Is it common to keep wearing a wedding ring once you are on your own, and even possibly dating someone?

Should you ask he/she to remove it? Is it a case of them still grieving in some way or are they just trying to hang on to the past?


WHAT ARE YOUR FEELINGS ON THIS?

It is understandable if a widow or widower were to keep wearing a wedding band. I did so for awhile after my wife died.

However, when one decides to date again, then the wedding band needs to be put away.

Wearing a wedding ring is a message.
It should not be worn as an urn.

I fully agree although I have seen men wearing one years after being on their own,

A beautiful message.... well said.

People need to be respected in their grieving and this is unkind and not helpful advice..

No idea. Don't know if any serious surveys have been conducted.



Only if you want to come across as a control freak, or a Dom in a Dom Sub situation, or an egotistical jerk of some kind. It's none of your goddam business what someone wears on their finger or why, UNTIL you have been together long enough to have agreed to, and actually be, coordinating your lives with each other.


You already have an example of just this, so obviously, yes sometimes.

I have also known people who's ring was a family heirloom, others who were married long enough, and changed enough physically, such that the ring would have to be cut off, and still others who simply wear the ring out of habit.



I don't have any feelings either way about it. It's none of my business either.

Sure, I'll take one.
I'd rather have the cash, though.
But I'm not too picky.


Maybe for widows.
Or if you work in a job where you get hit on and annoyed a lot so wear it as a buffer every day, and just forget about it.

I think it's more common for people not to continue wearing it for not wanting the constant reminder of a failed marriage, though.

Also, I think it's more common for people not to continue wearing one, especially if they have children with their ex, so as not to give their ex the idea they want to get back together, or that they can't get over their ex.

I don't think it's "common" to keep wearing a wedding ring when single/divorced.


"Should?"
You "should" if asking such a thing is normal for you and you'll have a personal problem and anxiety if you don't ask.


Maybe.
There are all sorts of reasons people wear rings.
As a reminder, as a talisman, luck charm, camouflage, perceptions, tastes, logistics, fashion.

I know at least one guy that wears a wedding ring because he believes women (promiscuous ones) find married men more attractive.

I know one single guy that's never been in a relationship that wears a gold band on his wedding finger because he's neurotic and feels people are going to see him as gay or a child molester if at his age he's not married.

I know my aunt wears her wedding ring because she thinks it's a pretty ring but it only fits that one finger and she's far too cheap to get it resized, or buy a different pretty ring (if it ain't broke don't fix it).

I dated one woman that started wearing a ring on that finger after a couple weeks as a not so subtle hint that she was marriage minded and wanted me to propose. "Just trying it out to see what it was like."

I've known women that wore rings on that finger just because. They weren't wedding rings, just rings, and they just wanted to wear a ring on that finger. The wedding finger and/or engagement finger.
Those particular fingers simply felt the most comfortable with rings.
Some people wear them on their thumbs, some on their forefinger, middle finger, some on their pinky, some people wear rings on all their fingers, some simply prefer the "meaningful" fingers. It just "feels" normal and other fingers don't.


They're dependent upon the person doing it and why they're doing it.

I wore mine for years afterwards. The reason I wasn't dating and I didn't want to be bothered.
When I was I still wore it on my right hand for years.

I would never ask someone to remove their ring or rings. But I also know that if I saw a "ring" I wouldn't approach them for dating either.

And yet..worth the same as yours :-)

Tooshay.....

A ring to me is an honored symbol and should be respected regardless of the reason it is worn.

Umm.. doesn't everybody take their wedding ring to the pawn broker..lol..
Melt it down and make a new ring out of it.. it's all about the bling..lol

Damn...that is why my ring was so scratched and worn when it was given to me.

jewelry is just jewelry, many reasons to wear it,, maybe because its sentimental or maybe because its representative of a bond, or maybe just because its beautiful

wouldnt bother me anyone wearing one,,,,as long as they were honest about their status

We got people wearing all kinds of jewelry and piercings and whatnot so I don't see why someone shouldn't wear a wedding ring if they want to. Has no consequences on me whatsoever.

It depends...
After a bad marriage, the ring is usually one of the first things to go
because it's freeing, like the song... It's a new dawn, it's a day for me.
Or Free Again, independently free free again...

However, if it was a death of spouse and it was a wonderful marriage, the
widowed spouse usually keep the ring on while grieving or until time to
move on.



I wouldn't.. that would be rude IMO. If a guy shows up on a first date or first meet
wearing a wedding ring, there won't be a second date. No questions asked,
no explanations needed.

Yet what is considered 'more helpful and honest and less judgemental' is in the eye of the beholder...
If someone is still grieving, they simply shouldn't be dating until they're ready for it. It's not fair on a potential new partner if your feelings for your ex are still so strong that you feel like continuing to wear the symbol of your commitment to them.

Dunno why someone would choose to do so, the only thing I can think of is that they're not ready yet for a new relationship and commitment.
I wouldn't date someone who's still wearing their wedding band.
I've been in a relationship where I always felt the ex partner was higher up on his list of priorities, I'll never go there again. It's too painful and just not fair to do that to a partner.
If you're not ready for a new commitment, just don't go there. Pretty naff thing to do to someone else
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