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| Topic: Why is it important to you that a woman sports? | |
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I've noticed that a lot men ask about sports. If you don't actively sport, you're out.
The irony is, it's a male quality to be competitive, not a female one. So quite stupid to judge a woman on not having a male quality  Do you want a competitive, masculine woman or a feminine woman? You don't need to hang out in a fitness center 4x a week in order to be fit. So what's the big deal? |
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Two things are the big deal:
1. If the woman is in to sports in the same way the guy is, they get to do sports stuff together. 2. If the woman is in to sports, the likelihood that she'll start yelling at him to do other things when his favorite sport is going on, might be reduced a bit. Pure practicality, in other words. It fails, of course, like most things do. My ex PRETENDED to like the sports I did until after we were married, then switched to yelling and complaining that I was wasting time on them afterwards. |
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Two things are the big deal: 1. If the woman is in to sports in the same way the guy is, they get to do sports stuff together. 2. If the woman is in to sports, the likelihood that she'll start yelling at him to do other things when his favorite sport is going on, might be reduced a bit. Pure practicality, in other words. It fails, of course, like most things do. My ex PRETENDED to like the sports I did until after we were married, then switched to yelling and complaining that I was wasting time on them afterwards. Ouch! I wouldn't have seen that coming myself. Next time run fast very fast. |
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I've noticed that a lot men ask about sports. If you don't actively sport, you're out. Apparently, some of the men here think that sex is a sport. 
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I've noticed that a lot men ask about sports. If you don't actively sport, you're out. Apparently, some of the men here think that sex is a sport. Ah, yes ... that's a different ballgame ... |
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Two things are the big deal: 1. If the woman is in to sports in the same way the guy is, they get to do sports stuff together. 2. If the woman is in to sports, the likelihood that she'll start yelling at him to do other things when his favorite sport is going on, might be reduced a bit. Pure practicality, in other words. It fails, of course, like most things do. My ex PRETENDED to like the sports I did until after we were married, then switched to yelling and complaining that I was wasting time on them afterwards. Hmmm... why would you want to do sports stuff together? That could cause even more problems, i.e. if I'm into Tai Chi and he hates that and wants to play footy. Or he's into a team sport, which I really hate, and I'm into solo sport, like martial arts. As for No2 ... if you can't let the other go out when he/she wants to do an activity like a sport ... I think I'd even want to be in that relationship I like painting, but if I'd do painting classes, I wouldn't even want him there. Unless he was into painting too, fair enough. But I don't want to be glued together with my partner. |
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I dress up in full sports' gear and then watch the game on TV...does that make me a sportsman or what???
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I actually like some sports... I love bass fishing, I used to ice climb, I snow shoe, ride a mountain bike, run road races, kayaking, hiking... and Patriots football. I can watch 'some' other sports on TV but it's likely soccer, rugby, gymnastics, skating... I'd rather be out doing sports like activity than watching it. However, I'm not a sports fanatic, and have no desire to have back to back games running on the TV, or every weekend taken up with sports. ... so, I guess balance is the key???
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I actually like some sports... I love bass fishing, I used to ice climb, I snow shoe, ride a mountain bike, run road races, kayaking, hiking... and Patriots football. I can watch 'some' other sports on TV but it's likely soccer, rugby, gymnastics, skating... I'd rather be out doing sports like activity than watching it. However, I'm not a sports fanatic, and have no desire to have back to back games running on the TV, or every weekend taken up with sports. ... so, I guess balance is the key??? choosetobe, you were doing good until you said "Patriots football". Go Broncos!  
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Drummers are exempt!
You know that! |
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I think its the same thing with any passion really. ..
for example I like to travel, I think its more fun to travel with someone so if I was looking for someone...some one who doesn't like traveling is out. Not that they have to go on every trip, but I'd like them to accompany me to as many destinations as they're comfortable with..without me wondering the whole time if they're miserable or not. ..it takes away from my joy in an activity I like doing. Sports I'd assume are similar some if the guys it is a passion, they thoroughly enjoy the game, and they want to share in the excitement of it with someone else...... you like to paint, while you may not want the guy painting with you...imagine foe a second you paint a great piece and show your significant other. ...and his response was something akin to "that's nice, but really a waste...couldn't you have found something else to do with your time?" Im sure whatever initial joy you may have had would change to something else..... |
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I like going to the gym .. It keeps my body toned and fit :-) i don't see any guys having a problem with their woman being toned and fit... 
