Good Morning M2, you guys are awesome my last two forums once again mega hits thanks to all who keep me relevant and responding to my forums thanks a million keep posting. Okay, let's get right into it, in our dating world we set certain standards for one another in various types of relationships. The question I ask you my friends, " when do three in a relationship considered company?" Let me explain, alright, we have various types of relationships, we have your open relationships, we have our swinging couples, we have our my 2 wives type of relationship, and even bigamy. The question is do you support having a third person in your marriage or relationships? Are you currently in a 3 way situation, & if so share with me how that work out for you? Also if you living this here with 2 or more lovers, my question to those also disagree with 3's company relationships as well. I mean let's turn it up and share. Can't wait to hear, Later!

EyeAmYourHost39,

I see it like this, in a lot of ancient cultures the deities or rulers married multiple women. in the world today is not that black & white on maintaining or holding down an extra partner in any type of relationship. For one, ancient rulers were over confident. They we're loving of there subjects. Two, sometimes in our society w hats been done in ancient periods doesn't mean it will work in today's modern society. We have drama now, we have unwanted child pregnancies, we have legal laws to protect the other party and legally not much can be supported to a third party. It6s like if you was a man, and you was married to 1 woman, then you add another woman or man to your marriage. Then you and your 1rst wife having marital issues and you wind up filing for divorce. In law today depending on living & financial situation the wife may be in titled to some financial support. But in law no 2nd wife gets any benefits except what the husband share with her . So all in a nutshell I would be against having an extra women in my life. Number 1 I'm not currently in a relationship right now, but if I was, with my Christian beliefs and my moral judgment I would never invite another partner in our lives. Secondly I wouldn't want to make my woman feel like she has to compete in her own home with another woman. Third, I go do twice as much than your average. I mean if you do for one you have to do for the other one. Suppose they both just not liking each other. Women are competitive species and they don't like to share there men. so I oppose, what's your take?

BAD IDEA,

SO MAY THINGS CAN GO WRONG AND DO GO WRONG.........

sparkyae5


I agree for once I'm adding my opinion. normally I like to stay neutral but on this no way! I see your point.

I HAVE COME TO REALIZE THERE ARE MAINLY TWO REASONS FOR BEHAVIOR, 1-TO VALIDATE

OLD BELIEFS THAT WERE FORMED WHEN WE WERE TO YOUNG TO FULLY

UNDERSTAND............2-TO SUPPORT FAVORITE FEELINGS AND EMOTIONS THAT WE BRING

TO THE TABLE.....THERE ARE ONLY FOUR LIFE POSITIONS TO PICK FROM, THE FIRST

THREE ARE UNHEALTHY AND NOBODY WINS.THE LAST ONE ONLY 5% OF THE WORLD THAT

HAS CHOSEN....THATS WHY SO MANY LIVES ARE UNFULFILLED AND CAN NOT FIND

THE HAPPINESS THEY TRULY WANT AND NEED.......TO REALLY SEE AND TAKE IN THE OTHER

PERSON WE HAVE BE AT PEACE WITH THE WORLD.....

My generation was not raised to share.
The concept escapes me.

Although I wouldn't mind HAVING a wife...
for all the stuff I don't want to do :-)

Only if it's a child or a therapist.


Me, myself, and I at the moment. The sex is mind blowing.


If someone was in an open relationship with 2 other people and on a dating site, wouldn't that mean they were looking for a 4th, and/or not really getting enough from the other 2 people?
What kind of response to this are you expecting regarding how it was "working" for them?
To me it seems like sitting in a car repair center and asking "so, hows that chevy working for you?"


I disagree with multiple wives because it means less women for me.
I disagree with multiple husbands because it gives women ideas of what's possible.
I think for the most part the whole opposite sex "just friends" thing is a means to accumulate multiple spouses without the property or responsibility risk.


Other than that, I can see the benefits of multiple spouses if there is no social security from government welfare, and you actually have a purpose in life (run a business, grow food).
Finding a large family emotionally bonded and invested in the continuation of the family and its purpose is inherently more trustworthy and stable than having to hire random strangers who don't really want to be there.

