Rains for me shopping is really dependent on my mood. There are times I am done as fast as most guys are in bed

Then if I am looking to waste time or am bored, I can wander in stores and take longer than it takes the IRS to do an audit.

Peggy I have learned to accept some tasteful tattoos, although I still believe that a woman's body looks beautiful naturally.

The piercings I have developed acceptance for the tongue ring, the naval piercing, but noses, lips, and intimate parts still seem wrong to me.

But then I am old (dinosaur) and still hold some pretty old school values.

Thanks for the reply graygent.Actually your opinion might not be as old fashioned as you suspect. I am actually not sure how younger guys as a whole feel about the unusual piercings either.

To answer the tattoo, piercings question.

I'll admit, I'm kinda weird when it comes to that. Sometimes it depends on if the piercing ends up looking good or not. Majority of the time I get turned off by a lip piercing.

Tattoos are subject to usually if the art looks good. I admit I'm not into a lot of tattoos or large pieces on a female. Of course it might be, because I don't have any ink, and don't plan on getting any done on me.

I agree with those that say going to the Mall and "shopping" with someone is a good way to get a true impression of who they are.

Personally I prefer it hands down to the set across the table 20 questions grill and drill since I like being able to move around and few people like being intterogated. And you put someone in the hot seat they will say what they think you want to hear.

It is hard to fake a persona when you are moving around a Mall and interacting with multiple people. Even if it is peripheral. I always figure how a person treats others is a good predictor how they will treat me eventually. Show off, be rude to a clerk, butt in front of someone in line, try to get over on a sale, or trash the display and walk away I notice.And it is probably the only date.

I often see people show exactly how they would treat me in a relationship too. Tell me something useful about what I am looking at, offer to lift something off the shelf to look at it, even offering to take a rest break when we have been walking around and not be too pushy about what I am or will not buy or pressing me for getting into a car or go into a store I feel offensive tells me a lot. Walk around sighing and being a cry baby whiner or picking other people to pieces I know what will NOT be ahead for me. lol Respecting boundries and communication is the corner stones of a good relationship. A guy who forces a greeting hug, gets grab *** is likely to get smacked but a gentleman who lets me ease into feeling he is comfortable in my personal space will definitely move up in the attraction scale. A gentleman that opens the door or with a light hand on my back so we look like a couple is more likely to become a couple.

I do not take a man to the mall to see if he spends money on me but I do notice how he would spend money and if it is consistently looking to buy bling or just throw down money to get it over with I know we are going to be in debt. I know if a guy buys me a small sentimental gift while we are shopping he is interested in future dates or at least wants to be memorable. If it is something cliche or suggestive I figure he is a player.

If he is keeping track of what I spend or what a mall cookie costs you can bet I will not bother to spring for an expensive BBQ patio party to meet my friends or a home cook meal as my turn at hosting a date. I am not penniless and resent a guy who has to be so macho I can't offer to treat for a chocolate but if he is such a miser or entitled that he is eating off my plate or hinting that a meal is his ticket to look down my blouse or check out the waitress *** I know he is a pimp daddy at best and probably going to be a financial bully in a relationship.

What a guy carries in his wallet often tells a lot about himself. If it is packed with (at limit) credit cards, has a photo of his kids or parents versus his motorcycle, has some cash but it is all big bills but no change for tips or parking meters it all tells me something about him. I am not going to be impressed if he has to flash a condom in his wallet but I do like a guy who at least protects himself by having one. And an insurance card. I do not want to end up being a nurse for someone who has done nothing to take care of his own health. A guy who asks me to sneak candy into a theater in my purse tells me straight up he is going to let me take the fall for him or expect to be babied. I pretty much figure a guy who can not turn his phone off on a short afternoon at the mall is going to be a work-a-holic that will only squeeze me into his life as a trophy or and accessory wife not a real partner.

The most significant way to see how a relationship is really going to go is to seriously up front pay attention to the little things. Make decisions about who you are going to bring in your life before you get all pumped up on hormones and romance. Definitely get to know him before you get in a situation where he can hurt you like a car date. I am way more impressed by a man who shows a little common sense about who he will date by a preliminary date at a mall before he gets himself in a mess going to some woman's house or trying to make time with her on her job. I figure he is way less likely to have some crazy ex wife or girlfriend that is going to make the future miserable. I figure I am being sized up as much as I am sizing him up. At least I hope so. I don't want a man who is so desperate that he will just attach to any female that will give him a chance.

Is it judgmental to make choices that work for your life with a clear head. Yea maybe but it is also smart and fair to you and you can't be fair to anyone else if you are not first fair to yourself. And how fair is it to be with someone who you will ultimately end up hating?

i think women should dress beautiful

why does short woman like tall guys???

Giantowl...

If you are being serious here, I would encourage you to rethink it.

I believe a lot of women ignore mails that start with Hey Sexy, baby , love etc.

I even added a note about it in my profile.

You can't guarantee a favorable response even with a different approach, but you are almost guaranteed to get ignored with greetings like those

Some of the tips you gave here are great for detecting certain red flags in a man Star. I hope more of the women read it :)