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going to the gym <3
doing my sport also watching all those lovely guys with weights those arms chest working leg muscles.. when they offer me help with some machines wuhuuu sorry i got lost again :s what was the question? |
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Why is it important to you that a woman sports? It's not, to me. I hate team sports. But I see a lot of female profiles that talk about their favorite (american) football team and say they love sports. Whenever I read that, they tend to be "out" for me. Simply because they talk about it, or refer to it, so much in their profile it's no different than a religion. Instead of "god" they just use "steelers" or "packers" or whatever. I've noticed that a lot men ask about sports. If you don't actively sport, you're out. IMO this isn't all that clear. Sometimes that's all they have to talk about. They may be asking you a lot about sports because it's the season and that's all they are interested in. And if you can't participate in that conversation then "you're out" simply because they think they can't give you what you want, your interests are different, they know you won't be happy with them. It's not so much they are rejecting you for a lack of sports, but preemptively avoiding being rejected because that's all they are. Other times your perspective on sports may be an indication of your personality. Especially if you say anything disparaging. And a lot of people treat their sports like their religion. So you may say something like "I just can't get behind, understand, or give a crap about (insert sport here)" and to them it's the same as you saying "you're stupid for believing how you do," and quite possibly, "I'm going to try and change it." The irony is, it's a male quality to be competitive, not a female one That's not really true. Human beings are competitive. They just don't compete in the same ways. Men compete in things like to see who has the bigger penis and muscles. Women compete in things like to have the bigger boobs and heart. Men would be more interested in seeing a show about race cars and weight lifting. Women would be more interested in seeing a show about fashion and romance. It's all competition. But just because a woman doesn't like to watch a show about race cars and weight lifting doesn't mean she's not watching competition. Not to mention, most sports aren't only about competition. They're also about cooperation. A bunch of guys cooperating together in order to compete against another group of guys cooperating. Very few popular one on one sports. Boxing? MMA? Tennis? Golf (although they have caddy's)? vs. (american) football, soccer, basketball, baseball, volleyball, cricket, field hockey, rugby, polo, car racing, hockey. Most sports cooperation (teamwork) is just as, if not more so, important than "competition." So quite stupid to judge a woman on not having a male quality Not really stupid to judge a woman incompatible if she can't understand it more deeply than "men like competition, women don't." Do you want a competitive, masculine woman or a feminine woman? When you apply for a job do you fill out a CV or resume, touting your skills and abilities? If so OMG! you're being competitive! Might as well get SRS Mr. Woman! You don't need to hang out in a fitness center 4x a week in order to be fit. Is that what you are referring to when you say "a woman sports?" Like in the guys profile it's "if you don't go to the gym and look fit, I don't want to date you?" If so, then maybe it's not that you have to "sport" so much as just not be fat. And not just be not fat, but also not just "let yourself go" as soon as you get a date/boyfriend/spouse. They may be old hands at online dating and looking for some way to avoid the sad sack women online that spout things like "it's only what's inside that counts! Get to know me!" Then they're just avoiding saying "no emotionally insecure fat chicks" in their profile, because that makes them look bad. A woman that leaves the house to go to the gym at least leaves the house and isn't a netflix nester waiting for some guy to come by and make them feel okay for not really doing anything or wanting anything more than selfish validation. So what's the big deal? I don't know. I think it would depend on what exactly their profile or emails said about it. |
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I like watching baseball, ok?....
I like the Yankees and I like to watch them play anybody... I will watch the Bluejays too I like that sport...sue me |
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Drummers are exempt! You know that! Good point!  
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Edited by
SparklingCrystal 💖💎
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Fri 04/08/16 02:14 AM
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Oops ... double
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I like watching baseball, ok?.... I like the Yankees and I like to watch them play anybody... I will watch the Bluejays too I like that sport...sue me Sue you? Nah. You already inflict enough punishment on yourself.
