I have been casually seeing a guy for about 2 or 3 weeks now. The first night we met he picked up my tab at the bar, and he's been pretty much paying for everything we do together since. He pays the bill automatically at dinner, he has paid for all of our activities when we went out on dates, he buys all the drinks, etc. While I think it's very nice, I feel strange that I haven't treated him to anything and I'm not sure if I should offer to pay. Would it be offenive or weird if I pulled out my wallet the next time we go to dinner? I'm not sure how to go about it or what the proper etiquette is for this... Any suggestions or tips?

next time just pull out your cash or bank card and a say MY TURN
there is not proper way just say hey let me help with that
its easy you can do it.

Well it all depends. The guy is paying for everything cause he is seeing you two going out on a date, in hopes that it will be more sometime down the road. So he is doing the proper thing and paying for everything.

If your just casually hanging out with no means of becoming more, then you need to start paying your half, that way he will know what your intentions are.

to me early on in dating, no woman should have to pay for a thing, now if things get serious later on, then yes, it can be a give and take situation.. but not early on, i wouldnt..but its up to u..

CALL him and invite to dinner and specify that it will be your treat.

Just call him and tell him you want to take him out.

According to 'THE RULES' (this funny book that I am reading) HE is supposed to pay. Let him be the hunter....ROFLMAOOOOO!

Thanks for the advice Deana and everyone else, that really helps. For Mimx... I guess I should clarify what I mean by "casually seeing". It's not a friendly, hanging out kinda thing. The only reason I say casual is that we haven't specified that we're exclusive, but there is definitely much more than friendship going on already.

I guess I am kinda wondering about that whole "hunter" thing. He is older and hasn't given an indication that he expects me to pay for anything, so I can't decide if it would take away from the feeling that he is pursuing me or if he would like it. Can any guys out there give me some insight?

i think u should maybe treat him to dinner or maybe a movie just a thought ! just becus yall are dateing dose not mean us women can't pay hope that help :)

well then don't be afraid to say hey I want to pay too
many men now days do not mind this at all,
remember he is not going to ask you to do it but I bet he will appreciate it when you do help pay for your evenings out.
if he gets the tab then you pick up the tip
or if you do something else in the night get whatever the next event of the evening is.

good luck

Frankley I wouldnt let a girl pay if I wanted to keep seeing her. The only time I would let her pay is if she was living with me, But it wouldnt matter if the girl made the date or the guy made the date, I still wouldnt let her pay.
Its just me
Maybee I am old fashond but oh well

It depends on the guy... I know some that get offended, (Usually older) others that have no issues with it. Personally, I have no problem either way.

Maybe try not giving him the option, by inviting him over and cooking a nice meal, or if you do not cook, either order in, or go to a deli and make up a picnic basket. Then after the meal, discuss it with him.

I think that whoever asks the other to go out should be the one to pay unless other arrangements are made. If I ask you to go out to a movie and dinner then I would of course pay. If YOU ask me to go out to movie and dinner, I might try to pay...lol, but I think it shouldn't be expected.

I would never ask anyone out if I didn't have the money to pay.
But what happens if a girl asks me out and I don't have enough money at the time? I would stlil want to go, but I would have to tell her no, if I thought that she expected me to pay!

I also think that the people that believe the man should always pay, most likely believe that a woman's place in still in the kitchen...

i believe it goes both ways...its not so much like a man would like to be treated by a woman...but it lets him believe she aint just in there for the ride....i would let a woman pay later on in the relationship "dating" only because i know she would feel bad and wouldnt want me to think she be takin advantage.....

If you think he may be embarrassed if you pay, why not buy some steak and lobster etc and make it at his place or yours....go all out.....and then wear that sexy teddy youve been meaning to wear....

Nowadays, I don't think its weird or offending that a girl pull her wallet to pay something. So don't hesitate, just say "MY TURN"

next time your out just say "this ones on me" and if he insists then never mind............. another free be!

I find that the old fashioned way does come from older people
and there is nothing wrong with the old fashioned values.
but it does kinda make some women feel uncomfortable in that situation.
and its only because many of us grew up learning how to pay our way
some of us girls feel proud that we can take care of ourselves
you know earn a living afford to take care of our kids without help.
and it never means that we don't appreciate the guy, we just want to show them that they can count on us too.

well, if a guy can't be polite or afford to take you out

there's not much hope for the future

is a guy you're interested in interested in whether you're taking him out?

let a man be a man for heaven's sake, why insult him

I like that suggestion Gypsy

Thanks for all the imput guys... He is older, but definitely not one of those people who thinks a woman's place is in the kitchen. Like you said Islandking, I mostly want to make sure he knows I'm not just in it for what I can get out of him. I'm pretty sure me picking up the tab, especially since he hasn't acted like I have to, will accomplish that. Now I'm definitely going to go for it where ever we end up next time.