Not that I'm an expert or anything, but I have some advice to all the men out there who might be wondering why they don't get a response for the women they message. 1. Give your marital status. If you don't the woman will probably assume that your either married or separated and believe it or not, most women to looking to meet someone online don't want to date men who are married or separated. 2. List your interests. Saying I'll tell you later says you either don't have any interests, you don't want to mention them or you can't take the time to list them. Listing your interests will give the woman something to talk about if she wants to have a conversation with you. 3 Don't just say Hi. I know it's hard to put your self out there, but look at the woman's interests and ask her a question. If she says she likes to travel in her profile, ask her if she's done any traveling lately etc. Just saying hi makes it very difficult for either of you to start any sort of conversation. And this is just my pet peeve - you've never met me so do not call me sweetie or honey I can't think of a bigger turn off - plus it sounds really condescending. Thanks for listening.

This advice is apropos for women who offer the same lack of style, information and substance.....

WELL.... hi welcome belatedly to Mingle lol

All this advice might be taken abit more serious if...

A your profile was filled out

B.put in the proper forum.

C. Have fun and enjoy the site.


I thought I was going to be asked for a profile review,.

too many rules for me

So very very sorry this post was put in the wrong forum - thirty lashes with a wet noodle for me. I was trying to post a topic .I didn't realize I was putting under an existing forum. And what do you mean my profile isn't filled out?

its no biggy chris,, people can be easily offended and people in cyber worlds can get a bit defensive and judgmental

I think people just need to present themselves truthfully.


Maybe they are too 'shy' to know how to start the conversation so that a 'hi' is the safest intro for them.


There are women attracted to shy who will respond.


There are also those only looking for hook ups, who may start out asking sexual questions,, and there may be women into it that respond as well


I think the trick is that there are no shortcuts. There are many ways to get lots of responses,, but the best way to get truly compatible responses is by displaying whatever is natural to you.

I don't think anyone is offended. Some posted their opinions and some expected that you wanted your profile rate because of the forum the topic was posted in. The rate my profile forum is to have your profile rated. This topic is more for discussions not a rate

You can create new topics but not new forums (catagories)

As far as your profile, I think what she is saying is the about me section says nothing (most fill that out...what they are looking for in someone and about who they are) and more than 1 picture is helpful

Thanks. But I still don't get what you're saying about my profile I have a description of myself under my profile that says I'm looking for someone to explore live with etc and I've filled out all the info that I can see. What exactly is missing if you don't mind telling me? I know that more than 1 pic is helpful but that's the only pic I have of myself in a digital format ( I don't have a smart phone or digital camera) Thanks again.

Thanks for your response. I understand that people can be shy. I just find it very frustrating to get messages from guys I might respond to if only they had posted more info about themselves. Unless that's the point they're just playing games. And I honestly do not know what to say to someone is all they say is hi - I mean really - can't you at least say hi how are you? Hows the weather in ______. But this is online dating so maybe I'm asking too much & expecting it to be like a normal conversation between 2 people.

A little about me: Hi...

^^^ this part. Adding something about what you are looking for in another person (example: family oriented, likes hiking)

Something more about you (example: you love/hate children, you are low/high maintenance, etc)

More about values/ beliefs/etc

That, also, helps weed out people that can't be bothered to read who you are and what you want in someone

More than 1 picture helps others see you better and what you are like

Hi I realized the problem - I wrote a blurb about myself when I created my profile & it never got posted. Thanks for pointing it out to me - I never knew it wasn't there - no wonder I was getting messages from guys who had no info about themselves!

Great blurb

Chris I have to second that sweetie, honey, baby greeting. I find it really disrespectful to be addressed that way myself. They don't even know me so throwing out terms of endearment in my opinion is just a way of trying to create intimacy that can't possibly be present. And when I specify that I only date locally or not looking for a FWB situation - I think those things should be respected and trying to convince women that they're not worth getting to know if they're not willing to 'hook up' is just a bunch of bullying from the man's side. The positive to that is - they show their true colors and you're not wasting your time with those losers.

You are definitely right! Nothing worse than being called baby, sweetie or another romantic term by a complete stranger. I will run as fast as I can

I only get messages from married men and scammers, so it doesn't really matter what I have in my profile.

Yes dear...

Hello Chris , just wanted to thank you so very much on sharing that great advice. Hopefully, it will work for me . Thanks again , Watti

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Yes dear...


aww you're just so sweet.

Your welcome. I sincerely meant for the advice to be helpful. I've gotten alot of messages from guys who I might be interested in but either they don't put down much information about themselves or they just say hi & it gets really frustrating.