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Why is it important to you that a woman sports? It's not, to me. I hate team sports. But I see a lot of female profiles that talk about their favorite (american) football team and say they love sports. Whenever I read that, they tend to be "out" for me. Simply because they talk about it, or refer to it, so much in their profile it's no different than a religion. Instead of "god" they just use "steelers" or "packers" or whatever. I've noticed that a lot men ask about sports. If you don't actively sport, you're out. IMO this isn't all that clear. Sometimes that's all they have to talk about. They may be asking you a lot about sports because it's the season and that's all they are interested in. And if you can't participate in that conversation then "you're out" simply because they think they can't give you what you want, your interests are different, they know you won't be happy with them. It's not so much they are rejecting you for a lack of sports, but preemptively avoiding being rejected because that's all they are. Other times your perspective on sports may be an indication of your personality. Especially if you say anything disparaging. And a lot of people treat their sports like their religion. So you may say something like "I just can't get behind, understand, or give a crap about (insert sport here)" and to them it's the same as you saying "you're stupid for believing how you do," and quite possibly, "I'm going to try and change it." The irony is, it's a male quality to be competitive, not a female one That's not really true. Human beings are competitive. They just don't compete in the same ways. Men compete in things like to see who has the bigger penis and muscles. Women compete in things like to have the bigger boobs and heart. Men would be more interested in seeing a show about race cars and weight lifting. Women would be more interested in seeing a show about fashion and romance. It's all competition. But just because a woman doesn't like to watch a show about race cars and weight lifting doesn't mean she's not watching competition. Not to mention, most sports aren't only about competition. They're also about cooperation. A bunch of guys cooperating together in order to compete against another group of guys cooperating. Very few popular one on one sports. Boxing? MMA? Tennis? Golf (although they have caddy's)? vs. (american) football, soccer, basketball, baseball, volleyball, cricket, field hockey, rugby, polo, car racing, hockey. Most sports cooperation (teamwork) is just as, if not more so, important than "competition." So quite stupid to judge a woman on not having a male quality Not really stupid to judge a woman incompatible if she can't understand it more deeply than "men like competition, women don't." Do you want a competitive, masculine woman or a feminine woman? When you apply for a job do you fill out a CV or resume, touting your skills and abilities? If so OMG! you're being competitive! Might as well get SRS Mr. Woman! You don't need to hang out in a fitness center 4x a week in order to be fit. Is that what you are referring to when you say "a woman sports?" Like in the guys profile it's "if you don't go to the gym and look fit, I don't want to date you?" If so, then maybe it's not that you have to "sport" so much as just not be fat. And not just be not fat, but also not just "let yourself go" as soon as you get a date/boyfriend/spouse. They may be old hands at online dating and looking for some way to avoid the sad sack women online that spout things like "it's only what's inside that counts! Get to know me!" Then they're just avoiding saying "no emotionally insecure fat chicks" in their profile, because that makes them look bad. A woman that leaves the house to go to the gym at least leaves the house and isn't a netflix nester waiting for some guy to come by and make them feel okay for not really doing anything or wanting anything more than selfish validation. So what's the big deal? I don't know. I think it would depend on what exactly their profile or emails said about it. Nice post, don't agree with everything, but nice anyways. And no, I don't tout my skills on my CV. I actually think it sux you have to do that. CVs are just a load of BS, and every employer will know that too. It's being forced to lie, make things look prettier than they are, being forced to be competitive. Then you have to lie some more at an interview to pretend you're the nr 1 employee of the world. Doesn't feel good to me at all. I don't like lying, pretending and competing. Yes, I know men bond with their sports, but women bond in different ways. Women being competitive with one another (read envious as far as I'm concerned) is also masculine energy based. We've been reared with that in a patriarchal society. Still doesn't make it a typical female quality to be competitive. It's usually the less self-confident/empowered women who behave in such a childish way. In men such competitive behaviour is healthy, in women it's more like stabbing each other in the back, and is often received that way too. The part about not wanting a fat woman, possibly. But we don't have obese people like you do in the States btw. Sure there's women that are overweight, but usually they still fit in one chair. In short, I think it's very narrow-minded, but alas... that does say something about them I guess. |
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For me it's simple. I like a lot of different sports, so I would like to talk with a woman who likes those also. Preferably my teams, as it's a commonality that we share.
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