i have been with my ex off and on for 3 years but the last year i
kiccked him out and he found another chic to move in with just a month
after then asked to marry him anyway since then he has been back an
forth for a year. A couple months with me then a couple with her. back
and forth finaly i had enough. i threw all his clothes away and told him
to leave me alon. well that didnt happen. He still calls and once a
month we have had sex. he has been gone since Aug. what is he doing. He
moved into a new place w her and her sister (he had no where else to go)
but why wont he leave her alone if he is with her. He thinks i have a
new man and everything which i really dont but he dont know that.Finaly
the day after halloween he called again and i told him to never call me
again. His response was do you have a boyfriend? i said I dont owe you a
answer then he said What did he do? I said please dont call me anymore
and then he hung up. What do i do? i really love him but could he really
care about me if he is waking up to her everyday and sayin i love you to
her im sure? help i need some advice!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

well babygurl in that problem i have to say if he really does love you
and care about you than he wouldent be doing these things to hurt you.
You dont want to be miserable in a relashinship your whole life trust me
its not worth it baby. But if you really do care about him than be
honest with him tell him how u feel and str8 up ask him what he wants if
you feel he dosent care or isant intrested than even though it might
hurt just let him go you never know he might come crawling back. But if
it was me i wouldent take him back because like my gurl Nicole says they
hurt you once they will keep doing it .

hugs
shelly

Well if he is not waking up to you every morning saying that too your
face instead he is waking up to another girl telling her those words.
Change your number and move on with out the scum. Sorry girl he is
playing you soo bad it hurts.

Trubble-
When you love someone it is hard to be strong and stand for what you
know you deserve. (His full time and attention)
You just want to be with him and believe in the moment.
With him tho the moment keeps changing.

To allow him this revolving door relationship says he can come in and
treat you however and leave and you will take him back.
To me that is not love. It certainly is not respect.
You need to establish that you demand respect and he can stay where he
is until he can give that to you.
This instability is not healthy and you deserve much better.

Look....Chick Logic will get you more confused.....you said you flipped
and kicked him out...so accept your grief...then plead
and begg, until he gives you another chance...then don,t blow it.

everything these women have told you is true, you do deserve respect,and
its gonna be hard. and telling him how ya feel might not change his
mind or ways but it will make ya feel a whole lot better, so ya can
final get closure and move on.

the only thing i can add is too change your number, ya know whatt they
say out of site out of mind.

Remember..........listening to chicks is what got you in this
mess...............?

I think you did the right thing. This guy you're talking
about invented the phrase "player". Don't worry yourself
over him and find someone who really loves you.
Jim

*shakes head* unbelievable, ontario you have got some messed up views
about relationships

She said she loves him, and he loves her, and she contributed
to her grief, so ending a relationship that can be saved is
foolish,............chick logic.

hello can all of you pls rea dmy poem and let me know what you think its
called LOST LOVE and let me know what you think

I hate to say this but run as fast as you can because the guy is just
jurky your chain just because you know he can. Drop the guy he's only
going to break heart again. You deserve much better and I know how hard
it is to get over a guy your truly in love with but if you stay seeing
him he'll only use you as a door mat. Trust me I been there once too
often myself and those guys never change.

Sounds like a lot of codependant issues darlin.

It's time to listen to your friends and your common sense. Now is time
to ignore your heart. If you do not put closure to this, you will never
heal the wound and never become whole!

She said she loves him....love will find a way to survive and then
she,ll really be howling...!

Love and Herpes differ, only Herpes lasts forever!!

Herpes is a condition. Love is unconditional.

Not sure what you just said ontario but are you saying that she should
stay with him and try and work it out , or just see where they stand and
take it from there:)Cos I say it will take some time for her to get over
him But she will get over trust me She need to find her someone who will
truly treat her right and not an stand by whenever he needs her and
can't get any.

Sounds like the two of you enjoy this game you both play. He leaves you
alone, YOU WONDER WHY, he call or comes by, YOU TELL HIM TO STOP CALLING
AND LEAVE YOU ALONE. What the hell is that? I don't think either of
you knows how to have any other kind of relationship. I've seen alot of
relationships that thrive on this kind of stuff, without it, well, there
just wouldnt be a relationship. It WILL continue this way as long as
you and him allow it. The fact that he has someone else doesnt matter,
because for her to be with him and all this baggage, she's the same
personality type as you. I don't feel bad for any of ya, ya'll deserve
each other, if you don't like that, well, then change your situation!!!!
You've heard the saying, "shit or get of the pot!"

dr chuckee.