A man once said "a single man is a smart man". He's single at 67 still not married, very financial secure owns home.

the thing that is most important is to talk to each other and never forget who you are to each other it's not rocket science but the tool empathy goes a long way if you learn how to use it, right girls?

Wrong! You can be the most empathetic person on the face of the Earth, doesn't mean you are willing to commit. Wanting a relationship "but", suggests reservations which basically means not willing to commit.

Some men just want to be single! Those are the ones who should not commit in marriage.

Better to not get divorced

I for one, am not looking to get married or live with anyone. I've had the experience several times after only a few weeks of dating, the guy is talking about marriage. I'm only wanting to date and spend some time together.

well, the first time I got married because we got pregnant(no love) and lost everything...when she fell in love with someone in the US..the second I was overseas and, again lost everything. Found out she was using cocaine and, I left.....

To commit and get hurt over and over again is enough reason to be cautious. I understand that reason from a mans point of view but with women, to me at least, if a man does not want to commit I wouldn’t want to either. I know one has to initiate but I am a woman and I am stubborn as a woman goes lol

Gets? I think I have to check my vocabulary again

I'd like to be married again someday mostly because it is a hassle to get married and divorced. It's a commitment beyond just the trucking to move somebody in with somebody. I like the planning and anticipation involved in a long term relationship. Making plans to drive 8 hours to her parents' for Christmas, wanting to get home from work to tell her about something that happened. I get tired of being alone for years but I'm not interested in the emotional rollercoaster of short term dating, and I wouldn't want a relationship I dreaded going home to, so mostly it's easier to stay alone and speculate. I want the perfect relationship (yeah, right) and if I found it I'd like to take that extra step toward making it more permanent. It's a sign of love and appreciation, a statement that I'm not going to just walk away. It's a partnership that may transcend things like affairs.

I had a simple JP wedding and an easy divorce where we shared one lawyer (34 years ago). It was painful to have the relationship end but not significantly more than any other. After that I dated someone that was manic depressive, we broke up 3 or 4 times and got back together, that was worse than my divorce.

I won't say never but that would have to be one exceptional woman. I was dumb enough to try it 3 times so I'm a slow learner.

Maybe the man doesn't have chemistry with that Woman.

Next to sexual attraction, chemistry rules with many Online!

Oh. Wait, they both are the same.

I have been married once it was for 17 years, then she was lost to cancer. Marriage is a vow a promise, your word and not to be given or taken lightly.
I kept my promise to the very end, now 8 years have past and as I am looking forward to meeting that one person.
I find now though reading and peoples action that most do not have the commitment or ability to keep the vows they make mainly do to they have allowed society change the meaning of those words.

I agree.... After being divorced for many a year, I came to the same conclusion..... Mutual space and being able to just be yourselves.... Martha

Marriage needs to be replaced by a binding, legal contract instead of some undefined "vows"!! Probably 20 or 30 pages would be adequate for most situations.

loved your item on pigs

I am new here and am still trying to get my profile done.
I was wandering around the site and found this discussion. Fascinating.
I hope you don't mind if I put my two cents worth in?
In a time long past marriage was ownership. The Bride was literally property. As time passed further law became a part to give or curtail rights. Today marriage is a legal contract that guarantees rights to both parties. I have seen people who live together for 30+ years and suddenly one becomes ill or dies. The surviving party is left without rights. A great wrong. This is why gay marriage is so important. Marriage is no longer a religious right but a legal necessity to guarantee rights.
Marriage is not a guarantee that a relationship will survive. That requires open honest communication and taking the time to understand one's self and the proposed spouse long before marriage is ever a consideration.

It depends on the man, every man is different.

Are you meeting stringers/confirmed bachelors? because most of them dont want to marry

Guys who have been married once and depending on how the marriage ended are open to the idea of marriage but will hold out for the "right one" for him.

So generalizing about men doesnt make your case.

I 've had Three marriage proposals in the last 9 yrs of dating.
yrs

However, I declined. All three men. Dating is nothing like marriage.

And. I am Very picky! Been through too much in past marriages.

Just because a man asks a woman doesn't mean she will say yes.

3 proposals in 9 years well toody some people have the panache .

heck I know women after 15 years of dating has no proposals, most of their dates are making a beeline to the nearest airport to escape