good day my good friends of mingle2, I know its been a while I post my hot teas, shots out again to all my posted " opinion minions" out in about. I want to talk about "what's Your Excuse" when you on a date and it seems go stale. I give you a scenario, its a Friday night, you just finished up a hard week of school or work. You made a date night with your beau, you picked the restaurant. you was so excited you arrived first at the restaurant. shortly later, your date walks in, okay you like what you see, that person cute, dresses very nice , smell good, & very polite and intelligent, great right? they are exactly what you like and wanted. somewhere in the night you feel like " oh no, this person is Blank", I got to get out of here. what do you do? do you be honest and let them down easy and leave? do you pretend to have a fake call to interrupt the date and escape? or do you cuss them out give them a piece of your mind? Now we all been there where you had to use a escape tactic once or twice in our lives. So lets drink to my freshly made hot tea of a juicy topic and don't hold back. I'm involved now but when I was dating one of my biggest tactic if it was going great fine. if its going horribly wrong, I have a male buddy to come into the restaurant by signaling him to play his part and he would play as if my car was blocking his and can I move it so he can park, then I leave....I know its kind of mean but I'm a softy to the human heart. so lets have your best eascape tactic......later!

"Blank" is good... I can work with blank. Sometimes love takes longer than dinner... or a cuppa' coffee.

to maxsterx

main man I can respect that sometimes it do takes more than dinner to see if chemistry is there. other times you feel like no way....my only thing is don't let them leave without paying the tab......lol

Lol

. I finish the date with them..
And look them straight in the eye and say ...it was a pleasure meeting them but I don't think it's going to be a match.. I wish them the best of luck reassure them that there is someone out there for them that would be far better for them than me... and go on my Merry way...ok.. one exception to the rule.. if during the dinner date..
She lets me know she wants to sleep with me.. that evening..well..lol..

I would finish what I committed to.
If it got awkward later when I did not
return calls..I would move to Thebes.

Yes I would finish the date, pay for myself.
And be honest with him.
Telling him I'm not interested in him.

If he's a real looser I get a text within an hour of the date then I can decide from there whether to stay or go.

Mine would be "I've called the police."
Things would have to be extremely bad for me to give an excuse to a date.
I try not to give excuses at all.


If I feel I have to immediately leave then I tell them I'm leaving without giving them a reason or excuse.
The only reason to explain, justify, reason, or offer excuse is solely to try and either avoid conflict, uphold some sort of "good person" image (avoid judgment), or try to placate them because we will have to be around each other again.

If none of those matter, why go through the script as though it does.


Only with family or a boss, because I knew I would talk to them and interact with them again, as a means to conserve time immediately as well as the relationship.
Like "Sorry grandma, I have to go now, someone's at the door, I gotta go to work, my phone is running out of power and I need to find the charger," when I have bad diarrhea or something and she's been talking non stop.

For dating, escape tactics seem like a very bad idea.

I've never need one, although I'm sure a few have been used on me to avoid a date in the first place. My favorite one was a women that told me I was too young for her, and less then a week latter I found out she was dating someone more then five years younger then me.

`I would see the date through to the end, thank him for taking me out and tell him that he was a great guy but that we didnt feel like the right fit for each other and suggest that we both keep looking.

Like Annie, I wouldn't have a problem with paying my part of the bill

"Sorry. My dead dog just texted me from the grave and said that you hate animals. Sheesh! And to think I was already falling for you. I am sorry....but we are through....as soon as I have dessert....have you tried the fried ice cream here? Oh! It is to die for."

And then I leave and block them from all forms of social media.

This sounds believable lol
I might try it lol

To be honest I would not bail, I would try to refocus the conversation, let them take the lead and ask questions and maybe things would pep up a little. Picking a place where the food is really good always helps, after I would pay and make sure they got home but I would not advance past that point, then let things fizzle out.

Thats the spirit jacktrades! :)


When dealing with people, whether dealing with a date , or a stranger who crosses my path on the street, i always ask myself how i would want to be treated and STRIVE to bestow that treatment on the other person.

If the roles were reversed and you liked your date, but your date thought you were the king or queen of all that is LAME, how would you want them to treat you?

Ps: I dont always succeed in being noble in every situation , but I will never stop working on it :)

Please do, and then give me the details on how effective it was.

My son went on a blind date to a movie and I guess things were not going well... They got seated, he went to get the snacks - and left her there. How rude! I gave him the whatfor for that.

Ooopps! just remembered I have a cake in the oven.. we got to scram

no1phd

well a guy that breaks it down sternly I respect ya buddy keep posting

soufiehere,

one of my favorite " opinion minion" see I like a woman who avoid breaking of ones heart. you very sweet I love that

annierooroo,

I also love a woman like you that makes up her mind quickly. shes like lets cut to the chase we're not happening....lol