Is there an age we should give up on the fairy tale love and just look for companionship?

Nope, never just settle

Never too old to love

hi

Yes.
My best guess is 108.

Why is it so hard to find someone at older age to love like you do or be faithful?

Why is it so hard to find someone at older age to love like you do or be faithful?

Damn, the search continues

Damn, the search continues

I don't think it's ever too old to find love, but things change with age. A lot of older people are divorced once, twice or more and get kind of jaded. There are wives/husbands that die and then if you decide to find love again, you have to start all over and may be in your 40's or 50's, or older. It doesn't seem so easy.

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i thought you'd never ask ...

here's a copy of what i put on my Mangle Page
several months ago ...

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I see a lot of people who are looking for their "soul mate".
... for a long time they are looking.

I think that this is wonderful in theory.

I also think that this becomes a bit tougher to pull off
as we get older.

We do not as readily "grow" with another person as we did
when we were nineteen.

We may have acquired a few "habits" and "ruts" and
"idiosyncrasies" along the way.

As lovable as I know I am ...
I realize that sometimes a little bit of me
can go a long way.

so ...

What if two people who genuinely liked each other
decided to be equal, mutual, exclusive, monogamous lovers ??

... saw each other regularly while doing their best to
avoid all of life's little negative realities.

... did their best to keep it positive and exciting.

Nothing "casual" about it ...

Real "Pals & Lovers" to the tenth power.
... but not under each others feet the rest of the time.

Possibly (?) allowing it to reach levels that we may
not have experienced before.







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I am just curious as to why it is a given that companions do not love each other?
The white hot passion at the expense of all else kind of "love" is not sustainable and usually when the passion cools and life sets in the honey moon as they say is over.
I would prefer a man I can respect and grow to love with an endearing heart over unruly passion any day.
Just my humble opinion. Dani

^There is never an age when you don't need the love and wisdom of another.^

Thing is you can grow wiser to know which to embrace

Sure.
Whatever age you've decided absolutely that you don't want to have children.
Whatever age your temperament dictates you look for companionship love.

People have a shelf life.
It's just not the same for everyone.

"Fairy tale" love stems from the process of pair bonding that is mostly about procreating, and if you don't actually procreate a significant stage is interrupted and you will naturally start to work against feeling "fairy tale" love emotions as you're pushed to go find someone to impregnate and fulfill the biological imperative.


Lots of reasons.
Like if you start getting used to being alone, you start developing routines that reinforce your identity and life being alone. "Finding someone" means greater change in your life.
People tend to resist and respond negatively to change, and wanting someone that will just automatically and more naturally just kinda "fit in" easily which is unrealistic.

Like at an older age you have a lot of unique subjective experiences that create a specialized life. Kind of like training all your life, every moment of school, shrines in your home, hobbies revolving around, for being an accountant and then deciding "I want to be an orthopedic surgeon!"
You then try to interact with surgeons and communication is going to be difficult, because you only know how to expect fellow accountant behavior, see problems and solutions from an accounting perspective.
Finding a new relationship is like learning a new language since you have to learn to communicate effectively for it to last.
Neuroplasticity and neurogenesis slow with age.

Like at an older age your driving hormones could have changed, providing less of a push towards something or someone.
But at the same time, your peers, the people your same age go through the same biological changes, different hormonal changes, pushing them less to reciprocate, or pushing them to seek out those with a stronger hormonal push similar to theirs.

Those are some reasons why it's so hard to find someone "to love" at an older age.

It's damn hard... especially if you live in rural Kansas

you're 46???. you make it sound like you in you're 90's

You're 46, shouldn't be hard for you. Unless you're like most 44-46 yr old men, wanting a much much younger woman.
There are an awful lot of women in their 40s looking for love and finding it hard to find a man your age. Most single man your age are only after sex, having a bit of fun, not wanting a relationship nor love, or still have young children which not every woman is up for anymore (again) when their own have already left the nest.
So you should be in paradise, having an enormous amount of willing interested women to choose from.

I myself am sort of happy I am not 46-48 anymore, cos for a woman that age it's really hard to find a partner. For reasons stated above. Men don't seem to be ready to settle down again until at the age of 54-ish and up. And when I was 46 I didn't want a 54+ yr old man. Too much of an age gap.
For women being single in their 40s when looking for love and a relationship is quite depressing. For men it should be easy.

And too old for love? Never! There's ppl in old pensioner homes that still fall in love and get married even! That's ppl in their 80s.
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I'm not into younger women or not the Barbie doll type, I like a lady with a figure soft skin and touch that knows how to treat a man just like I know how treat a lady, I'm finding out that the country boy isn't as popular as once was, even though I think we have the biggest hearts and know how to be a gentleman and treat a lady with respect...

i am feeling too old to go through the whole highs and lows , happy and painful journey of true love... what doesn't kill you makes you stronger and it doesn't mean im lonely even if im alone

Ha ha! Good one soufie! LOL :- D