that is an awesome movie thatone and jake is fine..

viva guck with those midwestern men..

Girl.. I went thru something similar recently... 2 at one time, then another comes in.. and each makes me smile.. but I had to decide which one would be the better for me... and me for him...

Its hard to go thru this.. first none are interested. then you got more than you can handle lol...

Good luck and have fun

Hmm, so where are all of the guys complaining that they have multiple quality women that they have to pick and choose from?

*ducks and covers for the obvious answers*

You are 18, take a pick and go with it, if that fails try again. Don't be too hard on yourself......you have a lifetime to get it right

i was in this situation a few time and it was not with me in the middle - it was always with me being one of N guys

in the first instance - she had guys all over her - i couldn't visit her at her dorm room without at least 3 guys stopping in to say hi while i was there!! her name was Carla and she would go on walks and out for lunch and dinner with me and we played raquetball and swam together. eventually i tired of trying to get in a word edgewise - so i got busier with classes and stopped calling and trying to ask her out...it was just too much like a competition. not her fault of course - but she did not pick me fast enough.

later we happened to cross paths while out walking and both
Carla and I were alone so we could stop and talk. "What happenened to you!! - she asked, "Well I just got busy with classes!! - i lied, "I really wish you had kept asking me out..." - Carla said "I missed you" - but by then it was too late and I just couldn't get back on that merry-go-round. Hurt though - that she couldn't have let me know when I was feeling her so much. 4 months later and Carla transferred to another school and I was in an amazing relationship with another exceptional woman. But I remember Carla to this day...and I remember her last name too....she was achingly beautiful and her manner was free and open and playful...

in all the other "situations" - she picked me! (at least for a while)...one of those lasted for 7 years. another one 13 and counting....

You're in a great place. I say have fun with it. Unless you really have the urge to settle down with one of them, enjoy them all. If you don't have a reason to commit, then don't. As you know from the dy spells, it doesn't always work out like that. Four nice, great guys is not that bad.

If you really do want to pick, I would say go with the one who you find yourself thinking about in the morning. The person that gives you the biggest smile when you see that they're calling. You can try to rationalize it out in your head all you want, but usually it's that feeling in the pit of your stomach that will really let you know.

come on over to Atlanta...I think it is still a 3:1 girl to guy ratio....aged 18 - 35... 2:1 36-50

not bad for us divorced guys looking..

tell them you will be gone for awhile and wont be able to communicate w/them and see how they react

A girl with soooo many choices, good for you. Your young yet, why do you have to decide so quickly. I would enjoy all of them, there is no need to make up your mind...tomorrow, is there? ENJOY!!!!

<-----bounces off on his pogo stick
gotta love randomness

yes play them all

and then when you get played

you will understand why

Girl let me be honest, Guys lie to get what they want and the ones that claim they don't are just proving me right. The fact is that your probablly in a bit of confusion and you really aren't sure excaltly what you want out of a relationship right now. ADVICE: Take your time, don't feel like you have to make a commitment untill you are sure, go slow with these guys and see if you can figure out who's really got your best interest at heart and not their own wants.......you need one of each sex to have fun......you need a real friend to have a real relationship and real friends aren't made over night...Good Luck Sweetie

I agree with the last post. Take your time you are young. Why do you have to decide? You do not have to be with just one man as long as you are not lying to them. That is what dating is about. Date them see which one you like best. You never truly know someone until you have dated them for awhile. Time will show you who you should be with. Well and that special feeling you get with them and the way they make you smile and just know you. Will let you know to. The guys that pay attention are keepers!

it is the way in which you date them
that is important now...any females
want to make a suggestion on that front?

Yeah, I'm 18, but a is 23. b is 21. c is 23. and d is 19.
so i'm sure the first three aren't going to wait forever, and i don't want to go messing anything up.

like i said earlier

tell them you will not be available

to them for awhile

if they get upset and want an explanation

more than it is a family situation

do not be overly concerned

then they may just be a bit controlling

but hey what do i know

Girl, they're going to be available for a long time because your falling for boy's that are going to still be trying to figure out if there gay or not. You better start talking to men that have alredy figured out what they want in life if your looking for any thing serious and not just a broken heart.

pick the best looking one!

Can I be D?

so pick one to be exclusive for a while and tell the
others that you are a one guy type of a girl and you
are seeing someone for now. then explore the relationship
with the one guy and see where it leads.

only call one of the other three if your relationship
with choice number one ends. serial monogamy.

i have had times when i was dating but was always eager
to spend extra time in the special one-on-one way that
a deeper personal commitment brings. you can't get that
though casual dating. and it is natural for you and the
guys to want to eventually seek the security of an
exclusive relationship. and i will tell you that one of
my relationships spanning 7 years eventually resulted
in her going back to one of my rivals from 7 years
earlier!! He waited 7 years! They remained friends off
and on in the interim and are married with 2 kids now.

so all you can do is try. but i highly recommend
serial monogamy. it is important to each of us to have
the security of an exclusive arrangement at times. jmo.

now - how do you pick? well that is really the essence
of your problem and only you can really answer it but
you can date them all for a little while longer telling
them that you are not ready for exclusive until one of
them is just too compelling to resist. but be upfront
and tell them that you are just dating for fun in the
meantime.

good luck - and i hope that one of them proves to be
very special to you for a long time