I would not ever marry again. waited 25 yrs. Married a controlling abusive younger man who just wanted easy street.

Nice! Short and sweet. I agree and that is basically what I was trying to say.

I understand what you are saying. But for a woman's point of view, when she does find that special someone and feelings are mutual with both parties, the fact that she would be seeking marriage is to feel like she is definitely a part of the family, no woman who wants a lasting relationship to be introduced as his girlfriend all the time because if it goes on too long the pressures from the friends are "So when you two going to hitch up? (reply), We will not be getting married", This is not something couples want to deal with. You could say, we don't plan on getting married but then the friends treat you differently, thinking that it is just a passing thing and that it is not serious enough and find that you are not invited as much as you were before. It is also a status thing, especially if you grew up in a time that marrying someone meant that you loved them, and at my age, it wouldn't have anything to do with being knocked up. My mother married her second husband and they were happy for 30 years until she passed away. She is my proof that a second time is a charm and my father a second time is a charm (still alive). So, why can't it still work for anyone else? Just saying.

been married twice. 3rd time we just lived together. when I arrived at the apartment where I now live I had only the clothes I was wearing.

moral: it doesn't matter if you are married or not when a relationship ends you both loose something even if you are happier and healthier for it, you both still loose.

I personally am old school in that a marriage should last a lifetime. even after all the failed attempts, trials, and tribulations would I do it again? would I take the risk? well she cant take half of nothing, cause she would get nothing for her effort. however even if I ended up with nothing at the end, yes I still would consider getting married again only it would take a lot longer to believe she loved me enough to marry.

They want a Hook up. !

LMAO...THAT WAS GOOD. I LIKE PANCAKES TOO.
l was married for 32 years and was the best years of my life. lost my wife to cancer in March and l never knew how lonely this world could be.l would get married to the right lady in a heart beat..life is to short to spend it alone.

They want No commitment.

Something that has been happening is being called "living apart together". It is a committed relationship but you live separately. They have have no intentions to get married or live together. It was a small article in the recent AARP magazine.

A two year old conversation still going on...


I was married once, to a girl I had met about four years prior to the marriage. She dumped me once during that first four years for an old boyfriend, but eventually cam back. She also went to a party during that time got drunk and spread her legs for a guy on the hood of a car. Well... we got married anyhow (I ignored her serious flaws) only later for find out that she cheated on me twice (after the divorce.) In retrospect I'm better off without her. (the only good thing that came out of it was the kids) She's gone on to hubby #3 now, with just about the same pattern. I wasn't guilt free in this as I more or less took some things for granted... although communication about what was "wrong" wasn't a discussion as much as me getting yelled at. At the time of the divorce, It was something I didn't want... and I'll still not wish a divorce upon anybody. The marriage only lasted six years.

Second marriage. only knew her for a few months before getting married. It lasted almost 17 years before I had to bury her. (Lupus combined with a deadly case of pneumonia. Died once, revived only to have the lupus attack the brain.)

Third time? Not yet. I've learned alot over the years... I'm more picky. I'll make the level of commitment called marriage ONLY with the right woman. I still hold the wedding vows as something serious. I hold sex as much more than a benefit and shouldn't be cheapened by fwb or hookups... (I actually believe its best saved for after marriage. call me old-fashioned or whatever you want on that, doesn't matter to me.)



Now the world around us... everything is being done to undermine traditional families as can be gotten away with. Men get the idea marriage isn't a good idea because she'll clean him out, even if it winds up being only half. People get taught that a marriage isn't necessary for lasting love (in a sense, it's true, but it ignores that marriage is the ultimate level of commitment.) People are taught to look out for #1 in some cases, some cases no instruction is required. (prenups are a symptom of the distrust, the "gold digging", etc. Unfortunately because of the behaviors.)


We've gotten away from some of the past behaviors for marriage we needed to (arranged marriages for a large example)... and we got too many being removed now that are only because of their religious heritage, or they are just too inconvenient for those who don't want the responsibility of the vows, when honored, bring. (it's way too easy to claim "irreconcilable differences" as a reason, and too easy to use it for shallow reasons, IMHO)

So, here I stand, a guy with old-fashioned beliefs and morals (not trending in today's society) who will hold out for the right gal... but I do need to know enough about her to make sure it's not a mistake or a disaster waiting to happen. "Unequally yoked" can be applied to more than just religious beliefs.

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They want to Test the waters !

Photo please :)

There are such things as post-nup contracts. A contract can be made anytime during the marriage, it doesn't have to be before.

Or you can have a pre-nup, then do a post-nup after the ceremony, into the marriage, if something changes.


It's just pre-vows or post-vows.

With the laws today, it is very difficult to remove a housemate out of your house if the relationship is over. Takes a court order to get them out and if they have been there for an extended period of time, it may cost you money! NO THANKS

Hahaha women wants to cut him down!! Man will err once. Again no. Again and again never. He will reduce his size with every experience. He sees his women grow in size with each experience. Men fills her gives pleasures to her but she removes ground from beneath his feet.

Relationship can mean different things to different people.

The first guy wanted a relationship but forgot to tell me it wasn’t only with me.

The second wanted a relationship but only a sexual one.

I think you need to find out more about the person and exactly what relationship means to them. To me, it means more than sex, it means monogamous and it means long term. If it works out, marriage doesn’t matter to me. All I need is a commitment to each other.

Could be they want just to date then move on when they get bored with you.

It could mean that too. That’s why I said long term, not until you get bored.

It means an upgrade from Whataburger to Chili's.

It means I will never find it on mingle.