So why is it so hard to find someone to do social things with? I need someone that understands that even though I am ready to find love again, my late husband will always be a part of my heart. The thing about hearts is they grow bigger with love ( just think of the grinch). Once you put widow on your status, all the scammers come out thinking that you're just a lonely person. Just because I'm alone doesn't mean I'm lonely. I have family that I enjoy spending time with...
Sorry I just had to rant. All I get is scammers. Are there any real men out there?

Our past is what makes us today
World is full of scammers but real people are exist too

that's exactly what I always say. The scammers say you have to put the past behind...only true to an extent

I think widows sometimes
have a different mindset than those who are divorced or never experienced the love of someone to death.

Sadly there is stigma, myth's, and outright jealousy.

Money always rears it's ugly head.

I often avoid the concept of star ting over but moving forward together. Not in the same mold; I don't think anyone wants cookie cluttered into someone else's shoes

But I often ask people "Do they have the capacity to love more than one child for their independent unique self ? If they say yes I then ask them "If I cut your arm off would you hate The one that is left?" Usually they say "no" and then I ask than why can't I take someone's hand hang on to my life."

Madam you have to take your time and you are advise not to rush into something and later found out it's a scam.. there's still good eggs among the bad ones

I am finding that s well

I chatted with a man who said he was married for 38 yrs and widowed for 2 now. To bad his actual wife of 17 yrs didn't know she was dead. I found out before we chatted very long so was glad.
That aside, I agree with you that people think we're lonely OR RICH! Lol. I get to many sexual offers from younger people, delete delete! Or people who say they'll help me spend my money. Lmao. I wish.
I'm just here now to beat my boredom, really don't think I'm going to find any friends on line.

I have yet to go out with a widow.

I think it would have been a flag when I was younger,, but at this point, I figure there are few people who do not have past loves that they still remember and possibly have some feeling toward

the widows past love is less of a threat than the living ones,,, because they aren't coming back,,,

,It is also a tribute to the ability to commit that someone loved and stayed with someone truly 'until death'....

You don't have to be a widow/widower, or be dating one
to understand that people had lives long before we
came along.

Perhaps for some that indicates they have less to offer,
that somehow they have used up their portion of love..
silly of course but it takes time to learn that.

If jealously is your thing, EVERYONE has had past relationships
so you are in a pickle :-)

I have joined several local clubs and meet lots of new friends to do events with. My group is baby boomers and I like the group as there is no pressure to date or have a relationship. Being a shift worker; this group seems to work for me as I really don't have time for dating or relationships between work, court, and being a Navy League Cadet Officer.

Widower here a year now and find that a lot of woman won't date me because I'm a widower. I know I'm ready to move on and date just have not had any luck meeting anyone. Once they here I'm a widower the excuses come out as to why they can't go out

I am a man I am widowed 10 years now and I do miss my wife but I also miss having someone to talk to you have fun with and do things with I'm pretty busy right now with my life I'm getting things straightened out as far as a large collection of junk to go through.. So I'm not in a big hurry for a relationship but I am 60 so maybe I should start reaching out

Not all women feel that way. I think it depends on the woman & to some extent her age maybe - when i was in my 30's I wouldn't have wanted to date a widow, but now it doesn't matter to me at all -
just as long as the man is not recently widowed. In that instance they would still be too raw and hurt.
Don't give up