would you choose to love someone who doesn't love you as much or be with a person you know who loves you but you dont truly love? or...just stay single till the time that equal love happens if there is such

I would definitely not settle for less, it's all or nothing. I'll just patiently wait for something Wonderful to happen.....I believe there's such thing out there.... LOVE HAPPENS

I'll stay single until I meet a woman who sees me as an equal, not a utility.

You don't really choose to love.
It's a binding process you don't have much conscious control over.

The only real choice you have is to stay away from that person during the bonding process so it doesn't complete, or choose to stay away, not interact, with the person you love so it doesn't influence your behavior as much.

You can't whimsically choose to like ice cream.
You can choose to not eat it.
You can modify your behavior and emotional associations to help you avoid it.


Depends on the circumstances.

I can't help loving someone even if they don't love me as much.
If I loved them I don't think I'd spend too much time trying to scientifically measure the degree they love me and compare it to my own to figure out "well...it's not quite as much as I love them..."

Since this is a hypothetical, if hypothetically some strange woman came up to me and said "I love you! I have 100 million dollars and half is all yours if you stay with me for 1 year!" then I would "be with a person you know who loves you but you dont truly love."


Making a conscious choice to stay single, avoiding dating and people by consciously rejecting them, is a different situation than someone that is single simply because they've been focused on other life important things.

Idealizing a relationship status (equal or death!) is driven by different factors than a reaction of "it'll happen if/when it happens."

Consciously choosing to stay single for idealistic purposes is, IMO, mostly driven by anger and fear.
It's not really helping anyone, it's helping atrophy and socializing abilities, it's only really training your ability to reject people while maintaining self identity.

Other than that, there's no such thing as "equal love."
People feel love. It's a relatively subjective individual internal experience.
The only thing you will ever be shown is how they communicate it.
You will never know their love, only how they express it, consciously or driven subconsciously through automatic reaction.
People have different i.q.'s. People inherently communicate themselves differently. People have different values and thought processes, different automatic associations and emotional associations.

If you're waiting for equivalent reciprocity of love communication that you absolutely understand to all depths and degrees without any effort, no misunderstandings, no learning process, especially if you demand it before you participate, then IMO you're just looking for reasons to fail.

i have been in the first two situations and now just wishing to be in the last one...maybe...hopefully...at the right time

I've been in love with someone who loved me before I realized I loved them as much but by then they fell out of love with me.. if that's possible...lol... I've never been with someone I've loved and they have not loved me back... I've been with someone who loved me before I love them.. only because it takes me awhile to truly give myself to love... and here's the hard part... you can't fall in love with someone until you spend time with them.. and usually by the time you realize you're not going to fall in love with them.. you've spent so much time with them... it's hard to break things off..

Some people have no problem.. saying goodbye to other people.... I myself find it difficult to do..

Seems it's never the right time, for some of us.

thank you all . our choices define who we are...we just have to make the right one i guess.

I posted something similar few weeks ago. Some good comments we had.

But in general; Love given=love received ...or nothing at all.

Love equation : 1+1=1

It is impossible to measure love,or to predict it in advance. The sensations love provide, are fleeting and always changing. Because of that, I no longer want to decide whether or how to commit to someone, based on such.

That doesn't mean I don't want love, I want it far more ravenously than ever before. What I wont do, is decide to commit my life, to someone who lets their moment to moment physiological sensations, decide things for them.

I have been reading this thread for a while, probably since creation.

Today I offer comment.

I have spent many years single awaiting for right Lady to arrive.

A couple times I thought she did arrive and I guess she did but ultimately...single again.

Way incredible times with those Ladies.

Often times the man loves her more or the woman loves him more! Probably rare love is 50/50 between them! Imo

Several points dear Lady:
-Honesty and sincerity are absent from mind and heart
-many people like only to receive and almost nothing to give
-many people have difficulty to trust other persons
-A lot of perfectionists around there...
-Many people see more weaknesses than the strengths
-Many people don't love anybody...only themselves
-Too many bad experiences in their lives
-etc etc....

Then....Impossible to give love and receive love at 50/50

People prefer stay single and live in total peace and with love from families and maybe good friends. That's it!!

I say there can be different kinds of love at different stages in our life ...



Know and Know to each of your questions...

thank you all ... ill just wait for the one to choose me

The 1st most important thing in life, is to love someone.
The 2nd most important thing in life, is to have someone love you.
The 3rd most important thing in life, is to have the first two ... happen at the same time, lol

Good luck to us all.

Two thumbs up.

I'll definitely choose someone I love~ if I love u... you're mine~ well, I am a outer beauty person so....depends~

I've had it both of those ways and didn't care for ether so I vote single.

^^This..