why do people change their minds so easily
one time they are so into you but after a few time together,calling and texting and all they become so cranky even at small things..they become so "busy" and can't even talk to them..friends tell me when someone does that,Is he pushing me away? Or making it so hard for me to reach out for him so I would give up on him?
Help needed.

You have posed a complex question as motives for people on dating sites are varied and many.For some its fun to feign interest and manipulate others for personal gratification, some find a new person more interesting and or desirable and move on, still others have personal issues that exclude actual meeting, others have medical and psychiatric issues that preclude actual meeting, Some have an initial interest that is diminished with further interaction as meeting is a process and not a definitive connection so its reasonable to find some who after initial meeting find further inquiry not needed. Still others simply enjoy the charade of being a genuine person when not actually so. What is needed is a patient and realistic expectation of what one seeks in another and also a narrative and sufficient photos to present oneself in a complex and diverse context thereby affording the reader a greater likelihood of being interested and intrigued as the more articulate narratives and diverse photos greatly increase ones chances of a potential match.

After so few dates, and receiving this kind of attitude from them, I would guess they have found someone else. I suggest you stop calling them and see what happens.

That's part of life. We don't control people,they make up their own mind and there's nothing you can do about it but accept it, respect it and get used to it.
You can't take anything for granted even when it's promised or sworn. You can't take you case for a generality nor will your wishes or fantasies upon another or reality.
Asking "why" is pointless. Asking "how" is fruitful.

thanks

Most of the times it is in your own behaviour, not in him having found someone else at all.

Maybe you've been too easy to win over, too eager, too available, called/texted him all the time as opposed to waiting for him to take the initiative to contact you.
It's usually something like that. Or he's found out he's not that into you.
Big hug...

I didn't want to say it or ask -

But if a guy feels smothered, chances are he'll walk

He probably had bad intentions to begin with... Was only interested in a sexual relationship. Don't chase him let em walk. Don't take it personal and don't get yourself down about it. Just keep looking and remember your self worth. :-) best wishes.

I agree with Crystal and Metro. These online relationships are just pen pals with jet engines.... instant communications. It's easy to smother someone quickly. Good thing about Mingle, there's more fish in the ocean, we're he came from. Good luck.

Have patience for them to call you, but if they don't call then you have your answer, and there is no point in chasing rainbows you have to move on with your life.

such a big help thanks

You're welcome ..
If you feel it was something like that, check out some of Matthew Hussey's free stuff on YouTube. Can be a big help to women!

Why have such a negative outlook? Such a shame so many women constantly promote this "All men are bad!!" chit.
Not all men are bad, some are, just like there's women who are.

Personally I think it's about time women learn that it's what they themselves do and say that pushes a guy away. Many lose out on a good guy because of their own behaviour...
I really think women should take responsibility for their own actions. It'll make them feel stronger, better, less prone to fall for the wrong guy. And it will stop them blaming the other sex.
In order to get there, you have to learn and start to understand what it is you do 'wrong' and why it pushes a guy away.

:-) hi Crystal
First off I did not read into anything she said that made me feel she did anything wrong. You covered that possibility and I just posted another possibility. I feel like if anyone (in this case happens to be a man) can't tell you straight they're done means they could be trying to leave a door open. Keep you on the back burner. Maybe he got what he wanted from the relationship or maybe he wasn't getting what he wanted fast enough. Maybe his intentions were bad to begin with. Maybe like you said he felt she was to pushy. He should tell her. Instead he has left her hanging or she wouldn't be wondering. Never said all men are bad never said all women are guiltless. The point was don't waste your time on anyone who don't deserve it. Don't beat yourself up over it just learn and move forward. Ladyfox knows her exact situation. I only know what I read and I posted what I felt just like you did. :-).

People change their minds easily when they have little invested.
Financially, emotionally, mentally, something they value.

Or they've simply already gotten what they wanted from whatever they invested into it.

If they don't feel they are losing anything, or nothing more that they value is to be gained, no reason to give it much thought, decide to pursue greater opportunities.