If you (man or woman) had to choose whether to be "loved" or "respected" in a relationship...which one would it be ??
This is a simple question, no tricks !!

I guess I will have to be greedy on this one and say both. If I am in a relationship I want to be loved and respected for the loss of either one and the relationship is doomed.

if there is love ..there is respect. if you don’t respect the person then its proof love is not there.

You cannot have true love without the respect

Doesn't matter.

If I choose respect, then they have to respect my decision to find additional relationships for love.

If I choose love, then they would accept me finding additional relationships with respect.



It's an overly simplistic question.

Choosing either one to mutually exclude the other means the relationship is doomed to fail unless I/they are psychopaths.

If I choose love (and assuming a lack of respect does not guarantee disrespect so much as a neutrality or apathy), why would she respect my communication of love, it'd have no meaning or relevance.

If I chose respect, why would she stick around after her next crush on a guy she both respected and could love. Why would I stick around if my loving communication wasn't reciprocated. You trying to show love to someone incapable of returning it is ultimately putting them in a position of harm, assuming they are relatively normal human beings. Why would I stick around in a relationship putting them in that position.


Then it would mean I have some sort of gun to my head, or some sort of universal omnipotent monster making me choose.
If that's the case, the choice is purely arbitrary making us both victims.
Then it's not really any kind of meaningful relationship, just two potential survivors of some madgods schemes.




If I was dating 2 women, and falling in love with both, would I continue to date the woman that showed an abundance of respect for all things about me, but little love, or the woman that communicated a lot of love, but little respect (albeit not disrespect) for things about me that I generally demand/desire respect for?
I'd choose the latter.

How could you love someone but not respect them?

It's not a simple question at all. There are tricks built into the chosen words.

Too many people have used the word "respect" to refer to very unpleasant things in my lifetime. Too many people have used "love" to mean things other than caring.

And as someone else has alluded to, love doesn't exist without respect.

WOW...this is thought provoking. You folks brought up a lot of good points.
A man has a lot of romance hidden in his heart (few seem to know this) but the respect of a good woman can unlock his heart and have free course to all that romance.
Likewise a woman has a lot of adoration hidden in her heart but a man's willingness to love her and lay down his life for her, will unlock a limitless supply of adoration and respect from her.

yes right you are!!

love can not run for a long time if there is no respect...

I have nothing to add, all the above are correct. There has to be both.

good observation

In general I totally agree with this but I also feel there are some people who are broken due to any number of reasons , and are either unwilling or incapable of reciprocating love or respect no matter how much they receive . Thats why I personally prefer to be selective about the people I choose to give all my love and respect to when it cones to a romantic relationship

This question separates Love and Respect, but can you love a person without respect? Love without respect isn't love, it can be passion, basic instinkt, conjugal duty... whatever,but not love.

without a doubt I would choose love. you know that feeling you get when your special someone just looks at you and you get the butterflies. I've been disrespected a lot, so what. i got over it, and the making up is so intense. yeah, disrespect isn't so bad

Well I always loved it if they respect me in the morning....are at least give me a goodbye kiss... before you roll over and pass out again.. from exhaustion....
Boo yeah touchdown.lol.

First; loved truly
Second; loved and respected truly

In love ; only a loved person is fully respected.

both

love: an intense feeling of deep affection.

respect: feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements.


this is a difficult one. To me, love comes from a 'blind' place in terms of its pure emotion and respect comes from a more specific place

there are strangers I respect due to their accomplishments but I have no feeling of affection for them

I loved someone who also loved me, but he was unable to have respect for the same things that I respected, which manifested in my feeling as if I was not being respected, but never doubting that the love was there.

So, on my own experience, if I had to choose, Id prefer the RESPECT that a great friendship could be built on rather than a love that lacked mutual respect of each other(priorities and values)