How do you deal with a ex's boyfriend that you really dont like at all and your ex knows it but keeps on dating them.

oooo....I would get out of that relationship quick sharp

well fine sir, not sound mean or harsh, but their called an ex for a reason and you should attempt to not worry yourself over your ex's doings and focusing on your own and how to make your situations better, for me not knowing your situation i hope this hasn't offended you and hope it may help you.

God bless.

sorry but if its your ex's boyfriend you really cant ask your ex to quit dating him because you dont like him. my ex has had at least a dozen boyfriends that i really didnt like but that was her decision not mine.

You have no say in anything she does in her life. She's your ex. You can choose not to associate with her bf, but you can't stop her from seeing him.

As a mom, I would tell you that the only thing you should be concerned about is whether or not the ex's new boyfriend is kind to your children.

What you think of him should be irrelevant, unless it is directly related to how he treats your children and their mother (when in the presence of the kids).

Other than that, you need to move past the fact that the ex has a new b/f and concentrate on finding yourself that special someone too!

excellent advise from everyone, however, I see from the photo there are kids involved...If an ex is dating an undesirable...the kids are the first to be protected...cut off the relationship

I have to worry about who she sees and what she does. We have three wonderful kids together. I is my responsibilty to make sure they are ok. She is not a very good judge of character and i really worry about this guy. I know realisticly their is nothing i can do or say to make her quit seeing this guy. I guess all i can do is pray and watch my kids

She has has plenty of boyfriends in the past we have been seperated for 3 years and divorced for one. Boyfriends dont bother me. Just this one

Listen, I raised my sons single handed for 17 years...every boy friend has gone through a nightmare of a test...non passed, hence why I am on this site now...But I now have two healthy, well educated, stable sons that can go out into the world knowing what is right and spread the love they have learnt

Thanks for the advice. My kids are loved and they will grow up knowing how to love. I would just be a piece of crap dad if i didnt worry.

Bestdadfire...you stick to your guns and your instinct....it will never fail you...your instinct is older then anything this site has to offer and wiser then any comic that some of the advice comes from...you are doing a good job there

I will and thank you very much.

AMEN... there are way too many piece of crap parents out there. I am a mom of 2- raising them on my own... and I think the best thing we can do for our kids is to be there for them and make sure they know it. They may not always appreciate our concern and worry... but the fact that they know we care will always lead them back to us if they ever come into real trouble or danger.

I've dated around being a single mom. It's tough because you never want to drag guys in and out of your kids' lives... but you also want to include the kids just in case he is "the one"... it's complicated and often more times than not, the kids end up hurt when the relationship is over.

As single parents, our lives must go on. No one's life should come to a screeching halt just because they have kids. However, we owe it to our kids to use good judgment and make sure we don't bring unsavory types around them. We also owe it to our kids to be emotionally supportive if things don't work out. I think in some ways, showing our kids the way the "real world" is can be very beneficial to their growth... afterall... if you teach a kid to believe the world is sunshine and rainbows all the time, they have a more difficult time grasping the concept that it isn't when they get older.

No problem my man...at the end of it, you will have assets that you will be so proud of, they will go forth reflecting you...they will be proud...who can ask for more...its the perfect relationship...what most of us look for on this site

Bravo singingmyheartout...well said

Thank you.

Thank you singingmyheartout. Well stated. I am glad their are wonderful people out their like you that can help and understand what we single dads go through.

You're welcome.
The main thing is to remember that you both created those kids so you both have a right to be involved and the kids have a right to know where they come from and form their own opinions about you and your ex. My kids' fathers are not involved- their choice, not mine. I have never said a thing against my exes or their mates in front of my kids... they will know soon enough.

I'm thrilled to say, however, that I am currently engaged and my fiance has every intention of legally adopting my kids once we are married. We've talked about it - a lot- and have also come to the conclusion that if the biological dads ever decided to come around, we would allow them to see their kid... not to do them any favors... but for the benefit of my son and daughter.

their is alittle thing call'ed trust.you are the
kid's dad and they know that.and noone can take that away
if he hurt's your kid's in any way then you step
in and kick the sh*t out of him..