But seeking out multiple spouses solely for the purpose of emotional ties, gratification, and self actualization, is not going to lead to anything pleasant long term.

I in no way judge others if that is their thang... I can even understand it to a point. I even know a couple sets of ppl that have relationships like this and it works wonderful for them.

Yet I know myself well enough to know..
It won't happen in any intimate relationship I am having. Not a jealousy thing but more of a trust issue for me. I would feel it a form of cheating...

I am old fashion I believe in the Biblical saying.. "Cleave unto one another" and with a third party there I don't see it happening.

Sparkyae5,


AS man of few words.......I can respect that.

Never been in that situation personally, but all I have to say to those who are is "STOP BEING SO GREEDY!" If the person you really want is already with someone then find someone else, stop trying to cut in.

Soulfiehere,


good morning darling, you right we both grew up in a generation that don't share but its a lot of 3somes going on especially with our loved celebrities, like Will & Jada.....and many more!

DNHBlue,


Good answer stop being selfish people!...

I don't know, I'm from the school of thought that we happy with 1 mate. with diseases and unwanted pregnancies scares going on I just rather not put myself at risk. Then its the drama, a crazy ex that don't want to let go , you wind up cracking this person skull in halve , go to prison and you still aren't together.....to me that's too much energy for little time.

EyeAmYourHost39,

People, lets remember that a relationship and marriage today is one guy , one girl. Never take that for granted, god honors a true union. the devil is the one to condoned multiple partners. I didn't want to bring religion in this but it all ties with religion. Scenario, suppose you got it good, I'm a think like a woman for a minute, I have 2 male lovers and a female lover. so that's 3 so far, you follow? anyway I'm in bed with male # 1, while male number two calls in the middle of sex. I disorientated for a sex , after getting my brains knock out, then male # 2 is jealous and angry. while the other girl stops by and really pissed......then guy number one found out with the others and don't want anything to do with me....now ask yourself is it worth all that? Is it worth losing yourself because or your ego or broken mentality?

CireTom,


Good for you buddy, its nice to know real men of valor still exist. don't get me wrong, people could see whoever they want, I'm just trying to understand the logic of al this. I used to be that kind of man where I have to more than a few girls in my cellphone or what us dudes back then call it our " Little Black Book" in my early 20's. now that I'm 40, a man of faith and maturity when I'm in a relationship I'm totally one woman guy.

SitkaRains,

One of my favorite " Vocal Avengers" Ms. Sitka, I want to start by saying I love your mind. I love your view how you an old fashion kind of girl. keep posting my avenger.......like McDonald's I'm loving it!....lol

For me, it is all a matter of practicality.

I have discovered that in the real world, each person's life follows it's own trajectory. It's own path, if you will. It is very difficult for even TWO people to adjust themselves, and even more rare that they are naturally so in tune, that their lives can run in parallel.

The chance that three or more people could manage to build a strong and healthy romantic relationship, gets geometrically more unlikely, the more individuals are involved.

And in the end, I know that what I want in a life with someone else, is to be with them whenever I want to be, and to be available to them, whenever they want me. If there is someone else involved, that will be impossible. One or the other person will be with the third one, at the times when the first is in need.

Humm I know the world is changing but there are some things that I don't change with...

I don't share well with others when it is a partner... not my thing and not gonna happen..

For those that do more power to ya.. Have nothing against what others do but just not the way I see a relationship...

IgorFrankensteen,
Hello, welcome to my cyber home, I can agree its one free will but I'm a old school kind of guy. I believing one union, not concubines. God honors a one on one relationships & Marriages. Now I know folks think again in the ancient times kings had more than one wife. true!, but times were a little dark back then. They marry multiple wives not to feel themselves but to continue a bloodline for the aires.

TXGal3333,
Hey Mommy, I don't blame you at all . good woman.

Oh, I could not agree more!