you find yourself. Sometimes just reading your thoughts on something on a different day helps clarify things. Personally, I use Pros & Cons lists.
The important thing to remember when reviewing yourself is not to be too hard on your honesty. Self-honesty will sometimes conflict with society values. But, you live in your life, not society's.

No other person actually sees your world thru your eyes but you.
They can try to empathize but they will never see it exactly as you.

Figure out what you actually want for your life and go find it.
Sometimes its right in front of you but you didn't know to look.

Kona coffee from Hawaii is good...

I don't think we got that kind of coffee in the UK

I've found genuine men! And had few nice dates from online! some sites are great!!!

lovely..I will not run away from dating sites and still believe we got some nice guy's out there. so let's see what will happen next :-)

No we are all together alone

count me in ! the only friend I can trust is my kids and my cat! lol
but sad I have to say that...