I met this guy on here, he was so sweet and wonderful. We talked for over a month, and he even told me that he loved me. Today, I receive a message from him and he tells me that he has been in a relationship and for me not to contact or write him anymore. This experience has really ruined me! We talked night and day on the phone, he had even planned to come see me and meet my family. Am I just being a baby about this situation or am I entitled to really hurt??? It has really upset me....What do I do???

you're definitely entitled to be hurt, but don't dwell on such a loser like that!!!

you deserve SO much better!

With this being an online dating site, How do we know when someone is being honest and real? I am so lost! This is the whole reason I am divorced. My husband was leading a double life. There are too many lies to handle!!!!!!

Yep you have every right to be hurt...Ive been through a similar thing with a British Guy on this site...Its damned heart breaking, but they dont give a s**t too many women quite prepared to step in and take your place...Its easy shopping for them

OMG are you serious? That is the most random load of pointless bs that anyone should have to go through. I'm sorry that happened to you, and of course you're not a baby. You're human, you have feelings like everyone else does. That's just ridiculous...normally I'd be able to shed some light on why a guy might do something but I've got nothing for this lol.

Everyone's right though, try not to dwell on it because you do deserve so much better. You're very cute, I'm just surprised he did that

Ahhh...it sucks! I am a caring and considerate person. Why can't men be that way too??? I am know exactly how you feel! I really just want to cuss him out and say really bad things, but it is pointless. They do not care! I just can't make myself talk to someone, tell lies about my life, and lie about my feelings. I am a REAL person!!!! I feel so bad for the women that have been done the same way I have.

been there

women play this "game" too unfortunately

only games in life should be on ur monitor or tv screen!

players and playettes should be castrated, emasculated, sealed up and sterilized so they cant spread their stupidity!!!

Thank you, dchatwin! I appreciate your reply. I don't really expect too many men to reply to this. I applaud you. I do realize that this is not one-sided. Men have been done the same way. It is totally ridiculous! Shame on people that do that!

I am new to this site, but I met a guy from another dating site and he did almost the same to me. We talked almost day and night like you said for about 7 weeks. He told me he loved me and we even made plans for a wedding with a date and everything. We were going to meet the next month. I've talked to him really only once on Yahoo since. Its been 3 months since we made our plans and I haven't heard from him in over 2 months. We had so much in common we got along so good on the phone, but then he just dropped me. I have no idea why, he won't answer my e-mails, or talk to me on Yahoo, I've seen him come on and then go off as soon as I message him. I don't know why guys do this. This is not the first time it has happened to me. I mean guys just disappearing. I guess they get a kick out of making you fall in love and making all the great plans together and then just dropping you. I'm sorry this happened to you, I know how hurt I was when I realized that it was over. All we can do is just try not to let it happen again. Try not to let it get you down to much.....there has to be some nice guys out there somewhere. I'm going to keep trying! Hope you do too. Sorry for the long letter!

it's hard with the whole online thing. i mean you think your trying to be yourself and meet nice guys, but the truth is we don't alway know that the guys are being themselves or even that the girls are for that matter!

Hopefully we can all find someone who is being REAL to us!!

it's so frustrating and i've had an experience close to yours before. grrr

i agree we just have to keep trying!

"Playettes" lol I love that. So true. But things like this always happen to the best of us for some reason.

the key to online dating is distance

u have to be close and not too far so u can at least "keep and eye on them"

or

ladies, u could create a different account and flirt with the object of ur affections and see wat they say, if they take the bait, call them and say just go to hell and masturbate, buh bye

Tee -- I had 3 of those last year; in each case, there seemed to be all kinds of compatibility until I met them in person, and then, in each case, I quickly discovered they were not the people they pretended to be.

It makes you very skeptical. And cynical. And understandably so.

The way I figure it now, I wouldn't let myself get involved to any real extent, without a hell of a lot of information and preparation. I'm talking months and months here.

So, my advice is: don't let it sour you on the whole concept -- the law of averages dictates that there must be a FEW good people here -- just be careful in the future. Really, really, really, really careful.

And never lose sight of the fact that the world is full of liars and idiots and the terminally self-absorbed, who really don't give a damn what they do to anybody else.

I agree! Thank you so much everyone! I will keep trying because I know that I deserve someone that will treat me right. I appreciate everyone so much. We all need some kind of software that detects liars. LOL!

i agree you do deserve so much better.. take your time on looking so you have time to heal on what has happen to ya..

There are honest men out there, ignore the jerks and you will find someone honest. Stick to your principles and don't be so quick to get involved. Nothing good happens in a day everything in time.

I feel u i had my in the real world thats why i see this site as entertainment only.if it goes farther then that so be it.

I have a question. How does anyone fall in love just by Email and talking on the phone? And in 2 months or so?

Hi Teeshina-

I am terribly sorry to hear of what happened to you (and some other women). You are not being a baby about the situation. In fact, you are the only adult in this situation. It is unfortunate that people don't understand (or don't care) the consequences of their action, especially when it comes to deep emotions. You have the right to feel hurt and upset, but please don't let this guy's (loser) action paint a broad stroke of men in general. You deserve someone better, who is kind, loving and honest. It is his loss.

It is not easy because you are genuine and have invested much feelings, but please try not to dwell on the situation, except of chalking it as an unfortunate experience. People like him give the rest of us men a bad name. I understand more now why some (probably most) women think of men as pigs.