Maybe we should ask if men think sex means love?
Well, as a man I have thought about both of these questions many times. However, a post on another forum topic on this site spurred me to say the following things, which were posted elsewhere.

The phrase "making love" is code for sex in our culture, so let's start by thinking about that.
The drive for sex and using sex as a bond is much stronger in men for evolutionary reasons. Men are like sperm soldiers evolutionarily, kinda like worker bees. We just want to get the business on at first, but we will also fiercely protect our mate once we do.
I also have to say that men need a continual signal of need (affection) from a woman or they will go elsewhere. If a woman is done with them, then they have the evolutionary responsibility to go elsewhere to continue to spread their seed.
Women need to be choosy in terms of genetics, but they also need to be sure that the man will be there to provide when children come. Men respond to a woman's emotions, and those emotions are what help keep the bond going, or what break it, for what ever reason.
The love bond between man and woman is a trade off between security for the woman and her potential children and the need for a man to mate with as many women as possible (yes, that is a cultural dilemma in our society but is a natural explanation for why men cheat).
When you talk about "love" you have to think about the biological origins of word before you go further. Let's think about it.
What do you readers think?

So if men are sperm soldiers does that make women c** dumpsters.?..lol..
What about women that can't have children.?.. what role does sex play for them then... except from being very very satisfying....

Ps.. if I love somebody we better be having sex and a lot of it..lol..

... yes I know it's a little bit out there I second thought using it for a second...
How some women might be offended...
But then I Shrugged my shoulders. And said screw it !!..it's just a funny saying guys use sometimes.. like when they say ...ie )baby I'm going to fill you so full of meat you're going to feel like a walk-in freezer..lol

Well, I think you've gone over the basic function of reproduction....very good...

Now your initial concept is more interesting, be it that you should have gone more in detail about the love vs sex issue...

I have been married 3 times and had one offspring from each woman.
My idea of having 3 children was fulfilled, albeit, by a means, I had not originally considered. My first marriage was all about love... But she had health issues that threatened her life... so no more kids...As time went on we divorced. 2nd marriage a strong like, but we both had a strong desire for a child. 3rd wife was love and I got my third child. It was never my intention to be with 3 women to get my 3 children. Recently I was eating breakfast with all three. They are so much cut from the same cloth, it makes me laugh. They were laughing and joking as if they had grown up toghether!! I think of women who get pregnant, to get their man to love them. I on the other hand wanted my children. I have no regertz! We are happy and that is all that matters!!

I think you got the basics right, sort of. We are all still instinct driven in certain matters. But I think those come mostly from the reptilian brain and we have evolved as a species since that part of the brain ruled us and procreation was all that mattered.

Men need love and affection as much as women do. Some people however still need to sort out things concerning sexuality because in the past both the masculine and feminine have been damaged and hurt sexually. Once ppl sort that out, they can find a better inner balance.

Your argument on why men cheat is BS. Research says women cheat as much -if not more- than men and we don't have to spread our seed.

I believe love is sex, the way friendship is movies,,,lol

most the world has identified sex as synonymous with love, as is present in the argument that 'you can't help who you love', or 'why shouldn't I be able to love who I want?'

As I have said before, love is an emotion, sex is an action,,,

there are many actions that are CAPABLE of being used to express love and many types of love, there are many reasons besides love that people have sex and many types of sex

for me, they have and always will be two totally seperate things.

Sex has only become a recreational activity in the last few years (in the grand scheme of things )
It was only for procreating!
Then some guy found the right spot and the rest is history
You can have sex with someone weather your in love with them or not!

I like turtles.

I think I had too much to drink last night. Not sure what the hell I was thinking when I wrote all that. I appreciate all the coherent responses and the funny ones. Made me think about it more.

That explains a lot...

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Wow wow?

I believe that is a direct quote from the best seller "1000 Wows"! A 1000 page turner. I believe she was on page 2...

No, men just want sex sometimes without loving the woman!

Exactly! What else are we waiting for. I have waited to be of age to do the naughty,don't need more delay.
I could remember when I was about 12yrs. I was at a children day party with a friend, we saw lots of beautiful girls. My friend was amazed, he called me; Bright, when are we gonna be of age to f**k? It makes me laugh out loud any time I recall that day.

It's not true..... Without love, romance and foreplay... No one can enjoy the sex.... Btw I'm not sure bcuz i didn't

yea I don't know about this whole individual stereotypical view that my love is nothing more than a mission to be carried out by my sperm soldiers, why I see a correlation in that I do require Mr.Microphone to stand at attention and while I have on occasion given it a salute..I like to think that my mind set is to do nothing more than carry out my covert mission..j/s

Hiii