you have parted ways due to the given circumstances.
the 'inconveniences' beyond each other's control.

but knowing both emotions were intact still

would you take back the once you love?
would you still dare to try?

If we parted on good terms and the break up was over circumstances that neither of us could help at the time, I would absolutely give the person another try if we are both single. Hi Calista

I think I would try again if something had happened beyond our control.

If it was my fault we had parted and I knew the feelings were still there on both sides.. yes again.

If it wasn't my fault and I knew she still had feelings for me I would try again.

If the feelings weren't there on either side I wouldn't try again.

Laurie

well said
hi there lovely peggy

that's the spirit!
liked it

Thank you calista29.

I used to let the little things bother me in my previous marriage but having been on my own for 18 years I have learnt to be a lot more tolerant and understanding of others feelings.

Now I just have to find a nice compatible lady..

Laurie

Nope; once the relationship is over; there is no second chance with me. My thought is if we couldn't work it out enough to stay together the first time; then why would it be any different the second time?

most welcome

as we age.we became even more wiser brought by life's experiences.

we learn more..
we understand more..
we forgive more..
we give more..
we cherish more..

after all,the true life's essence is to live,love and survive .

best of luck on your search

It's never really over till there's a restraining order.

No.


It's not really trying, it's attempting to pick up where you left off.
There's no starting over, there are no clean slates.
Only now you've changed and neither of you are who you were before.

If circumstances have magically changed in so short of time that we haven't really changed as people, then we broke up, made the decision to quit, without really trying, which means it wasn't really that hard of a decision, there wasn't really "love" there.

There's a reason why as a 20 year old I didn't date 12 year olds even though I found them awesome when I was 12.
I'd changed as a person, what I saw, what I know, what I felt, all changed.

So, to date someone after a significant amount of time passed means I would have to see them, treat them, expect them to be the same person as they used to be, or I would have to try and forget everything I knew about them, everything I assumed, all the expectations, all the understanding, and come to learn who they were untainted with biased eyes.
I don't believe the latter would be possible, and the former would simply lead to a lot of stress, anxiety, and arguments as who I thought they were and who they are now try to make sense.


Your emotions don't define you, what triggers them and how you respond to them do.
And you constantly update and change that over the course of your life.

I may think I "love" them, but it's not really them I love, it's who they were when we broke up and moved on.

There's no such thing as "both emotions were still intact."
At best you form an idea of the person, put them in a box, and assign certain idealized emotions to them, then stick it in some sort of mental/emotional box for selfish reasons.

So

No.
I wouldn't take them back.
If I had nothing better to do at the time I might date them, catch up, see what happens.
But I wouldn't be all "let's jump into our old relationship again!" which seems to be kinda what you're asking.

i dont know your reasons
and that could make a big difference
but when i finally decide to leave , or have it made for me

its for good

there was after all a reason why you left in the first place

it ain't over 'till it's over - leny kravitz
hello there

One more try? Hmmmnnn.. should we try and work it out? Well, If the feelings are mutual and both are still single, why not?.... but it all depends, not all deserve a second chance, only the worthy ones. Are you both willing to take again the risks of loving and losing each other knowing the pain that you have gone through after the break up? There are many reasons to consider before stepping into the unknown. Have you already known the cause of your break up? Do you both acknowledge and recognize each other's faults? Have you both decided how it can be fixed? Because it's not that easy to just go back to where you left off without proper thinking, it would be prone to another failure. Are you both trying hard to fixed the problem? Are you both willing to accept change and admit you're wrong? If you think It's worth a try then go take a step and show your love for each other.

But if anyone doesn't show any effort to change and the same red flags showing , better not try a second chance as you would only hurt each other and surely would go through a lot of pain. Leave some respect before you destroy each other. Love maybe sweeter the second time around or maybe not, and it will be living in hell for both of you. Either find your happiness in each other's arms or in another man's or woman's arms. Love is a risk, just hope for the best with an old love or a new love:) it's all worth trying whichever way you want to take in pursuit of love and happiness.

I'm not sure.
I find myself thinking of circumstances that would really be out of our control. Can't really think of anything, except for maybe a war or a crisis like we had in 2007.
Most other things that come to mind are part of life's ups and downs and we do have some sort of control over those. I think there really are few things we don't have any control over.

If our love isn't strong enough to survive such a thing it will likely not be strong enough to make it work now.
You know, the way someone deals with hardships says much about who they are. And clearly we didn't compute when things got rough. So I think I'd pass

Once bitten, twice shy.

Wow, learning a lot from this topic but I think if we couldn't make it work them due to insufficient strength, we can try again because neither of us had the strength then but now we may have developed the necessary strength.

Its really over when you decide to part company. I gave it three attempts to regain some kinda order...but that failed. So ya...there is no going back....ever..besides...theres always M2...lol....

with your extensive and profound opinion in every given situational topic leaves me gapingly think,literally!

you are darn smart crystal!
and yes,must admit.
whenever I start in my thread.
there's always a welcoming anticipation of your pragmatic comment/s.

thank you for sharing and recently part of my given topic

depends upon his efforts and sincerity.. I believe in second chances

For me, once it's over, it's over. There's usually a reason, and most likely I wouldn't be able to try and go back.

Have tried it before, and realized that was a bad idea.