sometimes u need to see past just black and white...itll get u farther in life

There is nothing past black and white.

If you view things in shades of Gray. With that you bring in justification, and self compromise, and then one day your gonna look back and see that you have changed and justified yourself for other people so much that your not the same person anymore.

Ill stick with black and white, at least that way I know im being honest with myself.

Even in a black and white world, that doesn't make any sense, Mimx. Mean or Bad are the opposites of Nice. There's nothing intrinsically dull about being nice. As I noted in my first post, I dance crazy to techno music, which is kind of wild. That bears absolutely no reflection on whether or not I am nice.

I think you're falling into the same pattern of thinking that continues to sabotage Nice Guys. You equate being nice with being boring and assume that if you want to be exciting, you can't be nice anymore. That's a terrible misconception.

mrose - from your profile I see you have a wide variety of
interests - hardly uninteresting. It sounds like you enjoy
your work and it has its own rewards.

I believe that when you can talk about something you find
rewarding; not in a monetary or superficial sense, but where
you can contribute something positive, and receive joy also, I
tend to think that would rather interesting to the listener.

(Oh, I guess I am one of those rare people you mentioned..
however, I am sure there are many more).

The right young lady for you is out there, just keep looking.

:'-) thanx... but even at work, i enjoy what i do... i don't enjoy a lot of the baggage that comes along with it (co-workers mostly) and i'm not givin up, i'm lookin... just ... not pursueing too activly, it's not worth burning the energy to get myself all worked up, and disapointed. I've actually met some i really liked a couple weeks ago... and she admitted she liked me... you ready for the hitch? she's uprooting and moving to texas next week... figures lol!

but thank you for your support britty... now tell some of the nice cute girls near by me and i might be all set haha!

mrose - Your are welcome. Sense of humor - very
nice.

think I covered it all in profile

We want a nice guy who is also a mad man in bed!!!!!!!!

oh and also if he does dishes and rakes pine needles!!!

So... paper plates and chainsaws leaves me out...

ohhhhhhhhh [paper plates are ok......and if you own a chainsaw even better!!!

what i've always wondered is, how do the so-called nice guys know they are really nice? does someone tell them that, or do they just think they are a really good person?

I am living proof that a wildside can exist in a good guy.

Ah yes.. The typical nice guy/ girl thread. One of life's many cop-outs.

We should just rename it. Maybe... "How some of us rationalize their non-participation in their own life." I'm boring and unattractive because I am a nice guy/ girl. Only bad boys/ girls get the boy/ girl.... etc...



I've meet a lot of people in my time. With exception of a few sociopathic, narcissistic criminal types... I have not run into many single dimensional people. If you (Not pointed at anyone specifically) are one.. then that is boring by definition. No matter whether you are good or bad...

Even Saints have their bad side... and serial killers have their charms.



So.. assuming you are a self professed "Nice guy", I'm guessing you consider yourself honest. Which by your statement above, you have been entirely devoid of lying.. and any dishonest acts in your lifetime?

Well.. unbeknownst to us. We must be witnessing the second coming of Christ, or someone fooling (lying to) themselves.

You know I have to say that "Bad Boys" do have a certain appeal. They are often nice to look at and they are definitely fun to fantasize about. But when it comes to relationships I find that the "Nice Guys" are the ones that I end up with.

I tend to be a bit on the wild side myself and find the "Nice Guys" make for a good balance. I can't speak for everyone else, but as for myself I thoroughly enjoy "Nice Guys."

Umm. I think Goofball is telling the truth on this one.

EXACTLY RR!

Now THAT is what Im talking about!

Except in my case, my free-spirited personality, on occasion, frighten the 'Nice Guys' away.
Oh well, I will still hope for a 'Nice Guy' nonetheless.

I don't necessarily consider myself a "nice guy", although I am very loving, caring, understanding, and a good listener, etc. I can also be an asshole, selfsih, etc. if I choose. I do have a bit of a wild side, but I keep it under control.

I hear you storm. I have had the same problem with the nice guys being a little leery of the wilder side, but it just makes it all that more rewarding when you find one that is willing to embrace your wildness.