I met one fantastic woman, but she is clouded by a dream chase. Some guys can wait a bit and I never had a problem.

Its just that one day, or week after, when I went "the hek with it" and my front door was being knocked on or the phone was ringing.

I just say "Sorry"...I will never wait for an extended period of time that places me in the mindset of insecurity.

Just me. All things come to an end.

Tom..,once again that was like a nail on my head..thank you.

hello sea yes i guess it takes two sides. would it be fair if one decides for both and just cut the waiting short?

hello mui i agree all things come to an end eventually. all this shall pass... thank you

impatience and anticipation of doom ...i get it not worth waiting for but what if its the right thing to do? sort of like when you know the boat is going to sink you wait for other people to react and not throw them over. and what am i saying ? patience mist really be a virtue what's happening to me im going nuts. just ignore me my friends

Hi Sceptical

Yes, it would be fair, although it can be painful for the other side. We can't help ourselves and if we don't feel it, the best is to let the other side know about the change. That is fair: as soon as we realize it and before they've done something that would have some impact on their life, just because of us. F.e. I was ready to pay for the ticket to USA just to meet someone and see where it gets us. SEeveral hours videos were great but to really know you have to meet them in reality. My thoughts were: either we shall say no but still remain good friends as we were before or we shall say yes and work further on it. We were friends first and I've trusted him enough. Still it was a big deal for the ticket and visa cost more than my monthly sallary. However he got afraid and I was just happy I didn't ruin myself So it does depend on both sides if they are both willing to do something for that

Life is a book that writes itself and we never know what's going to be on the next page.

I think waiting for someone you value and believe in, is worth the wait. I would follow my heart. If it says wait, I'd wait. If it says I'm not feeling valued, I believe I would move on. We don't live forever.

My best to you.

Blondey, you get more awesome with every post. You Rock!

tick-tock, tick-tock.

short and simple and precise ...thanks blondey

thanks for sharing dear were you still friends after?

you would wait because you think theres a possibility or you hope things will eventually work in your favor? sometimes the heart makes us blind to reality. do you agree?

Well, not so much lol, we did talk afterwards too, but it just helped me to see how immature and afraid of any real bond he is although he persuded it for months
But I wish him only well That's life

yes that is life it goes on and on and on as it should

Every situation is different because they are different people. Someone that has manners and respect for others will handle it different from someone without those qualities.

The thing that makes it so difficult is that a person knows their own limits of virtue but doesn't know other people's limits of virtue.

Since you are always you, it is wise to expect and embrace your own limits. It is also wise to understand that other's may not respect your limits and you may not know theirs. You may be insane with love for them while they may only be curious of you. AND vice versa.

Ignorance is not going nutz, it is, not understanding or not having all the pertinent information. Communication is the key.

It can all be bewildering but only you can determine its worth, to you. Never put yourself down for not understanding. Make it a point to understand. Your topic is your attempt to understand so none of your friends will ignore you. We try to help in our own way.

I feel what you are going thru. You have a complex issue you are trying to sort out but you are having problems saying it right. Give it some more thought and grab a pencil and write down your thoughts till they say what you wish to say. Then just post it.

This is why many people keep a personal journal or diary. It helps them sort out those difficult things. Rereading your entries can help you refine your thoughts and gain emotional maturity.
The opposite of emotional maturity is emotional conflict.
Conflict causes stress and can deteriorate your self-esteem.

tock tick ticky tock

Reading lots of good advice here

For me personally to consider someone worth the inconvenience or risk of waiting, I have to see that our feelings are MUTUAL, and perceive our connection and what he brings to my life as unique, and almost irreplaceable. Only you can guage within yourself if the person's feelings are as strong as yours, and how "irreplaceable" that person is in your heart.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wln6NX0V4AQ

Anyway,
I've been waiting for a girl like you -foreigner

that sounds familiar