Topic: Should I just give up?
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Wed 11/28/07 03:30 PM

you guys are good advice givers tonight. haha. =]

do i ever give advice that isn't absolutely mindblowing? lol

Johncenawlife316's photo
Wed 11/28/07 03:33 PM
I never found no one.

Never given up or felt like trying much more or less. Because I guess I am just unlikeable or something. No dates off line or online, crazy.


Jared545's photo
Wed 11/28/07 03:33 PM
I think some guys just think that confident, outspoken guys are jerks. The reason they get the girls is because they are not afraid to make the first move, and that makes things more comfortable for the girl. Not like I know anything about it, or else I probably would'nt be on this site laugh

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Wed 11/28/07 03:36 PM

I think some guys just think that confident, outspoken guys are jerks. The reason they get the girls is because they are not afraid to make the first move, and that makes things more comfortable for the girl.

I second that

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Wed 11/28/07 03:37 PM

do i ever give advice that isn't absolutely mindblowing? lol


how could i possibly know that? unless i've heard every single piece of advice you've ever given...hahaha. noway

polypeasant's photo
Wed 11/28/07 03:41 PM
I don't think you have to worry...patience....
put that respect for women and fun loving...peeked at your profile....lots of guy things in what you like to do what about the other stuff...music movies...drives...
just a thought...
keep smiling and keep yourself visable.

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Wed 11/28/07 03:43 PM
dont give up you are a very handsome guy i like ur pic flowerforyou

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Wed 11/28/07 03:44 PM

I know because I used to be like that. Then I discovered something that changed my life; turned it around 360 degrees.

To give you a push in the right direction, let me tell you this: It's impossible to truly respect another person unless you truly respect yourself.

Ever wonder what women mean when they tell you "Just be yourself?" Think about it... Haven't you been denying women the chance to see who you REALLY are by showing them more respect than you give to yourself? How do you act around your closest friends? You joke around with your buddies and aren't afraid to playfully tease them, right? Try acting this way (totally congruent and "yourself") around women and I guarentee you that you will notice a HUGE difference in how they respond to you.

Stop TRYING to be "Mr. Nice Guy" and don't let people walk all over you if that's not who you really are on the inside. If you are TRYING, women can tell. Most "nice guys" are actually manipulative and act nice in hopes of getting sex in exchange for kindness or some crazy subconcsious idea like that.


That is very real, better than a poem my friend.:wink:

fortsmithman's photo
Wed 11/28/07 03:45 PM
Don't give up. The lady will come who is meant tobe your lady. I was thining about giving up but I'm not ganna give up tyet who knows what gonna happen.

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Wed 11/28/07 03:50 PM
2 bad you are so far away ... you cutiepatootie

muah
flowerforyou

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Wed 11/28/07 03:50 PM
none of my so called matches are interested in me......but i love me and just keep having fun here and date people i meet in real life...i love soooo many people on jsh that i'm sure i will never have the priviledge (sp) to meet in person....but i probably know them better than if we had met in person.....keep on keepin' on darlin...plus if you need a lady to be happy, well that's just not rightflowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou

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Wed 11/28/07 03:51 PM
Don't be alarmed, or think there's something wrong with you.

I feel your pain. If there's anything worse than being alone,it's being alone AND feeling worthless, or rejected.

Take responsibility for your own fate, but don't kick yourself if it doesn't work out as you planed.


It's %50 luck, and %50 perseverance.

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Wed 11/28/07 03:52 PM


I think some guys just think that confident, outspoken guys are jerks. The reason they get the girls is because they are not afraid to make the first move, and that makes things more comfortable for the girl.

I second that


However, the woman who falls for that isn't the one you want anyway. you want a wise and cautious woman who keeps her wits about her, someone stable which parallels being steady and loving- patient. If 'that' woman sees you being persistantly genuine, she will recognize and respect your' sincerity. True love will always ease your heart, not confuse your mind or titilate you with 'mystery' and 'exitment'. It can 'be' exiting. But there will always be a firmness within your heart.

sorry, I'm rambling.laugh :tongue: flowerforyou

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Wed 11/28/07 03:52 PM

none of my so called matches are interested in me......but i love me and just keep having fun here and date people i meet in real life...i love soooo many people on jsh that i'm sure i will never have the priviledge (sp) to meet in person....but i probably know them better than if we had met in person.....keep on keepin' on darlin...plus if you need a lady to be happy, well that's just not rightflowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou

i second that mindset

spread the love :heart:

and thank you, nuenjins

MicheleNC's photo
Wed 11/28/07 03:52 PM
Never seems so absolute. Why give up? What do you have to lose?

Play with us here in the forums, make friends, all the other advice given, etc.

Patience is key. Don't look so hard and the right one will fall in your lap.

:smile: M

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Wed 11/28/07 03:52 PM
ya know, it's really hard to say what women really want. the last woman i was with was a long distance relationship to begin with. i'm in utah, she was in massachusetts. after she moved here, she told me i was too nice and wanted to do too much for her. she said she felt like i was baby sitting her when all i was trying to do was make sure she was having a good time because she didn't know anyone here but me. all this "just be yourself" talk, i think, is b.s. because i was being myself with her; i'm a nice, respectful guy. it's how i was raised. she ditched me after being in utah less than a month. i'm with ya, man. totally ready to give up, but i think it's when we finally let go that things happen. so my advice would be to just let it go, stop worrying about being alone and enjoy it while you can. i know it's easier said than done.

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Wed 11/28/07 03:53 PM
I'm interestred pick me pick me!!!laugh laugh raises her hand! flowerforyou

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Wed 11/28/07 03:53 PM

I think some guys just think that confident, outspoken guys are jerks. The reason they get the girls is because they are not afraid to make the first move, and that makes things more comfortable for the girl. Not like I know anything about it, or else I probably would'nt be on this site laugh


not to mention when i have made the first move nothing came of it.

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Wed 11/28/07 03:55 PM




It's %50 luck, and %50 perseverance.


Luck?.........Horseshoes and hand grenades. All it's good for smokin

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Wed 11/28/07 03:57 PM



I think some guys just think that confident, outspoken guys are jerks. The reason they get the girls is because they are not afraid to make the first move, and that makes things more comfortable for the girl.

I second that


However, the woman who falls for that isn't the one you want anyway. you want a wise and cautious woman who keeps her wits about her, someone stable which parallels being steady and loving- patient. If 'that' woman sees you being persistantly genuine, she will recognize and respect your' sincerity. True love will always ease your heart, not confuse your mind or titilate you with 'mystery' and 'exitment'. It can 'be' exiting. But there will always be a firmness within your heart.

sorry, I'm rambling.laugh :tongue: flowerforyou


Oh come on. That's like saying that the man who falls for good looks isn't the one you want. Women respond to social value (directly related to the fearlessness it takes to make the first move, being confident, and being outspoken) just as strongly as men's response to good looks.

First impressions are important. Women make their first first first impression to men with what they wear and stuff related to looks. Men must make a positive first impression with social value if they want a shot with the girl.