ephraimglass- i got what you were saying but then again maybe its becasue we are guys?

I never care what ppl think of me......I really dont!!!! Who cares what others think......what you think of yourself is what counts!!!

Now to get to the original question.....just accept the fact that he has moved on.....and it will NEVER be the same, no matter how much you imagine it to be.....

There is a different plan for you my girl......

Some people need acceptance in the life to assure them they are doing right in thier life, without this comes depression. Can we help the way we think in a world such as ours?

well i suppose it could be both. it seems like everytime i watch a movie there is a scene with 2 people kissing it just reminds me that i am 1 nobody wants to kiss me. i read books about great loves that shake you to your core & change you completely (pride & prejudice, every woman should have a mr.darcy!!) .so there is the pressure to be partnered. but at night when i lay in bed alone-i feel an aching loneliness,i have plenty of love in my life-family&friends that mean the world to me. but that ache is there with me every night instead of the person that could fill it

Not wanting a relationship is just as normal as wanting one really, regardless of what society says is "normal". However I feel deep down, everyone is always searching for that one person that makes them feel they will never be alone again.

yearning for somthing you dont have. To love someone else you must first learn to love yourself

it's so contradictory with me-if i was with someone i would accept their flaws & forgive their mistakes-but when it comes to myself i could never do those things

what do you mean forgive yourself for your flaws?

what i mean is i see only MY flaws & concentrate on MY mistakes but if i was with someone else i could see past THEIR flaws & forgive THEIR mistakes-meaning i would give someone else more consideration than i give myself

I think that a lot of people feel this way. They're harder on themselves than they are on other people and they frequently expect that others will be hard on them too. I know that this is a problem with which I sometimes struggle. I'll get into a mindset where I'll say things to myself like, "I deserve to be lonely" or "Other people have plenty of reason to avoid me." It is difficult to recognize when you get into such a funk that these statements are not true. If you're anything like me, you perpetuate your own loneliness because although it is uncomfortable, it is at least familiar.

Ephraimglass, i agree you are your own worst critic wouldnt you agree?


//what i mean is i see only MY flaws & concentrate on MY mistakes but if i was with someone else i could see past THEIR flaws & forgive THEIR mistakes-meaning i would give someone else more consideration than i give myself ////

You must first fix this. Your flaws in the end make you the perfect person in someones eyes. Someone will see those and love you for what you have to offer rather than what is wrong about you... You must first love yourself before being able to love someone else. AS i have to do as well

You mean you don't have 'well meaning' friends trying to set you up with blind dates???

I don't give a rat's razoo what other's think of me, I'm a little beyond that now...

I just find it funny that there is this intrinsic desire for others to see single people 'hooked up', whether you might want it or not..

sweetie,

just be glad that you have nothing connecting the two of you together! my son's father, whom i was with for 4 years, left three months after i got pregnant. have not heard from him or seen him in three years...NOW, he calls saying he wants to meet my son!! WTF!!

after all that had happened, i got married...but could never fully commit myself to my marriage (yes, my hubby cheated, abused me in many different ways...) but those were not the reasons i couldnt commit.

to this day, i wake up seeing my ex laying next to me! my son is a constant reminder of why i "love hard" and dont wear my heart on my sleeve!

the sad part is, that if the right one comes along, i wont notice it!

hun, just be greatful!

it's funny isn't it-the amount of people in the world just dying to give their love to another..love that would be healthier if they showed it to themselves !

I think in general anyone should be openminded enough to appreciate somthing such as love and not be so closeminded on such issue. Granted maybe you feel better off single. but being happy is relative to the situation is it not? You may say your the happiest being single, then comes prince charming, now your the happiest youve ever began, the persuit of happiness, in which true happiness is it relative?

thanks SDM - even though that man didnt deserve you atleast he gave you the precious gift of your son-what's his name ?!?

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Why not be content with what you have, than live a life of expectation, and starting this happiness thing, when and if someone comes along?

What if you have today....? Who has guarantees of tomorrow?

I prefer contentment with what I do have right now.

Your flaws in the end make you the perfect person in someones eyes. Someone will see those and love you for what you have to offer rather than what is wrong about you.. thanks for that by the way Kalamazoo, that gives hope

but jess like i said being content is fine, being openminded to change is another, would you agree?

my little guy's name is Edward. and Lord knows,i wish he would look more like me everyday...but, nope!

SO MY QUESTION WOULD BE:

Should I let the donor meet him?