My sister in law lost her husband 3 years ago. She has been asking me to come over and fix things quite often. I have no problem with this. But she seems to be making little hints towards me getting real close to me when I am fixing or working on things. I rubbing and laying her head on me. I'm married and love my wife to death. but I don't want to hurt my sister in law either. how do any one have a fix for me.

There is a possibility that he is sincerely asking for advice and had to join to use the forums. Since he suspects she wants to do an intimate encounter with him, he imagined that should be the subject at hand.

If that is the case...

Bob, use you big head and stand in accordance to your morality code.
Tell her that you honor your vows with her sister and that she is attractive enough to find someone just for her.
Make it clear that you have no romantic or intimate interest in her.
In the future bring your wife along.

I do understand your logic.
I also understand that for someone not familiar with dating sites and looking for an answer to a problem involving an intimate encounter how they might see it as a sorting element for a better answer likelihood.

Of course, I could be wrong. He may be actually looking for an intimate encounter. I didn't actually look at his profile to make that assessment. The only thing I have to go on is his OP and your response.

He does have 3 posts to his name but again, I didn't go searching for the other two. I took his OP at face value and tried not to make assumptions about his intent.

Love it! Maybe he wants an intimate ncounter with his sister-in-law & is asking people he doesn't know for permission ?!

That guy bob, says he's widowed, on his profile.

Earlier it said intimate encounter, guess he's confused with the sister in-law issue.

First of all you can't decide if your married and have a wife or a widow looking to get laid????

Shshshshs doubt there is a sister inlaw or your already tapping that one~~

Hahaha, Bob, Ya can't get past these fine ladies.
They caught ya.
Now you're doomed.

and now it's back to intimate encounter

so with that in mind the answer to the op is


you have a ready made and willing partner invite her to join you and the wife you love so much

dude..

If you have to ask advice, you are in trouble.

thanks for all the replays we got My wife and I read each one and laugh at some and though others over very. well We both met with my sister in law talk to her about this and we all agreed to go ahead with what we were all wanting. What and amazing experience it was If I had took some fokes advice would have sure missed out.