I hope this is not inappropriate...... BUT
I also hope doesn't get DELETED?!

Can anyone explain to me, now I am a little behind and
somewhat TECH challenged. What is the premise or purpose
of phone & cyber sex.

I would think you would fall off the phone or break the computer
LOL....

Does it not negate the true feeling & meaning of intimacy.

Again hope subject not taboo, or inappropriate.
I apologize in advance if it is. But just don't understand it.

Please keep responses funny but appropriate..

SEX, for many like myself is about two things: Arousal and Imagination

Cyber sex is a form of stimuli, like watching porn, or someone talking dirty in your ear,,,to arouse the senses and possibly jumpstart the imagination

once those two things are working together,, it can result in fireworks

one can always put the phone on speaker and set it down if they are concerned about dropping it,,,

Sometimes I'll walk straight into my local Chinese Takeaway and order "my usual." On other occasions, I'll sit at home beforehand browsing the menu and fantasise about the other taste sensations on offer. I'd imagine that cyber sex and phone sex are similar to browsing the menu

This is probably the best explanation. I am going to get but it does
make sense. Erotic or arousal intriguing...

I just did not understand the concept. But it makes sense

Very right

Phone, skype and cyber sex is like having a personal fantasy with help from someone else. People do it because sexual fantasies feel good too.

Personally I don't need to engage in those types of fantasies because I have a vivid imagination. I need no assistance masturbating. Others require external stimuli. A visual or audio prompt.

The orgasm is a wonderful feeling and releases sexual anxiety. The experience for some is addicting. People that continuously engage in cyber/phone sex are usually compulsive. They are unable/unwilling to control their compulsive tendencies and usually have other compulsions in their lives.

Perhaps cyber/phone sex doesn't work for me because I am usually turned on by the smell of a woman. Perhaps if smell-o-vision came available I might engage in that kind of activity, dunno really. Nothing beats a real-life in the flesh woman.

So, Why do people do it? To assist with masturbating. Is it wrong, Nah, To each his/her own.

95% of all humans masturbate, The other 5% lie about it.

Tom4Uhere, have no fear. I've no doubt somebody's already working to introduce the "smellyphone" onto the market. Hold tight!

As others pointed out, arousal stimuli would be one reason for phone/cyber sex talk. Going with that thought of arousal. Some actually may use that also as a way to gain insight as to how sexually compatible they might be with the person. Like a way to find out how adventurous one may be when it comes to sex, as opposed to someone being rather Vanilla, or lack of adventure.

Weloll sex texting or Skyping..Fulfills a number of needs...
First initially it helps the two of you find out if you both like the same thing...How kinky are not kinky you are..Do you like it hard And fast.. or slow and soft...Are you a good communicator are you vocal can you express to your partner how you like to be touched....

It also says that intimacy and sex plays a big role in your life or maybe not..
Lol..

Then after you've been together for some time.. it takes on a different role in the relationship.... nothing nicer than in the middle of a work day receiving a hot sexually-charged text message from your lover...
Explaining in great detail what they are going to do to you and for you when you walk in the front door when you get home... or later on that evening...It helps Let each other know what you can expect and look forward to..mmmmm..yum.yuuum..wink

Sex chat, skype, live internet shows, people get off on all kinds of chit. To each his own. All I know is there's got to be a lot of money being made on it, judging by the amount of ads for it.

near as I can figure this is the progression

instead of swiping your Dad or Uncle's Playboy

or ya know ..trying to get somebody to rent one of those videos

for ya in that over 18 room in back of video store

porn has progressed and in fact, many sites are free now for the clicking so to speak

used to be..those ads come on late at night

1-800 phone sex and you can talk to Veronica or Fawn and she will fulfill
all your fantasies

apparantly, cyber sex or phone sex or skypin nekkid

is the next evolutionary step in how to pretend or fantasize

about having sex without actually having it

Imagination, spank bank, is a closed system, limited.
Porn is a passive system of observation with no participation.
Phone & cyber is participatory, it requires 2 people, and is dynamic.

Any kind of sexual titillation is more fulfilling when it involves another person.


If offers a greater "feeling & meaning of intimacy" than watching porn or using only what's in your head. It requires less effort to acquire than actual sex, has fewer consequences (short and long term) than actual sex.

Might as well also ask "WHY??? ask questions on forums, rather than just go to the library or do google searches or just sit at home and argue with yourself?"

Or "WHY??? When your cupboards are bare go to McDonald's rather than to a 5 star restaurant or the grocery store to get all the ingredients and make it yourself to eat alone?"

Or "WHY??? Go to the club or bar if all you really want to do is dance and drink?"

WOW so many answers not what I expected... lol

Tom love your euphemisms and statistics

wow. thats good

Seems to me, that there are two basic kinds of this. There's the "doing it with relative strangers" kind, that would fit the "not about intimacy" notion that you have. Then there's the "part of a well established relationship" kind, where intimacy is INCREASED, in the same way that some people expand their sexual linkage with each other through acting out fantasies and so on.

Something general that I've come to recognize, is that ANYTHING can be intimacy enhancing, and ANYTHING can be the opposite, depending only on how and why people do it.

Agreed

Our 'view' of something makes us decide whether to adopt that practice or not. It may be based on our morals, gratification or as a job function. Anything that allows us to do something not natural to existing.

Humans are perceptive with imagination. In the animal world usually the male must attract the female for reproduction. the female goes into heat and the males compete for mating. Humans males that are unqualified to a majority of females can use virtual sex to fulfill their mating desires. Perhaps it is a view of future civilized traits.

I've seen and read enough scifi to know that virtual sex could supplant actual sex as we develop artificial wombs. As technology advances there is no need to couple for reproduction. Sexual desires are fulfilled in sex machines or with a pill you take. Is this an early view of things to come (pun intended)? Might there be a day where humans orgasm like doing a daily workout all by themselves?

It depends on how you view sex. Is it savage or civilized?

It only makes limited sense to me if the two of you are a couple and have to be apart from each other awhile. The thought of phone or cyber sex between two "strangers" is weird and troubling to me. i know we each have our own definition of what constitutes a relationship, but only people together in the same room can have sex. The rest is imagination which I s'pose is an okay place if you have nothing else...