I believe that tho be it is not an important part of a relationship, i feel that there must be some level of physical attration in a relationship... I believe that for several reasons, it keeps me saying "god, i can't believe she's with me" kinda a way to say how fortunate i am.... also it keeps sexual desire high, which (mind you i'm 23 yrs old) doesn't everyone enjoy a good lay? And i'm the faithful type, so i'm not going to head out and look for some prostitute... And i think that if i was in a relationship, where i did not desire that intimate interaction, i would feel unfullfilled.

I guess i'm lookign to find out, would people call me shallow?

if i know what i'm looking for, am i shallow for avoiding what i don't want?

I get mutual match possibilities, and i deny them because i know from a glance, i'd probly never be happy, i'll allways feel like i coulda done better... or maybe because they allready have a child, and not that i don't want children, but i want my own children, i don't want to raise someone elses... and i SURE AS HELL don't wanna be somebody's sugar daddy.


I dunno, i'm just kinda lookin for input.

I think the same way. I guess we'll be the shallow guys around here. The reason why I want a girl with the looks is because I can go and say "Hey look at this beautiful girl" I can show her off and have her on my arm.
I think its in every guys nature to want a beautiful girl to show off and brag about having.

i wouldn't even use the word "beautiful" neccisarily, i mean your on the same page i'm on clearly, but i don't even think of a girl as a bragging thing.... i mean, i want to be with someone, who i desire day after day, no matter how long i been with them.

looks aren't everything guys. what happens one day if that beautiful woman of yours is disfigured in some kind of accident???

i never said looks are everything, and obviously things happen like that all the time...

but am i shallow for denying a possiblity, when i know i wouldn't be happy w/ that possibility? it's like buying a car you know your not going to like almost, it could get smashed up too... okay not the same thing i know

without physical attraction whats the point of a relationship?

You can't feed your' spouse with a spoon on a pole. But then again, some real beautiful women get uglier the more they show the inside and vice versa. But initially you really do have to asess if you're attracted enough to 'be with' that person physically also.

Not shallow, it's natural. But there again, to me it's unattractive for a woman to 'let herself go', it shows a bit of disinterest and (dare I say) laziness to exspect a man to feel elated just by "showing up".

how do you know you won't be happy with a person until you try to know them?

in my opinion most women would find that an instant turn off...its all in the attitude guys

Guys, finding a woman who can cook is MUCH more important than physical attractiveness.

After all, guys:

The looks will eventually wear off, but you'll always be hungry .

oh knox...come here darlin...ill cook ya something up lol

aybay...looks won't be there forever. other things are important such as financial stability, trust, not a serial killer, etc

THERE's a difference between wanting someone you're physically attracted to and wanting a trophy. mrosebro, what you're describing is a phusical attraction. Honestly, why would anyone want to be with someone they're not physically attracted to? Sex IS an important part of a relationship, tho there is much more to it than that. Lookingfortheone is looking for a trophy. Someone he can show off. He has much growing and learning to do.

You guys are young, and you will learn that beauty is only skin deep. Sure you can have a beautiful girl on the outside...but what if she is ugly on the inside? What would you rather have..inner beauty or outer beauty?? You can only parade a woman around for so long!!
How do you know that these single women with children are even looking for someone to raise their chilren? I am sure that right there is going to offend a lot of women with children! I myself do not want someone to raise my boys! My boys do have a father...why do they need another one?? Please explain this one to me!!!
I do think both of you guys are shallow...all you talk about is looks. Let me ask you this...what do you have to offer that beautiful woman? Do you think you have good enough looks to keep that woman interested in you??
With age comes wisdom...don't worry, you will get wiser!!!

That's called friendship, which is essential, but you can't lie that physical attraction is unimportant. I see you ladies post and swoon over Johny Depp and george Clooney, Don't play coy

if someone is a jerk or a pig...i don't care if they look like brad pitt, howard stern, or jason from friday the 13th.

i wouldnt say your shallow, but if you dont give the mutual matches a chance how do you know that you havent missed on the one your looking for.

everything should be important in the other person, personality, sense of humor, communication, looks (to some point), etc.

Shallow?

on the note of children, if there's going to be regular interaction w/ children, expected or unexpected, regular interaction eventually builds a roll of one type or another, and a situation w/ children is one that at 23, i'm not looking to jump into... you can't hold that against me. OF COURSE inner beauty is more important, whoever i believe a good outter beauty is not only a physical thing, but a way to see that a person takes care of themself.. Someone who weighs 400 pounds has a lack of care SOMEWHERE there when it comes to maintaining themselves... and YES, i am takeing my own advice on that, i can't say i'm good looking or not, that's for other people to make up their minds on, how ever i am striveing on many things, one of which is to become more physically fit. and i plan on obtaining that goal, and keeping it.

further more what do i have to offer? i have personality, honesty, loyalty, financial stability, i'm a non smoker, i don't drink but once in a RARE BLUE MOON, i've never dried a smoke or any drug in my entire life. I DON'T lie to ANYONE... EVER, i don't beat around the bush, and i don't let things go unsaid, that need to be said. I can communication openly and calmly, and i am good at solveing problems, even in a stressfull manor...

and is it too much to look for someone who can do the same?