Its been almost two years since I dated my exgirlfriend and I can't stop and haven't stopped thinking about her since the day we broke up. I miss her and love her very much but she lives in a different state and has a boyfriend. I've tried not to have contact with her but after a few weeks I cave in. How do I get over her?

date someone else that is how!!!!!!!!!

g-unit in this mother****er

"she lives in a different state and has a boyfriend."

Read that, and enough to tell ya she is not interested in you and time for you to let her go. Good memories are good to remember but when they are with someone else, you are only torturing yourself.

Stop thinking of the what ifs......plenty fish in the sea.

You are dwelling on those could ofs, should ofs and would ofs, accept the fact that she has made a choice that is better for her life, not saying you are not good enough by any means, but people have to make choices and sometimes they do not include people they love or have a connection to. You are not doing yourself any favors by dwelling. Let her go for your own health and well being. Hope that helps

...all ya need is a good sturdy fishing pole and edible bait......go fishing

Does the dating someone else approach really work?
Or is it unfair the to other person if you aren't over
the ex?

Just wondering what other folks think.

Time yo, find distractions.
Filler. Ya know what I mean?
Get into a hobbie or something.

G-Unit get the hell out!! This is a relationship advise forum not a hip hop Gay-Unit stop and shop.


And we dated for two and half years with an engagement right around the corner. but things got to hectic. I love this girl but I do want to move on because I know its not a chance but something won't let me. Sometimes I hate myself for letting her go and hate myself for still loving her.

Yes, you see, the only one that is not over about the ex is him. The ex has moved on. Him focussing on her is keeping him behind. Better if he just go find him a girl and use his energy on her than dwelling on a past where the girl is not interesed in him.

Lesson learned, move on....you don't want her now when someone else's been helping himself in her box, do ya?

I just went through the same exact thing, and I still am in some aspects. However, my ex lives here and does not have a boyfriend. Dating someone else does not work. Only time works, and even then, it doesn't really work all the way. I'm not saying close yourself off to dating someone else, just don't make getting over your ex the only reason you're looking to date. Whatever you do, though, do not stop being yourself. I know it sounds cheesy, but I can't stress enough how important that is. That single act of focusing on who you are and doing all the things you love, without worrying about what someone else thinks, is what will ultimately attract someone else to you for the right reasons. By that point, you may be ready to move on. Best of luck.

A hobby or something? I am a cop. My hobby is staying alive. But when I'm still best friends with her cousin that makes it even harder cuz her family asks questions about us and theres no us but they think it should be. You know how family is, right?

say u do love drama don't u. find some new drama with a new woman or date several at the same time. take one to dinner. take another one to the movies, and another one to church.

u r holding on, and it will do no good. that is unless you plot to get your girlfriend back, and poison her boyfriend. then, the cops will get you, and chances are she will get a little upset.

Thanks tundrabear. That's what I've been trying to do and not do. Meaning dating for the wrong reason. Finally someone who knows my feelings.

Datboi...please do not get involved with anyone else until you have that girl completely out of your system. Counseling is good advise klc! The last guy I dated and was falling for ended our relationship abruptly, without any warning. Dated for 2 months, we were on the phone making weekend plans on a Wed., then the very next day he called and said we couldn't see each other any more...that he still had feelings for his ex girlfriend, (who is by the way, engaged to someone else!).

Anyway, I was and I'd hate to see anyone else go through that same thing.

this is your pride. recognize that there are so many many
fantastic women out there. concentrate on betting yourself
in non-relationship ways - work & education. if you really
loved her then she will always be a part of you. accept
that, through yourself into the other endeavors and allow
yourself to move on to a woman who will feel the same need
for you reciprocally.

then there's always:

How to Break Your Addiction to a Person: When and Why Love Doesn't Work, and What to Do About It by Howard Halpern

I'm sorry shutterbug. That's sad. You have my shoulder if needed.

umm getting and throwing...dam typo gremlins!!

Have lots of friends. That works for me. I am not saying that self torture can't be fun but if only you can enjoy it then what good is it. Eventually even self torture can lose its appeal. I am sure you can find another sadist who can give you good tips. Who knows they might even have a rack or a nice iron maiden that they would be willing to share with you. You might even find one who will take turns on the rack with you. Damn it its my turn to be tortured you got to be tortured the last time.