i have dibs on the iron maiden with the rack!!

I think bear and shutterbug are offering good advice. I am in a similar situation. Only the ex is dating but has not found anyone.
Says she may re-consider us getting back together. I have mixed emotions about the whole situation.

personally i would try and find a new topic to get pity over cuz this one seems lame

2 years is a long time...a very long time. I mean this will respect for you, but you need to move on. You do need to get out there and date. You may always have a place in your heart for her, but waiting for her to "come to her senses and come back to you" isn't going to happen. She doesn't want to be with you, or she would be there now.

So go ahead and try to find someone else. Good luck to you.

CLOSE YOUR EYES AND RUN FULL FORCE INTO A WALL!

..almost a loser???

I totally agree with soldierforamerica!!!!

It shows you are not a strong individual to allow something like this to take over you. I tell ya if you can't figure this one out, you will have a hard time figuring out other important stuff in your life. it sure is a laughing matter.

looking4u52 - do you see how that really look for you what you wrote, letting a woman call the shots when it only suits her? No person is worth it when they treat you like that

i aGREE

if saomeone isnt nice to you you should give it one more try and then get out of dodge

run,fast

thanks I'm running. I thank you all. Your words kind and harsh has been true and that's what I was looking for. Looking for real people. Counselors and theropists are professions, I'm looking for the average Joe. The real people living and making the same mistakes and not judging. I appreciate all of you. Now I'm done with her. I'm moving on. I am a fisherman and America is my ocean. I'm looking for real I'm looking for true I'm looking for my next catch and look out it might be you. It might be hard it might come with ease now good night yall and love, peace and chicken grease. holla atcha boi. I'm out.

Acknowledge what you had w/her, then realize it is part of your past. There are so many women, one day you will feel cheated that you thought of her so much. Try counseling. I have had similar problems forgetting women. You were in love w/her, but maybe she didn't feel the same for you. You can always love her & keep her in that memory place, but there is someone, some woman just right for you out there. Go to church, pray & do acts of kindness for others. Your good heart will benefit someone & eventually be noticed by the right lady. You sound like a good person as I have had similar problems getting over women. Love is cruel. The best way to mend a broken heart is to find love anew. You might want to read some books about how to improve relationships. Sometimes it is best to act like you don't care that much w/women & don't play their silly games. You probably would have liked it better if you had dumped her. Best of luck to you. God bless you. Find love again. You can do it. Just believe in yourself.

I'm with soldierman...sorta of!!!

This is obviously out of your control and has become an obsession!
not to be disrespectful as I'm sure these feelings are very REAL to you! But, it's just down right unhealthy!

Barrie her picture in your shoe,
stop going to all the old familuar places that bring back old memories.
put everything away that reminds you of her.
get involved with your community or a class or real life activity with other people.
Last but not least you may want to seek out a therapist.

Your life will not become your life again, until you learn to let this go!

You let go the illusion of Santa Clause didn't you? She is no different.

This is YOUR life, OWN IT! Don't allow another to OWN it for you.

Just some thoughts

Right on Gams!

Bud you went the right way with this and you have some real good advise that I think Gams has put in a nutshell. It's hard but it'll work.

Good luck

dang y'all. that was deep gams and eddy. Ya I'm leaving for police training at the end of the month and that's why I'm like trying to get my head clear of all unhealthy thoughts which she takes up most of. But yea the whole obsession thing, that was a hit on the head. a bullseye. I've been trying for years now but we'll will see how it goes and I will keep all of you informed. Thanks a million. O and welcome Ken and thanks for your advise as well.

its kinda tha other way arround
i kinda miss her..
she actually loves me still
we broke up cause she didnt truly live her life well and started doin bad things
but she told me she changed and is back with her family being a true girl to herself and so now it makes me wonder if she and i can co exist again<3

just pray about it man. nobody knows the truth except God. you can think that you will make it but if God doesn't want it then it won't happen. Trust me. That's what got this topic started.

The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else! lol

I know that it is going to be hard, but you have to move on with your life. You have to get her out of your mind, for you to be able to move forward....

She obviously was able to do that...I think you should try and do the same for yourself.

just go out on the pull drink ypourself into a coma lol

Go to Disneyworld?