Why do people play games? Don't they care that they will inevitably hurt that person? Does this mean that person just has simply no idea what they really need?
Games make us feel so disheartened and fearful of more hurt... hence distrust... and We all need to feel loved and to love... Instead... fear of more hurt becomes our expectation.

your right ... but hurt is a part of life ... can't get away from it ... I don't mistrust until ...they do something that makes me distrust them ... I have always been like that ... except when younger ... had know idea what relationships really where ... even when I dated ... I am sure I hurt some but I got hurt myself ... we forgive and move on an try to have a happier life ...so they say

All games people play are not hurtful.
Sometimes, they are challeging or entertaining.
It is only hurtful when someone else wins.

Some game players have no idea why they play the games.
Some are not even aware they are being played.

Some players hurt themselves more than others.
Some need to hurt others as a personality validation.

Wisdom gives you the ability to recognize when you are being played.
It allows you to either play back or stop the game.

Emotional maturity is the defense that allows you to survive a game player without being hurt.
It puts the power of control, back with you, where it belongs.

Depends on the game.


Maybe.

I mean some "games" people play are an attempt at mitigating any "harm" done.
Like one game is someone will pull away in a relationship in order to give the other an excuse to break up with them, believing if they stuck around there would be escalating fights, or the person pulling away would break up with the other causing direct rejection "harm," they'd rather "take the hit" than cause the greater harm.
They'd rather pull away and be called a game player and coward than forcefully tell the other person to go away and be called a liar and a-hole.


Maybe.
But it could just as easily mean they know what they need, but the only way anyone would actually give it to them is if they played games to get it.
Or just as easily mean they know what they need, believed they could fulfill that with the other person, only after a while figured out they couldn't, but realize they can't get the other to realize that they aren't capable of doing so.


Also kinda interesting, to me at least, is that sometimes people play games, but then stop. But the game is the only thing the other person knows, so they start believing that the "new" behavior is the actual game when it's actually the real person.



It really does help when there's something more specific than "games."
I mean some games people play are simply a means to facilitate communication.
Sometimes a "game" is used as a universal signal in order to manipulate a more universally understood response, all in order to help translate other communication and responses.

True... hurted people, hurt people

I think.hearted people take care of others because they know the pain.

nope chicks that play games don't give a **** about who they hurt. that's why they play the games because they enjoy hurting others.

If you mean mind games... well, I don't. But I sense that most of those games come out of insecurity and a need to be in control. A few people display psychopathy of sociopathy.

Me... give me Dungeons and Dragons. I'd rather inflict pain and suffering on imaginary orcs and stone golems.

Welcome to the Internet! Yes many men are not seriously interested in a true relationship.

Well, there are "games" and then there are "games."

I know that a lot of the most common "game playing" that happens in the dating process, is BECAUSE people are trying to avoid getting hurt, or hurting others.

That is, people play lots of social games, as a way to try to scope someone out in advance of getting serious. One of the most common, is to pretend to be just-looking-for-a-good-friend, in an attempt to avoid having to deal with the embarrassment of coming on sexually too soon, and getting into trouble that way.

And then there's the strategy where you pretend to enjoy doing things that the other person claims to enjoy, in hopes that you might enjoy it enough to make headway with them, before trying to get them to stop doing that whatever it is.

And of course, lots and lots of talking and talking, trying to sort of half-way date, until you can decide whether you want to take the next step and actually spend time and money on each other.

Basically what I'm talking about, is that there is a lot of indirect stuff that has ALWAYS been a part of trying to date, that isn't 100% honest and "up front."

So what kind of "games" is it that you mean?

People who play games ,are also played by games.

So True

I agree 100% wuth u. all we ask for is love, to be loved. we give so much of ourselves, but in the end it nit good enough. i am so tired of games. i dont know weather the problem lays with me or them.

Reminds me of an old R&B song where he was playing game #9 and discovered to his surprise that she had played game #10...