I am a big fan of compromise , but this is a tricky one Seak. Alot of those more extreme sexual antics typically involve more pain/humiliation for the woman than the man . In most of these scenarios, its the woman getting choked really hard. Its the woman getting slapped very hard. Its the woman being spat on in the face. The man doesnt endure any pain most of the time .
....So what we might try to call a compromise is actually the woman enduring the roughness.

I have said several times in this thread that I believe there is a fine line between passion and a certain level of agression between people who have strong chemistry , but I personally have strong boundaries. Slapping me in the face or spitting on me is unacceptable. Squeezing me to the point of injuring me is unacceptable. Choking me to the point where my eyes are watering, bulging out of my eye-sockets or my skin changing to another colour, is unacceptable. There will be women who dont feel disrespected in those circumstances, and for them , this is a none issue. But for someone who feels degraded or threatened by those acts,making such a compromise for the relationship is compromising their dignity and self respect, No one should feel obligated to do that in the name of love IMO.

Welcome to the forum Mamadutoure :)

Silly question, just forgot to ask.
Am I alone, or with somebody?

With yourself, you can be as rough as you like, soufie

Oh. Well then..nevermind :-)

Agreed

Someone mentioned rape fantasies awhile back......

""FULLERTON, Calif. (KABC) --
A woman is accused of posing as an ex-boyfriend's pregnant wife and soliciting "rape fantasy" ads on Craigslist. (Orange County District Attorney's Office)
Tuesday, July 19, 2016
An Ontario woman faces life in prison on suspicion of pretending to be her ex-boyfriend's pregnant wife and soliciting "rape fantasy" ads on Craigslist.
Authorities said Michelle Suzanne Hadley, 29, pretended to be the pregnant wife of her ex-boyfriend and responded to advertisements on Craigslist involving rape fantasies.
Hadley is also accused of stalking and threatening the wife, who has been called Jane Doe by police.
Hadley has been charged with one felony count each of stalking with a restraining order, stalking, criminal threats and assault with the intent to commit a sexual offense during the commission of first-degree burglary; six felony counts of attempted forcible rape; and one misdemeanor count of violation of a protective order with a sentencing enhancement allegation.
Between 2013 and 2015, Hadley had a romantic relationship with Jane Doe's husband, a U.S. Marshals Service agent, before Doe and the man married, according to police.

Sometime during the month of June, authorities also said Hadley responded to ads on Craigslist where she posed as Doe and solicited men who would engage in rape fantasies and sexual acts resembling rape.
"She was posing as the victim and she was asking men to come over and participate in a rape fantasy, she was also responding to ads that men would post," Zimmer explained.
She is suspected of replying to the men with photos and details of Doe's daily routine. During this time, authorities said Hadley would tell the men who responded to her that she wanted them to have forcible sex with her, even if she screamed or resisted.
Authorities said several of the men who responded to Hadley showed up at Doe's home with the intent of raping her, but were unsuccessful.
One of the men who responded and arrived at Doe's home physically attacked her, but fled when she was able to call for help.
"Several individuals actually did show up at the victim's residence and one of them did actually attack the victim, thankfully did not rape her, but was attacking her," Zimmer said.""
http://abc7.com/news/woman-accused-of-soliciting-rape-fantasy-ads-on-craigslist-as-ex-boyfriends-wife/1433090/



That's some Lifetime Movie type stuff right there....

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Oh wow Reb. Thats pretty mind-blowing!

How does this differ
from the..."Pimp" slap?

There are people who like and enjoy receiving pain, lots and lots of it.

Tell me more baby.

Context is so important.

Your comment is referring to two partners who are equally on board with rough sex. Here is one of several of my quotes in this thread which convey my agreement with you in that context...


"Hi Jimp53. I do think couples have the right to choose whatever makes them happy. There are many people that don't consider it (rough sex) as lowering themselves when they do it. They look at each other as equals who share the same sexual interests. I guess if neither party feels disrespected or damaged, all is fair in love and war."

In my response to Seak,however ( which I assume is the statement you are responding to), she and I are referring to a scenario where one partner wants it and the other one doesnt, and she was proposing that a person , in the name of love, might want to experiment with what their partner's desires.

And I responded... " There will be women who dont feel disrespected in those circumstances, and for them , this is a none issue." ( which is in part also what you are suggesting in your statement)

What I was trying to explain to Seak, is that it is difficult for the women , who reject the idea of rough sex to even attempt it out of love for their partner, because FOR THEM, it means compromising THEIR sense of personal safety or/and self -respect.

And the other angle of this discussion was about which gender TYPICALLY endures most of the pain in that scenario. I didnt say anywhere that there arent exceptions to the rule, when men have to endure the pain, but I stand by my statement that TYPICALLY, it is the women that do. Pain is generally not viewed as pleasurable by women who reject rough sex. For them it is torment and disrespect. And it was in that context I explained to Sea K that trying to compromise in the name of love is very tricky. And I stand by my final quote....



"But for someone who feels degraded or threatened by those acts,making such a compromise for the relationship is compromising their dignity and self respect, No one should feel obligated to do that in the name of love IMO."

I have no idea. Without calling any names, I will refer you to the rough sex experts in this thread for further insights

This is very true krissy , which is why I kept stressing that people have to find a partner who wants the same things they do

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