Hey everyone, I have been messaging a guy from this site. It has gotten sexual(google hangouts). He lives an hour away. Saturday night I know he was horny and said he wanted to meet me the next day. I did not respond because it was obviously (to me) purely sexually motivated. He messaged me today. He did't bring up meeting again so I asked him a couple innocuous questions today, plus said "When do you want to get together.?" He only answered the innocuous ones and not the one about getting together.

He normally responds fairly quickly and there's been silence for a couple of hours. I'm kind of irritated. We agreed at the beginning that we'd be honest with each other. If he's not into me anymore or is pursuing someone else he should just say that. I'm not going to shrivel up and die. What is so horrible about giving an honest answer to a question? I'm not a back burner girl. I don't need to be. Really irritated and don't want to waste my time on this guy if he only wants sex. That's an insult.

Thanks for any thoughts!

Oh I forgot to say, as an afterthought I wrote, "Are you thinking about it or want to delay?" That is what I'm waiting for an answer to.

What does your gut feeling say?

If you only live an hour apart, and like each other, why have you never met?

Sounds fishy to me! You've only been a member for a little over a month, went off site to Hangouts and said it's gotten sexual, yet you haven't met him and he only lives an hour away. Sounds like a catfish!

But like NonAlcoholicsOnly said, What does your gut tell you?

Good observation, Piscesmoon. Actually she has been on here about a week.

Gut! Gut!Gut!

Thanks cat, it's been a really long day, read it wrong. Well, that's even more fishy

Zoe1244, you might want to consider not getting too personal with him on Hangouts, keep it superficial and light. If he truly lives an hour away, agree to meet him in a public place during the day. This way you will know if he's genuine or trying to pull one over on you.

Stick to the forums and good luck.

Pisces, I was complimenting you. You were more alert than me about what was going on.

Thanks cat, I know...I was smacking my head because I thought we were in June already, just didn't want to say that it really has been a long day .

sounds to me like the kind of woman who keeps saying...

yes, yes, yes..... oh hell yes

when what she really means is......how dare you...no, no, no

Oh for God's sake. Are people that unintuitive?

Guy was looking for a booty call. Didn't get one. Now he's backing off.

No offence, but so much drama over the small thing. You've chatted with him a week. You two are not even in a relationship yet. And he hasn't answered you couple of hours??? If you are looking straight answers, then you should ask straight questions from him. Adult people communicate this way. They don't come to forums and discuss his behavior publicly, based only on assumptions. People do have different purposes when they join dating sites and they approach people with different intentions.

Sorry, but if I would be the guy, no matter with what intentions, after seeing your post here, you would not get any responses from me. Personal conversations should remain private unless both parts haven't agreed to public them.

What Blondey and Sipsik said..

You say you agreed to be honest but YOU weren't, YOU didn't reply to his message about getting together the NEXT day, not when he was horny. So who's playing games here?
Sounds to me that maybe he was horny that night but had enough respect to meet you the other day, and you're irritated? I think you irritated him, that's why he's decided you're not worth his time.
Men don't like women who play games like that.

I'm sorry for being blunt but honestly speaking he is probably a married man or he is already in a relationship and he is probably trying to prove that he's still a "stud". If he were genuinely serious about you he wouldn't be evasive about answering your question.

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