that someone could just not care about there own flesh and blood. I had my baby 10 days ago and her father has not been over to see her, let alone even called me. How could someone not want to see there own child. She is so beautiful and he's missing out. It just makes me sad and I'm having a hard time with it. :(

(((((((((GIRL)))))))))))) enjoy your little one, and don't leave him get you down........

((((hugs))))

my daughter's father hasn't been very involved, and not at all since she was 7 weeks. Its sad, but its his loss.

i feel ure pain...i have 3 children n he lives only 20min away...but never sees his children or calls them...its his lose....i get to see them blossom...keep ure head up...

Being a mother is such an incredible thing that it is hard to understand how the other parent can just not feel the same way!! My girls are 4 and 6 by the same man and I know EXACTLY how you feel!! In the end it will be his loss.....he is missing out HUGE!!!

I'm enjoying her more than ever and I know I shouldn't let the jerk get me down, it's just hard especially since as much as I hate him right now I'm starting to miss him or maybe it's just that I'm lonely because I'm not dating anyone right now. She does make it all better when I hold her though, she makes me so happy.

BABY GIRL...LOVE HER UNCONDITIONALLY!!I have no respect for a man thats walks away from his own child,girl ull be fine....u dont need him

Wow I really don't know what to say. That's absolutely terrible. Even if he was in the state of mind that he's "Stuck" since you two had a beautiful child (I'm sure), it'd be a blessing to be with someone like you.

I'm just sorry to hear that. I've been noticing that a lot lately, beautiful women that have a very good head on their shoulders having an even more beautiful child, yet the father is no where in sight. I'm seriously sick just thinking about it so lord only knows what you must be going through right now.

Just know that you are very down to earth, smart, not too mention absolutely gorgeous, and trust me, he's missing out on an AWFUL lot if he doesn't shape up pretty soon.

anyone can be a father...it takes a real man to be a dad. Not to put down someone I don't know or even the situation around them, but maybe it's better he isn't around...

ahhhhhhhhhhhh don't get down..........being a single parent is rough at times..........plus your still healing, it hasn't been long since you brought your daughter into the world........just come on here, relax, and chat

IF HE DOESN`T CARE TO BE THERE, FINE.......TAKE HIM TO COURT, GET WHAT YOUR DUE, TO RAISE THE BABY! BEST OF LUCK TO YOU AND YOURS.....

i cant understand it either..i spent 14 years taking care of kids that werent mine and their father didnt come around either or send anything for their b-days i guess he figured crack was more important but at least your child has a mother that loves her thats more than some have..some guys are just jerks ..i hope things get better for you and your child...

His loss babe. I know somewhat how you feel. I want to be with my babies every second, but due to there mother I cant.

I am sorry to learn of your sadness. Your daughter is lucky to have such a loving mother. I hope her father will come to realize the love he is missing from his daughter. It is his loss!

Please accept my congratulations on your newborn.

How odd my ex let me see my son the day after he was born then refused to let me see him after and I had to get a lawyer to even get to see him. I'll never forgive that b*tch for that and he will know about it one way or another when the time is right.

Thanks so much everyone. Even though I don't know any of you in person it helps to read all your replies. :) I know alot of women go through this and it's such bull****. I don't know exactly what's going on with him right now but I do know he's been going through some hard times. To me though that's no excuse not to see your child. Like everyone said if he doesn't come around it's his loss. I will show her all the love in the world.


dchatwin thanks so much, that's very sweet! :)

You seem lonely and that's what it mainly seems to be about from your post.... but thats alright. You seem to be self reflective about this which is a great personality trait...

I don't know the situation so can't comment beyond that... But you, you are young, attractive, and have so much to enjoy little by little as you watch her grow.

I hope the loneliness subsides and that you continue to find strength from what you will have to offer your daughter...

Very cool stuff. I love kids and love to watch them laugh and find humor and hugs in this world.

John, father of two daughters, 11 and 13.

On top of that, the bond that you and him share now because of the child is there now and not being able to share the moments with that person is such a terrible feeling to have to go through. I don't think it's a matter of being lonely girl. Your heart is just doing what's natural.

Once your healed and able to get out of the house that will help too.........until then and even after then join us here........your a beautiful young lady.......and I am sure your daughter is just as beautiful.......leave us give you the help needed through this time.......

my son is now 16 and his father walked out on me when I was 3 months pregnant. he hasn't bothered to contact us at all. His loss my gain!!!!! Find someone that can be a good father to your children and move on...better off in the long run!!!