So I noticed that in many male profiles, even the really short ones, men make it a point of stating that they are hardworking.

In retrospect, I realised that I never really yearned for that quality in a man. I certainly never wanted a lazy man but for me , it was always enough for him to work at least enough to pay his portion of the bills.

But Ive been thinking ...

How important is it for other women that a man be hard working?

And for the men, how much do you value that attribute of working hard in yourself?

Is it one of the top 3 qualities that you pride yourself on personally?

I have a balance, but I value my working habits very much. It says a lot about the character of the man. I work hard. And the bi product of that is to be able to afford the ones you love what they need or want. It has afforded me the same as well.

Again, it is a balance. You also need to know when to turn work off.

Myself... if they are a work alcoholic it has it's benefits along with the down falls..

I prefer a man that works for sure....but not to the point his job is his lively hood...

One that works all the time never gets to enjoy what they have worked for...

But now I don't want one that thinks work is beyond them..

I have worked since I was 15, and not out to find someone that can give me everything, but themselves due to working all the time..

One must learn to balance their life and work....

the little girl in a woman is looking for a alpha male to be there for her, to

comfort, protect, and also have a soft side to listen to her and understand her

and most of all not judge her so she can relax and be herself....and there is a

part of her thats yearns for the little girl in her to connect with the little

boy in him.....

now a days if they think thy can NOT get those needs met

from a guy some will try to get it from another woman.......whole new set of

problems are introduced into there lives.....

I see your point greeneyes and I do think that being hardworking says something about character, but sometimes I wonder if some men focus on it so much , that they do it at the neglect or detriment of other important character attributes or priorities

For eg If I were a parent, I wonder if I would sacrifice the time it takes to work to afford my kid certain luxuries if it robs me of spending any real quality time with them. I know its way more complicated than I made it sound and I know that parents have to make huuuuge sacrifices for their kids to have a good life. But Im just saying that a work ethic being esteened as a mark of character, for me ,bring to mind other discussions about character and priorities , that are not always talked about.

And yes. I totally agree with you. Balance is important and so is the ability to switch work off at times :)

I qualified for Social Security benefits when
I was 26 years old (takes 10 years of $500 a-
month earnings) so I have no interest in
someone who cannot take care of themself.

I found this out after being with someone who
had NO interest in ever working, twas enough
that I did..no thank you and never again.
Traumatic.

You raised the issue of balance like greeneyes did and I agree with you kristi. Balance is important. I certainly have no respect for a parasite who expects me to take care of him but at the same time , the other spectrum of being a workaholic brings its own set of benefits and pitfalls as you said

Working is very important to me, it would kill me if I had to stop for say health reasons or whatever

I'm also old fashioned and I know some won't agree but I see the man as the bread winner.
Obviously if the woman works then great but there is no chance of a woman ever looking after me, financially I mean. Share yes, but not pay for me.

I wouldn't say I work hard but I have a great sense of responsibility

To me, hard working man means I'm not available 24/7 if you are needy.. yep, I still doing my 70hrs/week and got to make it clear on my self on my profile

Wow soufie. Thats really tramatic indeed. That person was on the lazy extreme end of the spectrum. I have a friend who went throughthat with her mate and she had 2 small kids..She told me itwas torture. Nobody wants that :(

But she met a man afterward who worked hard and covered the bills but who knew how to slow down and play as well. I guess as with most things, balance is the key

One of the current problem with work it that you are always "connected". Be it a cell, blackberry.. whatever. And its not as easy as just " turning it off" because the work environment ( in many fields) is almost 24/7. And companies have come to expect " instant answers".

Technology has played a big part in extending the work day for most people. And that is not a good thing.. but a fact.

Oh yeah..live and learn..balance :-)

To be honest !!..I'm the hardest working person I know..lol.. if I can't complete a job either at home or for work.. it affects me deeply on some moral level.. makes me feel like I need to try harder.... like everyone, I have days where I don't even want to get out of bed ..but I always do..sure! sure!.. sometimes I will put things off to the last minute.. but whatever it is ..I always get
it done..and yes.. I know!! you still need that shelf put up... trust me!! it's on the list. Wink wink..ohh..and yes.. the outside Outlet on the garage.. I haven't forgot.. it too is on the list..lol..

I think it should be equal for both, men and women, most definitely maintain a balance somewhere in between... This is the Key.

.. I like your thinking good idea .. you bring home the bacon..I will fry it up... marry me please..lol...yup..
Remember the day when the man went to work and the little lady stayed at home tending to the house..and children..
Hmmm... maybe it's time for us men to stay at home and let the little ladies bring home the bacon..lol..

I don't work but I do hardwork
I prefer smart work than just hardwork.

..Spoken like a true computer technician... or maybe you're in the financial industry..lol

Sounds like a lawyer.

..no.. a lawyer would never go on public record and admit they don't work hard..lol