Yesterday I fixed my broken brake line on my truck.

I removed my old brake line and went to multiple parts stores looking for a replacement. Nobody had that exact line in stock.
I looked at all the different components I needed to construct a new line.
I considered all the work that would be needed to create that line exactly as I needed it.
I went to a local salvage yard and found the exact match but it was used. I bought it.
It fit perfectly and my truck was fixed quickly and easily.

It resonated with me that the same process can apply to dating.

Trying to create a perfect match by looking to combine parts is a lot of work. The trial and error factor is large. To create a 'new lover' is complicated and difficult. Too much bending, cutting and splicing.

Instead of finding all the components, rearranging and bending them to what we want, find someone that just fits with little or no modification. They fit right and last a lot longer.

Yes, but there are no junkyards that are selling people. Or are there?

And krazy glue for the more troubled than normal...

But I'm almost done stitching together the perfect woman...
One more trip to the mortuary should just about do it.

Another idea to add to your simile:

in tech circles, we don't say something is "used." We say it is "more thoroughly tested."

I thought this was going an ENTIRELY different direction.

Love the responses!



Hahaha


And for the ladies...Gorilla Tape!



So Max is into Necro? Say it isn't so! LOL


Yup, LOL. And some very tested even come with their own multiple Betas...


This can go any way you want it. Whatever gets your truck back on the road is fine by me.

This concept has always gotten my vote
Trying to bend someone into something they are not is usually going to end up them eventually reverting to type making everyone unhappy.

This concept has always gotten my vote
Trying to bend someone into something they are not is usually going to end up them eventually reverting to type making everyone unhappy.

I agree. Compatability is crucial. Compromise is helpful but it can only get you so far if you are o completely different pages.

Well I'm slightly used but as good as new.. almost...lol

is it worth trying to fix it?..

my manager at my previous job, was not satisfied by the job one of the personnel was doing.
the working season finished. we all finished with the job.
the next season, the manager called the same boy back for that job
we were all very surprised, we were giving minus chance for that boy to be taken back for the new season.
i asked the manager "sorry but, you very openly expressed that you were not any happy with the job he was doing. so why did u take him back?"
she said "if i take someone new, there is again no guarantee that he will be a good one. and it will take an other season to find out about his faults. with this boy, i at least know his mistakes, inabilities, and we can directly work on him to fix them and gain from time and effort.."

this got imprinted on my mind..

every person is a new relationship

we are supposed to learn from past relationships what works or doesn't work, it makes sense to take those lessons to heart whenever we start anew

I believe we should love someone ,when we love someone, that includes their weaknesses and strengths, but that does not necessarily mean to settle for someone who never desires to work on or improve the weaknesses

it is foolish for us to believe we will improve them for them, all we can do is inspire them to want to

In Oklahoma we use haywire.

Sorry life itself is often a junkyard

Thanx for sharing!

Bear with me as I try to put my thoughts in print...

Life is like my truck. When its working I don't need to go out and buy parts for it unless I want to. When it breaks, I am forced to.
In most cases, I buy the new parts that have warranty. Problem is, sometimes new parts are not available because this truck is old.

When life is working right there is no need to fix it. You can upgrade it but its only when something is broken that we have to fix it to use it right.

I could drive my truck with the broken brake line. It would be dangerous but with care I could still drive it. Lots of work with constant attention to its operation.

When alone, life doesn't operate the way it should. It can take you to dangerous places (depression, suicide, hatred, etc...). It requires constant attention and work to stay focused on living but the life is missing something (relationship).

Since no new brake line was available I considered buying the parts, cutting the lines and flaring them. Bending them so they fit and hope that the job is done right.

To fix that broken part of yourself you can consider finding someone that has all the components of what you seek but requires reshaping so they fit and then hoping that they hold and work to repair the problem.

If I removed the broken brake line and couldn't find the perfect fit I had only two choices. Put the old broken one back on or try to cobb together something that would work.

When you remove the broken relationship from your life you don't want to put another broken one in its place. You must carefully inspect the replacement and make sure it is a proper fit.

When I found the replacement brake line, it needed a bit of work. I cleaned the threads, wiped off the light layer of rust and sprayed cleaner thru it. I pulled back the fittings and cleaned the mating surfaces as well. When I installed it, there were no complications and it fit perfectly.

Finding someone that fits perfectly is not likely. There will be some things that will need a little buffing and polishing but when they fit perfectly, you are no longer broken.

After bleeding my brakes to get all the air out so they work right. I found that my battery is now completely dead. I'll be buying a new battery because it is available and has warranty. Till then, I am still walking.

The spray of brake fluid from my broken line penetrated some electrical connectors that shorted out the battery.

Just fixing one problem may not fix all problems. Sometimes the major problem causes other problems you are unaware of till you fix the first one.

The truck is more than just a brake line. Life is more than just a relationship. The brake line helps make the truck. Relationships help make the life. The truck needs all its components to work properly. Life needs all its components to work properly.

This long-winded post brought to you by DOT 3 Brake Fluid.

Hence the expression

You can play many a fine tune on an old fiddle.

i read it all Tom, thanks for the reply.

i really do not know the answer to that question.
that is the memory that comes in to my mind every time i think of ex vs next matter. still doesnt help me any about finding the answer.

hearth says ex, logic says next.
so i am not moving as i dont know the answer lol

Your self-honesty is a major step in the right direction.
Only you can answer that question.
Just remember that we all need a little help along the way.

I'll need a jumpstart to get my truck to walmart to have the battery replaced.

I could do it myself but that's a lot of walking carrying that heavy truck battery.

Sometimes asking the right question to the right person can help.
First you have to determine what the right question is.

Thanx for participating!