I had a conversation with a friend recently, he is married but still seeking for young ladies, and when I accused him of infidelity he replied that there are things I will never understand as a woman who are driving him into the hands of other women, I pleaded with him to tell me those things but he refused, so I decided to throw it into this forum, So men in the house, what can really happen that can drive a man into an act of infidelity.

Hi. I guess my view would be, if he's not happy in his relationship and feels the need to look else where then maybe he shouldn't be in that relationship. a lot of relationships tend to breakdown in time. Mabye its time to move on.

The only things that can "drive" (as in compel without real choice) someone to have sex with another is an extreme hormonal/brain/mental problem, some sort of coercion like a threat on their life, or extreme constantly reinforced group pressure.

Otherwise it's just rationalizing personal choice to avoid responsibility.



Of course there is a lot that isn't really said in the OP.
Like does he have his wife's permission or does she know.
Is he consciously and willfully lying to his wife about seeing other women.
Is he actually meeting up with other women or just "seeking for young ladies." Like on a dating app or site is he phishing for validation. Collecting emails and messages to see if younger women still find him attractive, thereby feeling he has value to the group as an individual. With no plans and wouldn't actually meet them in person.
Is he married but "separated" and working on a divorce.
Is it a type of beard relationship where it's "for the children" or career or healthcare.

Is it infidelity in the context of his relationship with his wife, or does his behavior simply fulfill your personal definition of infidelity in the context of your morals and values and judgments.

dont sad....in this life it will happen ....bad people are bad ...no dought good people are also good......so be happy .....☺☺☺☺

Rationalization is a communicable condition.

hi

i need a gf

Well I never cheated on the person I was with but what can drive a man into the act of infidelity. Lack of communication can most people doesn't know how to communicate. Lack of trust, thinks the grass greener on the other side, not ready to be with one women are some reasons that drive a man into the act of infidelity.

Emotional depletion is one of the main reasons .

Best to stay away from those types of situations,there's always more than one side to a story .

Soulfie's got it. That's just a rationalization on his part. Blaming his WIFE for his own decision to discard any sense of personal honor.

There are plenty of things that women can and do do, to drive their mate crazy, just as we men can drive women up the wrong wall in various ways. But what each person chooses to DO about that, is on THEM.

I guess the number one thing to watch out for in yourself, is the "old classic switcheroo." That's where you pretend to like doing all kinds of things, and to be tolerant of all manner of glitches in the other person, until AFTER you get a commitment and move in together, and then start to reveal that after all, you really DON'T like or want them the way they really ARE, you want some other version of them altogether.

I'm currently in a relationship with the father of my child but it's come to the point where I feel stuck and everything I say it's over he doesn't believe me because we share a house and I've come to the point where I feel like if I sleep with a girl and have pleasure with her it could be a secret life that I could enjoy for myself seeing as I'm bisexual and I like girls more and me and my bf don't have sex anymore (haven't had sex in 1 year and half) please advise me

women
men
kids
the wind blowing to hard
the wind not blowing at all
cats
dogs
snails
turkeys
the wall color
the wall needing painting
bacon
sausage
steaks
tacos
radio
fishing
beer
weed
viagra
miniskirts
pants
shirts
boobs


need i go on?

his lack of character..

Never cheated on a woman so I nothing to contribute to this thread.

Sometimes we just go our different ways. It happens. Not a problem if its mutual.

So I have no complaints. Stuff happens in life.

hmmm...nothing new here...been going on since the Neanderthals had the first caveman toga party and played spin the dinosaur...

Ditto

Most if not all cheaters have the option of respectfully ending the relationship with the mate that they have all these complaints about.

What most do instead, is sleep around behind their partner's back , painting themselves as helpless martyrs who are FORCED to cheat in secret because they dont want to hurt their mate or break up the family unit for their kids.

Its almost laughable if you think about it because most of these affairs done in the dark to "protect" their family, often come to the light ,inciting atomic sized divorce suits and devastated and bewildered children.

Bottom line, there is no valid reason for cheating. In most cases people can respectfully end the relationship they are complaining about before moving on to another.

Ps: Im not saying that cheating is the reason for all divorces or broken.families. Im not even saying that it is impossible for a relationship to survive the act of cheating because some relationships do.

Im just saying that it is a common cause thats too often justified and easily perpetuated

The same things that make a woman cheat.

Got to love it..nobody really talks of infidelity when a woman does it Lol...

takes 2 to tangle.. and either they are married too.. or they know he is ;)

Punctuation is your friend.