guys, tell me how toget over woth too much feeling of jealousy> is it normal?

I need answers please...I need a good sound advice.... i need to calm myself... :D

of whom are you jealous?
?jealous of the attention given by others to your 'girlfriend'?
??jealous of the performance of a co-worker?
???jealous of a sibling?
A good start would be to have more confidence in yourself and your abilities.

I'ts better to know first the reason why are you jealous

or ask yourself why should I be jealous ?
is it worth it to be jealous on such situation?
is it helpful to our relationship or not?

ps. learn to think first before you react on things..

The less I cared about a woman... The more she wanted to stay. When you master that, you're golden.

Just get over it. Jealousy people have tendancies toward violence. Get a grip before someone get a grip on you. Sorry not good at sugar coating it.

Get some strange....once you realize the one your jealous about doesn't have the only vagina in the world, you're good.

I had to take a peek at your age, sorry by this age you should have mastered jealousy..

Honestly if I have to be jealous then he wasn't mine to begin with cut bait and let him go..

The same with anyone I am with if they are jealous time for them to cut bait since they don't have faith in me.

*Insert platitude or cliche' here*

I get so tired of..."you just have to move on"..."there are many fish in the sea" PLEASE!!!!

So here's another one (sorry)...some meme that probably is trite as well, but struck a chord at the time...

"Love someone in a way that they feel free"


Nuts and Bolts in the real world.....Bite your lip before you say something stupid......and really really search yourself for the trite but true...and not just a song by "Sting"...If you love someone...........

Eeeeew!!! Not meaning to sound like I know anything....just hope not be alone in occasional struggle.

Well said..
This caused me to rethink my post.. I think instead of editing I will build on this one..Since in your own style you put it so eloquently. thanks

There are times humans are jealous yes, and in those times just tell your partner honestly...
Hey babe, I know you are into me and want to be with me but my green eyed monster is trying to show.. Give me a hug and tell me how wonderful you think I am.

IF jealous is constant then there is a huge underlying problem that needs to be addressed

Hmmmm? "green eyed monster*
This just struck as well....with another thing heard...another unoriginal quote. "If envy is green then jealousy is black because it is poison."

I don't think it's uncommon to like and want "things" like a nice car, or house, or fancy clothing, TOY, etc. that one observes someone else having.

Once a being objectifies another being like this. It's just toxic.

Hi rakstar66

It really depends on what this jealousy is all about.
If your girl is flirting with another girl/man, and you are jealous.
Well, I would say that is a normal feeling.
However, if your girl just innocently say hello with a smile
to a fellow worker, and you are jealous. IMO, that is not normal.

Stop it! You are over reacting.

I suggest you talk about it with your girlfriend. Don't let this jealousy consume you. You might end up alone.

Good luck

Well if we are being totally honest most words we write can be construed as useless platitudes of some kind. Even the great philosophers used platitudes of their time and era. Some are apt and some aren't. Yet we all use them to make a point now and then.

Absolutely correct in IMHO it would an oddity not to want, we all want something in life, if we are alive and breathing. Whether the most basic wants and needs or the more grandiose wants. Again it is great to admire and even envy something someone else has.. I myself am guilty of that all the time. Doesn't mean I am jealous of the person that has attained it means I am admiring it.

Once a being objectifies another being like this. It's just toxic. Once this is doing in any way or shape it begins to toxify both people the one that is objectifying and the one that is being objectified. IMHO.


I stand by this statement...

As to the OP's statement of
"toget over woth too much feeling of jealousy"

hi well, she knows im a jealous type but you know i;m not really like that. It's only now that im experiencing this stupid feeling. and god knows how much i hate it... maybe because i caught her twice entertaining suitors even though she's telling me it's nothing..i still can't forget those episodes...honestly, im disabled right now, im crippled and now i can't do any much activity like before..and i think she's tired of looking after me..she always say that every time she's pissed. thanks so much for the advice...

Now that you have explained the situation regarding your physical challenges Rackstar, I understand the insecurity you must be feeling.

I would feel the same way if I were you and Im sorry you are going through that .

You may also want to look at what she is going through. She must really love you to be taking care of you like that, and maybe she feels worn out ,not just by your disability but by the heaviness of your spirit at the moment too.

Take the energies you are using for jealousy and channel it into appreciating and pampering her.

Tell her in detail how much you appreciate everything she is doing for you and that it makes you love her more. Tell her how much more beautiful she is to you since you saw this nurturing side of her. And tell her that you are so sorry that she is feeling burnt out.

Offer to massage her feet and neck and ask her about the stresses of her day and listen to her and respond reassuringly.

And let her know that even though it bums you out a bit when she isnt with you because you are having a hard time with your conditiin, tell her that you understand that she needs some time ti herself to unwind from all the stress.

If you spend all that energy thinking of creative ways to love and appreciate your girl, you wont have a lot of energy left over for insecurity and jealousy. Work on loving her better than any other person could and dont forget to love yourself too because I am sure you still have a lot to offer regardless of your physical limitations

Good luck to you both! :)

Double post

Talk to her about it honestly.
That's at least half the point of relationships.
Being honest with how you feel, and communicating that.

Or are you "really" asking "how do I get her to behave in a way that doesn't cause me to feel jealous?"
Jealousy comes from insecurity.
Her behavior has little to do with your insecurities, you are simply using them to justify feeling a certain way.
You do that either because you have no control over your life or you lost control over your life.

You can't really control what she does but you can influence how she feels, and you control how you feel.
Jealousy is ultimately a game whereby if you can hold her as a scapegoat then due to simple social reciprocity you try to engender feelings of guilt into so her so she'll behave how you want her to in order to make up for making you (and thereby herself) feel bad and thereby reestablish control and security over your life.
Ultimately little different than a baby crying, mom feels bad, gives baby milk.

But that almost never works for very long.
Short term gratification at best.
People resent what are ultimately guilt trips and become more inured to them.

So, if you want to get over "jealousy" then find ways to reestablish control over yourself and your own life that aren't centered around her or what she does, only what you can do for you.


For you? I don't know.
Is jealousy normal?
Yes. People are manipulative pleasure junkies that automatically work to fix feelings of stress by using whatever tools or people are around them, even when unrelated, even if it's not in their own long term self interest, and mostly in ways they don't understand what or why they are doing/feeling something.

it's something you have to work out for yourself... but that green eyed monster is never good in any relationship, and almost all people have to "live and learn" to understand how useless it really is...

turn the tables then.... don't show jealousness, just don't care... and start talking with other ladies as well, but don't cheat... break up with her before that...

Well said!!

now isn't that all messed up