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I've been around black folks all my life. Worked with some. Some I thought a lot of. I respected them. I'm 50 miles from Atlanta. I worked there for many years. The kind of work that I did brought me into contact with many different cultures. I'm not going to say what kind of work I did. I will say that in the course of doing my job I couldn't help but notice some things.

It wasn't just enough to turn me off. A LOT of black men that I knew, even though they were attracted to black women, wouldn't date them. But, in all honesty, I have to admit that I met and still know some white men that had stopped dating white women. Their reasons were different. Where many black men complained of even professional black women of being "finger snapping ghetto fabulous", white men complained that many white women seem to have forgotten how to treat a man.

All they can think about is their career and doing pretty much what they wanted to do. Not willing to put in the effort to make "him" a priority. I've heard white men complain about many different things about white women. I even read an article not to long ago about the many men, black, and white that were seeking women from China, Russia, and the Philippines. Mostly the Philippines.

Because they were still being taught from a young age how to make a man happy and keep him at home. Where American women now are taught to be very independent and not need a man. And before I get too far off track, It seems that in many black families now that the young girls are being taught to be argumentative, loud and pushy towards the men that come into there lives. They are being taught that getting up in a man's face, pointing their finger in his face, fussing, cussing and putting him down is the right way to treat him.

I'm sure that there are men out there that deserve what they get. I'm sure some ask for it by there actions towards the woman in their life. All I'm saying is, out of all the crap that I personally saw, I'm sure a few deserved being fussed and cussed out. But not all. I know several black men that are good men. I met several of the women that they dated. And almost all of them had that ghetto fabulous attitude. About 4 of them that I can remember now were professional women. To be honest, it really threw me that a professional woman would be that way.

In my time of working in Atlanta, almost every day, some black guy was killing some other black guy. Some black guy is breaking into someone's home. Some black guy is caught peeping in someone's window. And all kinds of other stuff. In the 15 years that I worked in Atlanta, I personally saw 5 killings. I was there when a cab driver got killed. I was there when a guy that was doing nothing but working his second job delivering newspapers for the AJC got shot in the head. All done by black men. And none had a real reason. One night, I got caught in the middle of a gunfight. Two guys shooting at each other back and forth across the street. It turned out to be over dope. Both black.

Sometimes I think that's what's wrong with me. I've seen too much. Witnessed it first hand. I know within reason that white folks do kill white folks. I also know this, there are more black men in prison for a violent crime than there are white. Or any other nationality in the US.

that is alot of separate issues, ID say one is the climate in Atlanta

and another is a negatively biased perception of black men based on the limited exposure in Atlanta or in your field of work


and another is a negatively biased perception of black women.


But whatever the case, I think pretty much by our stage of life few women are going to make a man that has come along in their life top priority, particularly if they have children.

I find it interesting the terminology 'ghettofabulous' and wonder if the same in white women might just be called 'ambitious' or 'independent'?

I appreciate your being able to discuss a sensitive topic, but as a black woman from a family full of black women, I do believe sometimes the experiences people have with other races has been limited and I believe those with a broader range of experiences are able to overcome a more limited scope of perception.

and I would still wonder what it is about the perception of a race in general would cause one to be unable to make an individual perception about an individual who is part of that race?

Really

OK, I think you and I are pretty much saying the same thing. I might not think the way I think about black women if I lived in, let's say, Texas or California. Or any other place besides the south. And no, it has nothing to do with being ambitious or independent. To me, it's more of an ignorant/dramatic way of being. This is the closest I can come to explaining what I'm talking about. Not trying to make a joke. You see a lot of this and more in the south. I'm sure that this way of being is in other parts of the USA. All I can speak of is here. And it's widespread.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tYUv5X5J7FE I don't understand why a woman would want to act in such a way. And it doesn't matter whether you are black, white, brown or purple polka dotted. To me, it has nothing to do with being a strong woman. You can be a strong woman and not act such a way. I've seen women act this way with there man. Out in public, in front of people. The guys looked so embarrassed. Not because she was right. Embarrassed because of her way of talking/being with him in public.

It's like I said before. I know within reason that all black women don't act this way. I know within reason that all black women do not treat their men in such way. Or talk to them in such a way. All I'm going by is what I've seen here and around Atlanta. I also know that what I've seen is just a speck on both sides. And yes, this is a sensitive subject. I believe that thinking people can have conversations about sensitive subjects. I try to remember that someone else reality may not be mine. Or mine, there's.

thank you, I appreciate the openness and honesty

experience is a great teacher, heres to more positive experiences in the future

People like what they like. If someone likes something, don't condemn or label others because it is different. Preference is prefence

i date outside of my race

that's right.
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Lols... That will be awesome,but not really the criteria.

Race? We're all part of the human race, just saying. Would I date another ethnicity, sure would. My dad is "white" and my mom is "brown". It's nothing new to me.

Honestly I’m only interested in black women at this point in my life. The dynamic is much more satisfying

yeah baby you have me

Absolutely. It's great to experience the love of a person of any race. I do not cross the line between species however.

hey is it here to post? sorry I am new and dumb

I have before and I would again. My daughter is biracial, and by example, I show her that neither 'race' from which she comes is without beauty and attractiveness.

im looking forward to it

Anyone can love anybody. I don't judge the color of skin. As long as the relationship is sincere and responsible.

I certainly would , we all the same inside