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Edited by
peggy122
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Tue 02/21/17 01:08 AM
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Hmm I get the need for alone time But having to get far away from me. Ummm..go have fun...I will do the same...lol...look out Vegas here I come..lol I think when people need space, its usually not from their partner alone. They need a break from work, chores,kids, care giving responsibilities for their parents, studies or any number of things . It is not always personal. Some individuals rather than take that breathing time, stay amidst all the stress and become very unpleasant to be around A mate can't always fulfil all of their partner's needs,including sometimes their need for silence to reflect |
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Humm can't even say that thought has ever crossed my mind.. If I need alone time I can do that at home for the day or the weekend... But as far as just going on a vacation type thing all by myself naw. Myself if I'm with someone I would rather it be a place we both enjoy and have some fun together away from life.. And yea I would have to wonder if someone just went off by themselves for a week all by themselves. Now it would be different if it was a guy thang and some of their buddies was going... Everyone needs some me time just have never known anyone that took a whole week for me time... to be all alone... Even when I go on vacations I go with family or friends much more fun to have others to do things with.. Hi Kristi :) I totally understand where you are coming from . We live in a culture where affairs are rampant so our antennas are always up. Since I have very little control over a man cheating, I concern myself more with his level of transparency in general and how he treats me and others daily. |
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U are absolutely right.. I agree it would be a torture for u
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If I felt distrust for him I would break up with him rather than deny him a vacation I reckon. "Absence makes the heart grow fonder" It all boils down to the trust and honesty of the relationship. If there isn't trust and honesty in the relationship no vacation is needed. Just going to work or shopping can cause issues. This is a major factor for those that are in relationships while in the military services. Extended deployments test and end many relationships that might have thrived without that separation. I've seen it happen too many times with people I thought were very stable in their relationships. I have also see where it was not an issue. Couples that take two weeks here and there to go do things on their own. Those couple have a strong trusting relationship. It is evident in other ways as well. One must consider the reasons for the time apart. Is it to get away from responsibility and commitment or is it a natural enjoyment? When you get back is your relationship as strong as it ever was or is there animosity? Do you look at the pictures and see the fun or is it to see who that person was with and was she pretty or was he handsome? If you return and are bombarded by the 20 questions or if you feel you need to drill your partner with 20 questions your relationship may not be as strong in trust and honesty as you imagine. |
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Hmm..a vacation from your life partner????
That is just looking for trouble. |
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U are absolutely right.. I agree it would be a torture for u I could see how it would torture some people . I think once I get to talk to them for the few days they are gone, Im at peace. Hmmm .. Maybe Im not as romantic as I like to believe. . Maybe the right guy might inspire it in me lol |
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If I felt distrust for him I would break up with him rather than deny him a vacation I reckon. "Absence makes the heart grow fonder" It all boils down to the trust and honesty of the relationship. If there isn't trust and honesty in the relationship no vacation is needed. Just going to work or shopping can cause issues. This is a major factor for those that are in relationships while in the military services. Extended deployments test and end many relationships that might have thrived without that separation. I've seen it happen too many times with people I thought were very stable in their relationships. I have also see where it was not an issue. Couples that take two weeks here and there to go do things on their own. Those couple have a strong trusting relationship. It is evident in other ways as well. One must consider the reasons for the time apart. Is it to get away from responsibility and commitment or is it a natural enjoyment? When you get back is your relationship as strong as it ever was or is there animosity? Do you look at the pictures and see the fun or is it to see who that person was with and was she pretty or was he handsome? If you return and are bombarded by the 20 questions or if you feel you need to drill your partner with 20 questions your relationship may not be as strong in trust and honesty as you imagine. I certainly agree with you tom . If.taking a solo vacay makes one's mate resentful or panicked then its not worth doing. |
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Edited by
peggy122
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Tue 02/21/17 02:38 PM
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Hmm..a vacation from your life partner???? That is just looking for trouble. Hi kitty. It is not a psedo separation . It is literally 2 days to a week ANNUALLY to be with one's own thoughts. But I respect your take on it . Ive been in relatiinships where I trust my partner completely . I guess thats why the thought of a solo vacay doesnt concern me |
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Well, myself being an introvert, it's mandatory needing alone time, otherwise I'd go crazy. I don't have to go on a trip. by myself. On the other hand, one of my favorite things to do is go on road trips. I have never dated a man who likes road trips, or even understands that. Should I go out on my own or just give up on it?
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I love Road Trips. Once drove from VA Beach to South Carolina for a Cheeseburger and Milkshake and then went back.
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Well, myself being an introvert, it's mandatory needing alone time, otherwise I'd go crazy. I don't have to go on a trip. by myself. On the other hand, one of my favorite things to do is go on road trips. I have never dated a man who likes road trips, or even understands that. Should I go out on my own or just give up on it? Hi Cantinidaho Maybe you could ask your sister or a female friend to go with you? If none of them want to do it , then be sure to travel to places that are known for being relatively safe. As women we have to be extra cautious. |
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My friend and his wife are going on 33 years of marriage. They do go on separate vacations to keep their marriage happy. Guess it works for them but if you have trust issues; this won't work.
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My friend and his wife are going on 33 years of marriage. They do go on separate vacations to keep their marriage happy. Guess it works for them but if you have trust issues; this won't work. Its certainly not for everyone navy girl and definitely NOT for couples who have trust issues .Im glad it works for your friend :) And the only healthy reason for taking a solo vacation from your mate would be to reconnect with one's centre which some people are unable to do with noise or company around |
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Edited by
Beachfarmer
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Thu 02/23/17 05:08 AM
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Everybody needs a little time away
A Holiday From Eachooooooooother (Sorry for the sublime reference to those under 30) |
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I agree with you Beach :)
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Never done that, prolly never will. My relationships are always built on 'together' time. Now my mate likes to go home to visit, (Texas) he went last year, and as I canna fly he goes alone..but tis pretty much torture for both of us :-) Aaaawww... Thats so cute soufie. You guys seem to be an excellent match :) so you exempt yourself by denying a fear of flying what would happen if you addressed your fear and then could fly? I wonder what your partner would say? perhaps he is glad to have some time alone? Being apart does not mean anything other than an acknowledgment of honest and trust in each other.. too much togetherness can smother too... |
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