I dont see any problem with age difference as long as you and your partner dont have a problem with it who cares what every body else thinks and as long as the person is on the same level of maturity as you I say go for it. I've dated older before and I didnt have any problems at all.

As long as there is attraction, connection, communication and a willingness to try, anything can work.

When I was 21 I dated a man that was 43...the best years of my life have been the 2 that I spent with him. I felt awkard at first but after dating for a few months I felt nothing wrong with it and fell in love with him and everything I learned from him. GO FOR IT!

Is it harder on the younger person or the older one... in your opinion?

Unsure of that one.

I think both have issues. I know that when I was in that situation, we both felt a little funny around our established friends. But after a while, that was OK. The biggest difference we found was in our musical tastes. But I think we eventually just expanded each others world a little. I think overall, it was a good experience after getting over the little stuff.

Ahh, the age question. Such an interesting one too. I tell ya, I think this question (along with the distance question) are probably the two most common ones on dating sites like this.

Anyways, on to the topic at hand. Age difference. Dragon, you said you are 25 right? He is 38? Okay, so 13 years difference. What the problem is?

First of all, you are an adult woman. You make your own decisions for yourself. It's not like this is a case where you are 17 and he is 30 or something, cause then Mom and Dad would not be keen on that. As it stands, you are a woman, and you can best decide what you want to do. If this man is someone that you are connecting with and you want to pursue it, then, like my gal Storm said, it doesn't matter what others really think.

Will it be odd? Yeah, it is going to be. And different, and you will get looks from others. But I think you are over analyzing this whole thing. I understand looking at it from all perspectives, but the main one here is "Do you want this?". And if you do, then you just answered your own question.

My Mom was 20 when she met my dad, and he was 30. Ten years age difference. They have been married for 30 years come July 2008. Wasn't always easy as my Mom did tell me that friends her age wondered why she would want to be with someone much older than her. But she just fell for him, and that was all she wrote. Age was just never an issue for them. I even have an Uncle that married a woman (my aunt of course) who was 11 years older than him, and they have been married over 40 years.

Honestly, I think in your case, just take a step back, look at all the facts here, and then make your choice. Sounds to me like you have, and if you choose the older man, then good luck. But don't let age come in and ruin it for you. You could miss out on something wonderful.

You know, I was thinking about the music earlier lol. When I was young my grandfather played 45's and albums for me. I know a lot of old music. At the same time I love bands like disturbed, Nightwish, and Garbage... somehow I don't think that will be something he likes lol.

i dont think age should matter, its the connection

Dragon, I have a son-in-law who is only a few years younger than I am. When I am with them, I am reminded of what love is.

Go with your heart - the rest really doesnt matter. This is what everyone's trying to tell you.

All the best ...
B

I agree. The guy I like we have a four year difference, yeah its not that bad. But some people dont think it's going to work since I'm only 18.

it depends on the person you need to you... dont worry about what others are saying or thinking because in the end they arnt the ones making you happy

follow your heart, youll know

My aunt and uncle are 20 years apart. My uncle is 3 years younger than my grandmother... called my grandparents "MOM & DAD"!

They've been married for 28 years and are very happy.

If you're happy, go for it. Love doesn't know age.

Eeeeeeeeewwwwwwwwwww!!!!!!!!!!!!!

It will work you love him he loves you whats the problem none that I can see

hey i'm just keeping my options open

You probably get lucky before me the age range for me is 32-48

If you are comfortable with the age difference then go for it. Who cares if he's older than your stepfather. Just know this. Age is just a number. I dated someone older (11yrs). At first it was akward but, who cares. If you really like each other and think it can work go for it. Go with your heart.

I'd rather hear you dated a mature man than hear you dated a immature young man and all the problems involved.