how you react, if you find your partner can not keep loyalty to you?
what do you do when you see your partner can not keep his loyalty to you (your spouse cheating)?
I just joined this site because it wants to find a serious partner, to appreciate and to maintain loyalty to the couple.
I've often played by my partner (my past).

and how to anticipate couples who can not appreciate the loyalty to the spouse's own ..?
Please guide me..

thank you..

thank you louise for your comments ..
during this time I have to be patient and give her the opportunity to be able to change the attitude and nature,, but I've not considered ..
so I decided to end my relationship with her ..
Now that I think are just waiting for the right person for me.
I also sympathize with your story, louise ..
May I call you mom?
because I want to add a friend to communicate ..

there value system will give the answer.....and or very strong parental

tapes.....

If they can not be loyal...then it is time to show them the door... and say

Really simple actually..
Good bye..

My thoughts exactly. You obviously wouldn't be what the other was seeking, so only good thing to do there is let them go find that which they seek and stop wasting time with you :)

from now on I just actually waiting for the right woman for me ..
thank you sir for your comments and advice ..

Guide you ... well, to be honest ... if your heart and hurt ego aren't open and ready yet to start a new relationship from a place of trust, do not go looking for a new one. First sort out your problems.
If it happened a few times with different partners, you may want to look at how that came to be. Why did that happen, what did you do -or not do- to cause that partner to cheat?
It is ALWAYS a two-way street. Can be anything, from you being too insecure and attracting the wrong type of girl for you to you being too flirty with others yourself so a partner doesn't feel safe in the relationship with you. And anything in between. But you DO have a part in this. ALWAYS a dynamic of cause and effect.

I think first, it is a good idea to recognize that only clinically insane people are UNABLE to behave loyally in a relationship. People who cheat, choose to cheat, usually because they think the circumstances and life itself, justifies it.

In order to get yourself into a relationship where the other person doesn't think that way, you need to take two general steps:

1. learn about YOURSELF. Figure out how and why you are choosing someone as a mate, and in particular, watch out for what you are ASSUMING IS TRUE ABOUT THEM. I've found that the number one cause of someone feeling as though they have been cheated on, isn't really the other person cheating (per se), so much as it is that they ASSUMED that the other person thought about the relationship the same way that they did.

2. when you are getting to know someone, pay less attention to how yummy they make you feel, and more attention to how they deal with life in general. Most dishonest or delusional people, give us plenty of clues that they can't be believed or trusted, in hundreds of little ways, long before they commit the larger and more painful acts. most often, you will witness them lying to other people right in front of you, in order to make their own lives a little easier. Or they will talk about their reasons for doing small things a certain way, and if you are paying attention, you will realize that their reasons are based on childish, self centered fantasies, rather than on dealing with other people or even physical objects, as they actually are.

Be careful in particular, while you are still suffering the pain of having been wronged, that you don't try to get revenge, by demanding that the new people who you meet, pay an emotional ransom for the theft from your soul that the previous person committed. Eventually, you should realize that the only way to trust love, is to live as though it's there. And it wont be there for long, if at all, if you constantly and suspiciously question it all the time.

^^ what he said.. I agree.. and how clever you are!

If they cheat on me, I will forgive them....but I will move on. I don't have time to sit and wonder if they will do it again. My life is too important for that. But that's just me.

I agree. Time to move on, because if they couldn't say no to temptation once, there's no guarantee they could do it the second time around. The trust is already gone. I don't want to have to worry whether or not it will happen again.

I agree with this 100%.