People always show themselves in the end."
What do you mean by that exactly?

I did not tell her father. She told her parents and her father called me. Her father hs given me a hard time while we were together but him reaching out to me helped me so much. I have never treated her wrong and am the kind of person that would do anything for anyone. I want to be there right now but I can't, doctors wont let me. My parents told me to come home and go see her but I can't. There is nothing I can do but set in some forum spilling everything to abunch of people that judge and jump to conclusions without even knowing what is goin on. To you this is just some post from a guy that you don't know or care about, but this is my life and the two people that I cared more for than anyone else outside of my family.

Did you know there are 15 references to you in your last post, and only 7 about her?

Reread it....it says a lot.

So you can't go home. Can you call her family and ask them to put the phone up to her ear, just so she can hear your voice? I'd say you should probably be praying right about now.

I have to comment on this situation,

This guy has just found out his ladyfriend has has sex the weekend before with his best friend.
Of course he is going to feel alot of emotion, sadness,confussion,hurt,betrayal,anger.

So the best thing he thought to do was leave, probably before he said something at that time to make the situation worse.

His ladyfriend is the one that chose to OD, that was her actions.

And now that she is in the hospital , most are under 24 watch after attemping suicide. He can't go to see her.
Ans even when she is able to talk, I am sure the doctors will have restrictions on who she sees. For her own sake.
She probably won"t beable to see anyone other than family members for a while.

And I think he handeled the situation better than most , at such an early age!!

I will pray for all involved, and judge anyone.

God Bless

Ok first I realize that some of you people like apparently Jess can be pretty heartless tometimes. Yea I know I have said alot about my proplems. What do you think I meant by help and support. Talking about their problems aren't going to do much now is it? I did nothing wrong in our relationship. She was not a bootie call... she was my best friend that I have stayed up many nights helping her deal with being away from home and all the problems she had been having. I am sorry but do you not see what I have been through in the last 24 hours? Yes me... thats why I am here. If you want to be Dr. Phil get a tv show. I don't need your outsider opinions jess I was looking for support. I feel like a ***** already for being on here telling people what is going on in my life and your opinions are not helping. I think you might be in the wrong forum because I am not asking for tough love right now. I don't need it.

opps I meant to say , judge NO ONE .

I agree in full with your post Florida gurl....

which is why in my first post after asking questions I said Ring her family, and for Lynx to ring his.

Support is what he asked for.... why not be talking to his parents?

Or a support line, with people who are trained to deal with this?

I am far from heartless Lynx...far from it... I am just blunt.

You had a shock, a huge weekend of shock, which is why I said call your folks. They are best at supporting you, not strangers.

I know jess.. I called my parents and told them anything... nothing was a secrete and they were there for me. They told me to come home but I can't... It is not an option. I don't want to talk to strangers about this but it is all I have. I can't talk to my mom at two in the morning. I know you are being blunt but I am not just some case... and this wasn't just a shock...

If SHE took the pills and is in the hospital, most states have a HOLDING period, she would be held for observation.
Check with the hospital on the time involved with it, then YOU will know WHEN she will be released.
BUT, FUTHER involvement by YOU will make her BELIEVE that YOU REALLY CARE ABOUT HER....DO YOU?
Because THIS IS "HER LIFE" also, that YOU need to KNOW,FEEL,
CARE, and hold DEAR. She felt YOU deserted her because of her
sleeping with your best friend,,,,hey,,,,SHE TOLD YOU,,,????
THAT'S HEART,,,,that's REAL, and SHE DID'NT NEED "YOU" to JUDGE HER, just to KNOW that she was BRAVE enough and TRUE enough to FEEL that YOU COULD EXCEPT her TRUTH!!!!!
Before you start posting some girl tried to kill her self OVER YOU, YOU need to REALLY CARE AND KNOW "THAT" GIRL!!!

Let me ask you, WHAT DO YOU THINK SHE'S THINKING RIGHT NOW??

If YOU don't have any idea,,,,THEN YOU DON'T REALLY KNOW HER, huh?

Sorry, I'm not done. I do feel for you totally!!

I'm so sorry you are going thru this.
Nobody should have to go thru this type of thing.
People that try/do kill themselves are so sick that they don't consider who all it effects..
Who has to find them/ who has to going living without them & having to deal with that memory.. its really a shame.
You would probably feel better about it if you at least went home for the day, had the comfort of your family, went & saw her parents give them the support they need at this time & that will comfort you at the same time.
Write her a letter of record something for her for her parents to take to her.
Call your best friend! he is still your best friend!!

hugs to you..

Lynx, on your campus, do you have counsellors? I noticed in your profile, you have listed Rhodes, as the college you are at.

It is my understanding, there is a 24 hour counselling line for students... I may be wrong...but please check?

This is too big, to try to type it all out.... find out about the counsellors, now, and I disagree, your Mum, would be there for you, even at 2 00 am... although I don't know anything of your family, I suspect, that you feel you can't ring her at 2 00 am, because it is so late.

Your parents are offering you support, you said? They know it's the darkest hours of the night are the most torturous.

Call them, you may be surprised.

If not, then hunt for the counsellors number...

But I know what she is thinking. Well I know what she will be thinking tomorrow when she wakes up. When I talked to her father acouple hours ago she was knocked out. When she wakes up in the morning the firt thing she will think is where is he I need him. I am not cocky I just know that if we were to switch places I would wake up asking the same thing. I know her. I shouldn't have blown up when she told me but I handled it the best way I could and made sure she had a place to sleep and people to watch her. I love her and want to be setting next to her right now. I want to tell her it will be ok. But no one will let me. I have done everything I could. On the way to the hospital she called me crying. I forgot everything she had done and begged her to tell them whatever they asked and to do whatever they say. I told her it would be ok and that I would be there as soon as I could.

Thanks jess.... I will.

i know how you feel i had a situation like that also but i had been with my gf 14 years

Try a BIG BALLOON, that say's something like IM SORRY, or I LOV YOU, it WILL get to HER ROOM, and she will HAVE THAT TO "KNOW" your with her, in heart and Mind NOW.

Here is a # for after hours 377-4733

http://www.stuaffairs.rhodes.edu/couns/default.html

uhhhhhhhhhhhh so why are you airing your dirty laundry in a public forum if you dont want anyone's opinion???